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My husband kicked me out yesterday. He said he wants a divorce because he doesnt love me anymore. This is all so sudden, and a shock to me, because i thought we had a great marriage. My question is, i want to move outside the country, im 7 months. My question is can i fly on plane across the ocean when im 7 months? Can he sue me for kidnapping his child even though he's not born yet? I know he wouldnt allow for me to move once the baby's born, but whats the difference if i move while im still pregnant? What are my rights?
I would go seek legal advice before you make a decision and see your doctor about flying good luck
If hes gunna kick u out when you pregnant then oh well... dont worry bout him he aint worrien bout you kickn u out at 7 mo pregnant. U cant get kkidnapping charges if the baby aint born. Im sorry thats happening to u but do what u guta do for u and your bby
Evidently he don't give a **** about you, but more so about your child he can kick you out pregnant. That is beyond crazy. I would just leave if I were you. The baby's not here yet soit would be best and easier to do it now if you are absolutely sure on that's what you want to do. Good luck hunny! I hope everything works out.
Just go, do what you have to do he obviously isn't worried to much kicking you out heavily pregnant so don't worry about him and do what you feel is the best option for yourself and your soon newborn baby
I'd personally seek legal advice as it is his child and some states/countries have very specific policies on parents taking children away. As horrible as it is that he doesn't want to be with you that doesn't automatically make him a bad father and it doesn't give you the right still to take away his rights. Alternatively you could get his consent to move and that way u won't have legal hassles depending how amicable things are. Good luck and sorry to hear
First of all you can definitely fly at 7 months no problem. So move far away and never look back.
Secondly do bot give the baby his last name. Since the child is unbor, the father has no legal rights as of right now. The first thing I would do once I move is get full custody. It's so simple !
Secondly do bot give the baby his last name. Since the child is unbor, the father has no legal rights as of right now. The first thing I would do once I move is get full custody. It's so simple !
The problem is we are still married and i have his last name and it will take months until we are divorced. He also said he will do everything to take away my baby from me. He has a well paid job and a house and he says he will sue me for being uncapable parent because i have nothing
I would ask attorney in U.S. And also investigate attorney in the country you're moving to about his, baby's, and your legal rights if baby is born in the other country. This sounds very tricky with citizenship laws in 2 countries. If baby is born somewhere else and dad is not listed I wonder if baby can be U.S. Citizen--or if that matters to you or not.
Well your username needs to be changed from "marijuana19" for starters. I'm assuming you're 19 years old and an avid user of a drug that is not yet legal in many states...I was married and pregnant at 18. Husband did drugs, I didn't. So I kicked him out, I wasn't having that around my kid. Divorce took a year because he refused to sign any papers. I was divorced at 19. Now I'm happily married to my best friend, but it took a lot of growing up... I'm not trying to be mean, I promise. I'm only being real. If he is going to seek out a lawyer, the lawyer will look at everything they can gather to bring against you. EVERYTHING. My lawyer did it to my ex. However, my ex was doing hardcore drugs and ended up getting a rap sheet to prove it. And he cannot sue you for being an incapable parent. If you have a roof over your head and your baby is fed and bathed, living in a clean home, dfacs usually won't get involved. Not having a job is not the worst thing a parent can do. I'm telling you from experience, fix all of your dirty laundry. He will try and put it all in your face if he has a lawyer. Good luck
Ps-i just realized your username is marijana19. So if that's actually your name, I apologize. And if you do not live in the US, divorce is probably different.
well if your married in most countries you are entitled to half of everything he owns.... so you dont have nothing. if he kicked you out of the home while your pregnant that only proves he is an incapable and uncaring parent since his child currently resides in you. And generally most courts pick the mother to be the primary care giver, unless the mother is completely incapable. when you have this child even during a separation your ex will have to pay not only child support but spousal support from the sounds of it to insure you are able total care of this baby. id seek legal advice to confirm all this but i think as much as getting the hell out of there seems appealing it could back fire on once divorce proceedings start. and im assuming you have your dr. or midwife where you live now. i wouldn't interrupt your prenatal care now.
Whoa, awful advice here! Do not leave the country. That is his baby, too, whether you like it or not.
marijana, I'm so confused by this. I've followed your story on here and you have the cutest engagement pic.
You're a newly wed, it sounds like he really wants to be a dad and you are very shocked and surprised he's kicked you out.
It sounds like you were off to a great start.
What in the world has caused this, do you really not know?
(I think you need legal assistance. I don't know if anyone in this thread knows about custody laws in Croatia.)
You're a newly wed, it sounds like he really wants to be a dad and you are very shocked and surprised he's kicked you out.
It sounds like you were off to a great start.
What in the world has caused this, do you really not know?
(I think you need legal assistance. I don't know if anyone in this thread knows about custody laws in Croatia.)
My name is Marijana not marijuana, im sorry that confused you.
@RockRose i thought we had it great too. One day we had a romantic dinner and everything was great. I wake up next morning, he asked me if i was happy with him. I said i am happy. He asked if im happy all the time. I said of course sometimes im sad but generally i am happy. Then he asked me what would i do if i was unhappy all the time. I asked whats wrong and he said he is feeling unhappy with me. That he lost all feelings for me and he thinks this marriage was a mistake and he wants a divorce. I was shocked... he said he's been considering it for months already but he finally came to a final decision. He cant go on anymore. He wants to break it off as soon as possible and not when its too late. He says its better for the baby than to grow up in an unhappy family. He said i make him miserable and he wants to seperate. I was shocked and thought its a joke. He said he's been faking all this time to see if he will feel anything again. But he realized he's only more and more miserable. I didnt do anything wrong. I thought he was the one and that we will have a family together. He kept making me feel like that all this time.
my family and friends think his family had a big role in his decision. i dont know if you read any of my last posts. But his mom was really unsupportive.
