can't stop stressing

[zaydensmomma]

I found out my fiance has been talking to another girl. I woke up one morning and noticed his phone had continued to go off for at least 10 minutes straight,  all messages from another girl. I opened them and wished I didnt. All the messages were her calling him baby, asking why he was ignoring her. Saying she hopes he isn't out flitting with other girls and a message saying good morning baby and etc. He had told her in one message he was thinking about her. I'm so hurt. I can't believe he could do this to me. If this had happened to anyone else I would say leave him  but now that it's happened to me I just feel so confused and lost. He told me he was only flirting with her occasionally and nothing more. He said he did it because I have been too hard on him lately. I feel so dumb. I don't know what to believe. I just can't believe he could do this to me. I'm 5 months pregnant with his baby and he's our talking to other girls. I need someone to talk to. I can't stop thinking that he will talk to her again even though he said he wouldnt. I'm So Hurt. He is all I have. I have no friends no one to confide in. My family  would tell me how stupid I am and to leave him but it's not that simple when u love the person and have been through so much with them. I never imagined a day without him and thinking of a life without him is even scarier. I can't support my baby without him and I can barley even take care of myself. Plus I was supposed to move in with him. I'm supposed to move in soon too and can't raise my baby at my mom and dad's house. I'm so upset.  I tried to just forget about it but I'm having bouts that he didn't block her number like he said he did. Ugh I wish if this was gonna happen at least he could have waited to be a jerk till after the baby or something not when I'm 5 months pregnant and rely on him for evertything. Advice?

[ericatoday]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. With my first pregnancy my baby daddy cheat on me at 3 months preg. I ended marrying him worst mistake of my life I am now happily divorced. Don't give in to his excuses. If he talks to girls during such a crucial time during your relationship just because its hard he'll do it again. Stay strong

[Jessika20]

I went through the same problem with my fiance. I found out when I was 5 months pregnant that he had cheated with one of the girls he use to work with. Mind you the way I found put was not a good way either. I told him he needs to cut off all communication with her or he will not be seeing me my son or pur daughter again. Mind you my 2 year old is not his biological son but he's raised him since he was 1. He left that job but still continued to talk to her. So I told him that if he didn't end it right then an there I will end it for him, he ended it in front of me an that was that. It took me a while but I finally forgave him an started to give him my trust again. No matter what happens you will always have that feeling in your heart that he will do it again. You just have to have faith an trust him enough to never do it again. I am now 9 months pregnant an haven't had any problems with him talking to other women. Just sit him down tell him what he needs to do an trust me if he really loves you he will do what is right for you an his baby.

[mommy_of_redheads]

I went threw something similar after I had my first daughter just remember everybody makes mistakes I was so upset and hurt I felt betrayed but we where only 19 just graduated and met right out of high school we are 23 well he is 24 and happily engaged we don't have those problems anymore just pray about it ppl can change however you can do it alone if you have to I know that you are a strong women that will no doubt be able to handle whatever life throws at you God bless

[jasmine_ramirez]

I believe that sacrificing your happiness for our children is not worth it. They grow up and leave sometimes don't appreciate what we do for them. I would tell you to follow your heart stop thinking about it keep yourself busy and give it some days and then decide. Good luck

[lizznjeff]

I'm so sorry you are going threw this. I had the same problems with my fiancé but to find out he actually slept with her. Multiple times...I confronted the girl. Don't let him sit there and say she already knows and yet he won't let you talk to her. That's a lie. I would tell him that if he truely loved you and your baby he would let you talk to her. And if he won't then he ain't worth your time

[mayrs]

You definitely should leave him even though it will hurt a lot. But you can't let him walk all over u, u don't deserve that. U still have ur parents & a place to stay so don't bother moving in with him. When the baby is born let him pay for child support & see the baby every now & then. & I'm sorry for what you're going through I wish u the best

[monie2]

Ikno. Its hard cause your prgo but you can do it without him yu dnt dersve to be treated like that god brought this too your eyes for a reason

[zaydensmomma]

I tried to talk to her but he won't let me talk to her. Which makes me more suspicious. He tells me she already knows he is engaged with a baby otw and apparently she's a big hoe and doesn't care. I'm just so hurt I know leaving is what's right but it's also hard especially when I wanted this perfect life for my son. It's hard to imagine my life without him. I want to try and work things out for the sake of our relationship and our son but I'm feeling so betrayed and lied to. Even if they never slept together it still hurts that he could even talk to someone else

[denielle1224]

If you  are going to try and stay demand to talk to he other girl. She will be willing to tell you anything that has happened between them. Tell her you.are five months pregnant and that your man will no longer be contacting her. She will feel just as hurt and betrayed as you.

[stay_strong0914]

Leave him what else is he doing behind your back is the question he's lying to you I have been through this and it only gets worse !

[Momtothesecondpower]

It is very possible for you to do this without him by your side! Don't let him treat you like that you will always wonder what he is doing then your little one will pick up the same bad habits if it is a girl she will get walked on and lied to if it is a boy he will do another girl like that!! And believe me you do not wish he would wait my ex lied to me the whole time I was pregnant and found out sixonths after my son was born it hurts just as bad don't let him do it! Moving in will do nothing but make him think he can do what ever he wants let him miss you and maybe he will straighten up or maybe you will realize what a loser he is in that time!!!!

[zaydensmomma]

It's so crazy because I actually thought that he loved me. I feel so stuck right now. I don't feel loved anymore. I feel like a freaking idiot.

[RockRose]

zaydensmommy,  since you are living with your parents still,  you do have support and a place to live.  You don't have to rely on him for everything.

Don't move in.  This is a huge crossroads in your life - whether you cut off support from everyone and leave yourself stranded with no where else to go but this guy's house.  

Although it seems right now that breaking up would be hard,  this guy's a player.  

You still have options in your life.  Use your brain,  and not your heart.

[cocob13]

Awww I'm soo sorry you are going through this especially in this time of your lives where your suppose to be happy because your having a baby together. I don't know what I would do if I was in your situation then only thinf I have dealt with was my husband watching porn after I asked him not to and he told me he wasn't and lied to me about It until I finally caught him. There will always be that little trust issue for us but this is ten times worst and You will alwayss be worrying about what he is doing and who he is with. If you need someone to talk to I'm here. You definitely need a friend in this situation