men vs. women

[figaro08j]

I am 30 weeks pregnant with my second baby.  I also have a 1 year old  (19 months) I do 40 hours a week at work, come home cook, wash the dishes, cause if I let him do them they'll set there for a week before he get to them. Give my baby her baths, dinner, play and learning time. I keep up with my doctor and ultrasound appointments, her doctor appointments,  our w.i.c appointments. Am just so stressed,  we have these conversations about him helping me more but they dont last long. He got this "am the man" attitude!  So if am the women, maybe i should not be working. Yea rite! He makes more then me but we still go half on EVERYTHING. I asked him for $25 to help me get some things for our baby shower, he ask me when was I going to be available to give it back to him. WHAT! Its for our shower. Smh. His baby mother of his 1st child gets $114.00 a week in child support, but i cant get 25.00 for our baby shower with out you thinking of getting it back. Am just so feed up. On weekends he sleeps the whole weekend so there's no breaks for me. Am just so tired mentally and physically.  ***sorry for the long rant** men just dont understand our pregnant women struggles and working full time and being a full-time mother.

[figaro08j]

I get assistance for our food, so he pays nothing. I did the hard part of apply and going up there to renew every 6 months.

[RockRose]

figaro,  most men do understand your struggles,  and I don't think most couples who have kids together and live together and consider themselves a couple go "half" on everything.  

I wouldn't put up with that.  You're the mother of his kids and his housekeeper,  and his lover.  I don't know how you now go back from that point,  where you initially agreed to do it all for free while he sleeps all weekend long,  but I think you need a real talk.

How do you do groceries?  Do you buy yours,  he buys his,  who buys the baby's food?  Do you split a box of crackers for her in half cost-wise?