I wish i knew how he was feeling before and maybe i couldve made a difference. But i had no way of knowing, everyone thought we were so lucky and happy together and so did i.
It just doesnt seem like him.
@RockRose i thought we had it great too. One day we had a romantic dinner and everything was great. I wake up next morning, he asked me if i was happy with him. I said i am happy. He asked if im happy all the time. I said of course sometimes im sad but generally i am happy. Then he asked me what would i do if i was unhappy all the time. I asked whats wrong and he said he is feeling unhappy with me. That he lost all feelings for me and he thinks this marriage was a mistake and he wants a divorce. I was shocked... he said he's been considering it for months already but he finally came to a final decision. He cant go on anymore. He wants to break it off as soon as possible and not when its too late. He says its better for the baby than to grow up in an unhappy family. He said i make him miserable and he wants to seperate. I was shocked and thought its a joke. He said he's been faking all this time to see if he will feel anything again. But he realized he's only more and more miserable. I didnt do anything wrong. I thought he was the one and that we will have a family together. He kept making me feel like that all this time.
my family and friends think his family had a big role in his decision. i dont know if you read any of my last posts. But his mom was really unsupportive.
I wish i knew how he was feeling before and maybe i couldve made a difference. But i had no way of knowing, everyone thought we were so lucky and happy together and so did i.
It just doesnt seem like him.
You should be smart about the descions you make legally. Go to the police and file a report that he put you out. You can fly up to 36 weeks. You can leave the state before the baby is born and you need permission from him after. I can offer you more advice but I need to know what state your in. Gl to you.
Yeah I agree if he's not worried about u don't worry about him. And if he did try the whole suing u can always say it's not his or u don't know who's it is.
Awww hun im really sorry your going through this.
Boy, marijana, that sounds like classic depression. He's very unhappy all the time although he tries to fake it, and he's guessing it's you making him unhappy.
My guess is, it's brain chemicals making him unhappy.
How is his work atmosphere? Is he comfortable and generally happy there, from what you can tell, or is he filled with anxiety and hates it?
I would strongly suggest a visit to his doctor to see if antidepressants might be appropriate for him. My brother in law almost threw away his life like this, and thank God for prozac that got him through a very tough time that no one knew he was struggling with.
Best wishes. An aside, I don't think there's any court who will look at your situation and give this baby to your husband instead of you. Courts don't look at parents and pick the one with the most money to be the parent.
My guess is, it's brain chemicals making him unhappy.
How is his work atmosphere? Is he comfortable and generally happy there, from what you can tell, or is he filled with anxiety and hates it?
I would strongly suggest a visit to his doctor to see if antidepressants might be appropriate for him. My brother in law almost threw away his life like this, and thank God for prozac that got him through a very tough time that no one knew he was struggling with.
Best wishes. An aside, I don't think there's any court who will look at your situation and give this baby to your husband instead of you. Courts don't look at parents and pick the one with the most money to be the parent.
I'm truly sorry that you're going through this, but, i don't think leaving the country would be the best idea. It would probably cause a lot more problems for you and you're pregnant and you don't need that kind of stress right now. Seek legal advice before making any decisions
Y'all should do marriage cancel if anything but if that man doesn't love you any more why stay and all so your body has changed since you got pregnant a lot of men can't handle the way a woman body change so they don't stay attracted to you but if anything y'all still married n that is his child so try to work out arrangement so he can have visits stay strong do what's best for u n your baby
I say go ahead and move, then your baby will be a citizen of that country. And what type of man or father does that make him to kick out his pregnant wife and right before the baby is born. I say pack your bag and get your ticket. Don't tell him anything. Just go. But first get the divorce papers. Sign them and file them. No one can claim the baby cause the baby isn't here yet. Do this before you leave. Make it easy so you don't have to stay. Let him keep every thing since you plan on leaving the country. I don't think you need anything except your clothes. And the small baby stuff. Put your address as a friends house or a relatives house so the guy can't find you. And just leave. After a year it'll be finalized. And your free, but will already be gone by then.
I would say let the baby be born here then leave but he cant take the baby from you because babys belong with there mothers plus you say whay happened and ypu will keep the baby with you and leave to where you want to be
Marriage counsel or doing anything to try to fix it is out of the question. he doesnt seem interested in fixing it. He just wants me gone. He kicked me out yesterday and told me i need to pick all my stuff today and leave the key. He went to his mom's place so he doesnt have to see me when i come.
I bet he can't actually do that, marijana. And I'm shocked his mother is going along with kicking is pregnant wife out of her home.
Do you have somewhere to go? I think you need legal help right now. The fact that he is forcing you to pack and leave will probably have an affect on custody arrangements and may give you a lot more latitude in leaving the country.
Do you have somewhere to go? I think you need legal help right now. The fact that he is forcing you to pack and leave will probably have an affect on custody arrangements and may give you a lot more latitude in leaving the country.
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