dealing with MIL and nursery

[kitcat2015]

I found out this morning that I'm expecting a baby girl.  My MIL is super excited and I know for a fact she wants to be super hands on with everything.  She's very artsy craftsy and that's fine, but we don't share the same taste in style for a lot of things.  I have a theme idea for the nursery and posted it online for a friend to see.  My MIL jumps in and posts something related to my theme that looks really tacky.  My concern is that she's going to be upset that I don't like her taste which will result in an argument between me and my husband. My husband has told her not to get me certain things before because I wouldn't like them, but she went and did it anyway.  

I don't want her input or help in decorating the nursery, but I know she will bug my husband about it or just buy something she finds cute to help decorate.  I appreciate the gesture, but I don't want her to feel hurt because she doesn't understand what I like.  Any suggestions on what to do?

[RockRose]

kitcat,  she needs a job.  Some project that would have a nice affect on the family and give her some input.

I'm of the generation of your MIL and honestly,  I am in shock about how much they meddle in the new grandbaby's stuff.  In my case,  if my friend is the mother of the soon to be mother,  all goes well.  If she's the mother of the soon to be father,  I always wonder how the pregnant mom is taking all this well meant interference.

I recommend the book linked below.  It's called "A Grandparents Book" and it asks all kinds of question about family history,  the grandparent's lives,  etc.,  and if she fills this thing out she won't have a moment to spare before the baby arrives.  ;D  I bought 4 copies - for all 4 grandparents - and I cherish them.  Fabulous,  fabulous information.

But anyway,  that will keep her busy for awhile if you make a big deal of out of it.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0895866552/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=43478865327&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=823237046596107597&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_1xewhpq1xd_b

[mfayb]

That kind of sounds like a manipulation technique to me :/ but of course I don't personally know her.

[mfayb]

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[kitcat2015]

She'd be upset as in sad, not angry.  I'm not sure about shopping with her.  The last time I had an outing with her, she jumped to conclusions and broke out in tears before I could explain anything.  I don't know how to deal with an overly excited and easily emotional person.

[mfayb]

My mil is exactly the same way. But my husband is great about putting his foot down. I don't really have a problem either. She can tell by my face lll

[River_Melody]

If she buys something you don't like don't use it. Or go shopping with her and show her what you like, if you simply make it known you don't have the same taste in things, and if she buys things you don't like she would just be wasting her money. She can't be mad that your taste differs from her's. If she is then tell her that it's silly to be mad over something so trivial.