dumb quest

[mommyof2nowtp]

So Idk what's right and what's wrong here I'm guessing this is wrong... so my and baby's dad aren't together but we're getting along text about baby and stuff when I have a quest and want to share something. If I'm up and nd can't sleep and not night can I text him just as a friend I'd have no problem doing it before but he has a gf now. I probably wouldn't get a text back anyway but it don't know my boundaries what's right and what's wrong in this situation

[AnnieBrooke]

In other words, don't do anything that makes her think you are using the baby to try to get to the man.

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree that it is not different even though you are pregnant.  That's an extension of a woman wishfully thinking that a baby will make (or keep) a relationship with a man happen when they weren't a couple before.  His relationship is with the baby, and your relationship is with the baby, and the place it intersects is when you need to tell him something that makes the transfer at visitation time clearer or easier.  Sorry to say.  But specialmom is right when she cautions you against making an enemy of his girlfriend by seeming not to understand that you (yourself) have no right to try to get close to her man.

[specialmom]

Yes, I agree.  I would find another friend to chat with.  Keep the relationship with him more business friends (business of raising a child) than anything else because his girlfriend could make things awkward by complaining and you don't want that.  So, I agree .  .   find someone else to chat with.  good luck hon

Oh, and it is not different since you are pregnant.  "hey, I can't sleep" isn't appropriate.  "I had a doctors appointment today and they say baby is good and we are on schedule."  THAT works.  You probably should not be texting him every day before the baby is here.   Or with the trivial things going on in your life like if you can't sleep or have heartburn or whatever.  :>)  He's no longer your boyfriend so you need someone else to share things like that with.  He is just coparenting a child with you.

good luck

[mommyof2nowtp]

It's not different since we're pregnant? But no I would not appreciate it

[AnnieBrooke]

Try to think of someone else.  He has a girlfriend now.  If you were his girlfriend, would you appreciate another female texting him when you don't know her motives?

[mommyof2nowtp]

Yeah ig I shouldn't seem to friendly or needy just I'm up and can't sleep and I don't really have any friends so he's one that comes in my mind to talk to :/

[metalmommie]

I'm kind of in this same situation. How I see it unfortunately is if he cared, he'd ask, check up on you, etc.