MIL rant

[Raelyn1992]

So this isn't a question. I just need to vent and see your opinions before I snap. My bf and I have known each other for six years but, have been together for three. We've had our little fights and arguments but, we always work through them. Well his mother can't let him go. She does everything for him and won't let him grow up. She always tells me that its her baby and she will always do things for him. Eck! But, before we were pregnant she would constantly tell him to never get married right in front of me and said its a big mistake. Once we found out I was pregnant we told her and the first thing that came out of her mouth was "Well I will treat it differently because you're not my daughter so it will be a different relationship than what I have with my grandchildren by my daughters" I was in so much shock I just couldn't even say anything. Well now all she does is repeat it, whenever I bring up the baby and how he is kicking she will bring it up somehow. Well these things I can ignore but, I am now 26 weeks and things are really getting me where they normally wouldn't. She started telling me the usual stuff I can ignore but, than all of a sudden she said that she doesn't think our relationship is going to last and that we will most likely be seperated shortly after the baby was born....

Is this normal? Its her only son but, do you think I have the right to be mad??? I just dont think i can handle the comments anymore.

Thanks ladies!

[Raelyn1992]

Thanks ladies! I really thought maybe I was overreacting, but now I know I'm not. I'm just going to have to put my foot down for my son.

[lady_panama]

Just ignore her! Focus on your pregnancy and don't speak to her about anything baby related. And when it's time for you to deliver just leave her out; and if she says anything, just let her know if she can't accept your son as her grandson then she doesn't need to participate or be part of his life. You & your child need supportive, respectful people not people like her in your life.

[sasha_swtheart]

She's horrible.  Grandchildren are to be loved and treated equally. I'd make her eat those words.  She have to beg to see my baby. And if she loves her son so much, shouldn't she love his child just as much.  Ugh!!

[KelseyK1027]

I would've told her off by now. My mom is always talking bad about my children's father who I am with and every time i stick up for him. I would tell your mil that she isn't allowed in the child's life then if she's going to treat the baby differently.

[Raelyn1992]

Well when I talk to him about it he will just get upset with me or make an excuse for her like "you know that's just how she is!" My parents treat him with complete respect. She lost her husband in 09 so I know she is still dealing with that but, where should I draw the line..

[rose2014]

Id be beyond mad. My babys dads sister does me something like that. She dont involve me in anything because im not immediate family. And me and her brother were together for three years. I wouldnt put up with it.I completely quit going around any of my bfs family because his dad always gets me alone and makes rude comments and my boyfriend acted like I was lying until he overheard him doing it the other day.but he still didnt take up for me.it made me so mad. I would definitely stand your ground dont let her treat you and your baby bad.

[patty1848]

Seriously what is her freaking problema? !!! Talk to your bf to put an end to all this, tell him if he doesn't you're gonna have to and it's not gonna be pretty.

[october22_]

She's too old for the b.s .

[Cheyegirl1]

I would be sad for her loss. But dont let it bother you to much. Just tell her to keep her comments to herself!  If you dont have any thing nice to say don't say anything at all.  

[october22_]

You definitely have the right to be upset with her and speak your mind. Maybe you don't because you want it to be an understanding with you and her but it seems like she doesn't respect you . I also would be mad at your child's father for not putting his mom in her place. Sorry you have to go through that.