fighting about names

[lavylou]

I am 13 weeks today!!
So we obviously don't know the sex of our baby yet, but expressed to family and friends we like the name Jameson and Athena. For the past week my mother has been texting me about how Athena is a Greek name, and we are Irish and French and I should pick a name that means something to our family. She will send a list of names she likes and last night told me she found out there is a sex toy company called Athena, and that two young girls she works with mentioned this sex toy company, she has also told me she will just call her Claire (my late grandmother's name and decided middle name)....I can't help but feel like she is digging for reasons to change my mind simply because SHE doesn't like the name....I just thought it was a beautiful name....not to mention, when we had our son, she fought with me that his middle name should be my father's name, my son has two middle names for this reason.
Sorry for the rant, but has anyone else experienced family or friends battles with name choices? How did you deal?
Thanks for reading mommas

[ashleighgama]

When I had my first son we had a lot of others peoples comments about what they do and don't like.  This time we have just told people we haven't picked yet... Although it was true until a week ago we had just a top 3...but we just say we don't have a final decision

[Farah_Remo]

Both my husband and I are very close to our parents, they gave us great advice along the way in life. But they NEVER intervened when coming to our son and our upcoming baby. Its your child, your mother already had the chance to name her own kids. And who cares if athena is the name of a sex shop? I think almost everyones name can be associated with something negative if you look for it. Just calmly explain to your mother that you'd like her to respect your decision to name your children and that it would mean alot to you if she did. At times, my mother gets a bit pushy with my son and then i have to put her back in her place. For example, my son is almost 6 months old and she bought shoes for him to wear when I specifically told her i dont want him wearing any shoes until hes walking (ive read that it can mess up the arches of their feet). So i always have to explain why i dont want something done so she doesnt get top offended. Good luck!

[Olaksandra80]

OMG first of all this is your child and tell everyone to back off. Second of all it made me upset reading your question that someone from your family (your mother In particular) who should be no matter what happy  and supportive is making like she was the most important and like it was her baby.  Your uterus your opinion and your last word!!!! My mum asked me what I am going to name the baby I said it will be English name (as I am polish) easy to pronounce and spell and she will find out when the baby is born. Well my mum wouldn't interfere anyway she is too cool but if she did I would say (why do you wana take that privilege away from me? After 40weeks of caring and talking to my baby). I feel really sorry for all you girls if there is someone in your family putting so much pressure.....  Honestly don't be rude but politely say this is something you and your hubby will decide and if they live you they will call the baby the way you wanted. The names you have chosen are beautiful!!!!!

[sgoulter]

And thats why we havent told any family the name we picked yet

[Shanz04]

We haven't picked a name yet though we have a good idea of what her name will be.  We also haven't told anyone what any of our options have been. I really could care less what anyone thinks of the name her father and I have chose and by not telling them it avoids me having to put someone in their place which is no where near the decision of what my child's name will be.

[mibabyno1]

We haven't told anyone our names for this reason. It's hard to keep secret (we have let a few hints slip) but when the baby is there and you announce the name, no one can complain. If it's a boy we are naming after my dad and dh's dad. If a girl after my mom and dh's mom, but variations on each of their names.

[lovingkha17]

Crazy that you ask this question because me and my child father is going through the same thing he want to name the baby after his brother and cousin that pass away and also his sister who pass away but I also have 2 brother and a sister who pass away and I said will I guess we will name the baby after either our sisters or brothers he say no just my sister or brother how can I handle this problem

[Yari_G]

I felt obligated to name my baby after his grandfather. Grandfather had just past away a week before his 1st grandson was born. He already had 8 granddaughters so this was very special to my mother in law and all of their family so I named my son Jose Luis like his grandfather. I regret it all the time everyone expects my son to speak Spanish because of his name. Anyway my point is, it's your baby you name him/her

[medrano1031]

Everyone is gonna have opinions. Only one that matters is yours and your husbands. It's your baby!

[jenboo8290]

We aren't sharing the names we picked out. That way no one can make a comment about them.

[lavylou]

Thank you so much everyone, it's nice to hear that I'm not wrong for standing up for what I like! Thanks for the support!

[StinaStew]

Easier said than done, but stay strong. It's your child & the only ones that need to be happy about it are you & the father. I can't say I've experienced this, as I'm a ftm, but I'd stand up to them about it. Don't make them let you feel bad. Who cares if there's a sex toy company named Athena. It's not as if that's where you got this idea from, plus, there are so many names which may have a negative reaction based on whatever.

[AshleyB1221]

I didn't go through the exact same thing, but I told my dad what we are naming our son and he didn't even respond. I asked him what he thought and he said "well it doesn't matter to me, I don't need to like it". And was **** the rest of the night. I can tell he doesnt like it b.c it's not a Jewish name. But my husband isn't jewish, and we like the name We chose which is Macklin. And in October, my aunt passed away.  My grandmother asked me to name our child after her. We didn't yet know the sex. So when we found out it was a boy than we decided to make his middle name start with an L after my aunt who was named Lisa. When I told my grandmother that his middle name would be Lee after her, she said to me "you aren't going to use your grandfather's name?" It's like nobody is happy with my decisions.

[Janet584]

Went through this with my mil. She wanted her late mom's middle name for our child middle name even as a second middle name. Even went so far as to alter it to fit a boy. Caused a few issues with my husband and I as he felt caught in the middle. Now we have only 9 weeks left with our little handsome to make his debut and she's backed off and let us have full control over the name. Hope it all turns out ok for you in the end

[avasmommy19]

I haven't experienced what you have to that extent but remember, its YOUR baby. No one can tell you what to make him or her. I'm part native and my daughters name is ava and our second if a girl will be bristol. (Yes like bristol Palin) I get crap for that all the time. I didn't choose the name after her we just fell in love with it and are going to stick with it no matter what people think. Your baby, your choice.