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monster mil
Anyone else have a monster mil? Mine thinks my son is hers and is always telling me what to do with my son! She and so goes behind my back and does things I ask her not to do. I asked her not to feed him water and she did anyway and because he didn't like it she loaded it up with sugar. She keeps telling me to feed him ceral (he is 2 weeks old!) And I said hell no! My son was vomiting and was very gassy and fussy so I changed him formula to soy and it fixed the issues but she keeps feeding him his recent formula instead because she bought it! That made me so mad I don't care if she bought it it was messing his stomach up and now she won't stop feeding him it. My son got circumsized today and my boyfriend and I chose to get the gaze on himself afterwards and just apply cream to him parts till it's fully healed and that made her mad that he didn't get a cap and wanted to call the doctor and curse at her! I chose not to get the cap I had the option! And on top of this she told me it was stupid and wrong to sponge bathe my son with a cup! I filled a cup with warm water and bathed my son who is very tiny and that was apparently dumb. She's driving me nuts! !
Im actually jealous. Id much rather have a monster mother in law at the moment. My mother in law passed before I could meet her. I know I probably sound crazy but its the truth. But I do understand how you feel. I have a monster mother who likes to control everything and my fiance and I dont live with my parents. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Its time for you and your boyfriend to move out. But thats only my opinion
Oh gosh thank god my in law isn't like that she tries to put we told her we want to raise our daughter our way and we ask for opinion if needed idk what she dies with her alone though but she is a super health freak and all about taking care of the body and my daughter loves her she didn't agree with what my mom was doing also so i believe she is treating her good when she goes there hope she do the same with our unborn child but yea all you moms with this issue although you feel cause you live there you cant say anything that isn't true it is your kid and they have to accept that you want to do things your way they had their chance with their kids they cant take over yours and they must respect how you want to raise your child feed your child ect have a talk with yall hubbys and yall talk to them together
Before I even read completely down all of your comments I knew you must be living with her. You can solve this problem very fast if you and your boyfriend get your own place.
He may be a mama's boy but he has a family of his own now to take care of. If he will not get you and the baby out of that house you may want to think about going to stay with your parents, a family member or a friend for awhile.
As long as you live there she will probably keep doing what she's doing. It's not her responsibility to take care of her son, you and the baby. It is all up to you and your boyfriend.
I hope you don't think I'm being harsh because I'm not trying to be, I'm being honest. I read a great deal of stories like yours. The girls and their babies live with her parents, or the boyfriends parents. The parents want control and everyone complains. If you and your boyfriend have your own place then the problem is solved. No more of her telling you what to do with your own baby. If you say you can not afford your own place then you were not mature enough to have a baby yet. If your boyfriends needs to get 2 jobs to get you out of there then that''s what he should do. My own husband, yes we were married and had a place of our own long before we had our daughter, worked 2 jobs for a very long time. We depended on no one but ourselves and guess what? No one could tell us how to raise our own child.
He may be a mama's boy but he has a family of his own now to take care of. If he will not get you and the baby out of that house you may want to think about going to stay with your parents, a family member or a friend for awhile.
As long as you live there she will probably keep doing what she's doing. It's not her responsibility to take care of her son, you and the baby. It is all up to you and your boyfriend.
I hope you don't think I'm being harsh because I'm not trying to be, I'm being honest. I read a great deal of stories like yours. The girls and their babies live with her parents, or the boyfriends parents. The parents want control and everyone complains. If you and your boyfriend have your own place then the problem is solved. No more of her telling you what to do with your own baby. If you say you can not afford your own place then you were not mature enough to have a baby yet. If your boyfriends needs to get 2 jobs to get you out of there then that''s what he should do. My own husband, yes we were married and had a place of our own long before we had our daughter, worked 2 jobs for a very long time. We depended on no one but ourselves and guess what? No one could tell us how to raise our own child.
Omg my mother in law is the same way... my baby isn't here yet but she already tries to take control and I know that when he is here she is going to drive me f*****g insane. She got a little upset because I told her she couldn't take my baby to get him baptized. She also tries to tell me what to buy him and I bought him an outfit to come home in and since she doesn't like it she insists we go shopping to find something better. Its getting really annoying and I know its only going to get worse. My fiance tells her to back off but she doesn't listen.
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Do you have to spend so much time with her? Are you living with her? Time to find your own place and pronto. She's treating you like a child which often happens when we live with parents--- so I'd do whatever is necessary to have some space. And then you can decide when she sees him. I wouldn't allow her the opportunity to care for him if you have to stay with her. YOU feed baby first and tell her . . . he's fed. He's bathed. he's changed. Got it covered! But talk to your partner about how to move as soon as possible. good luck
Elixy128, MIL stands for mother in law... so that last comment makes no sense. She is trying to help but shes also not respecting her DIL's wishes. She wants to raise her son a certain way and she should be allowed to. Her MIL can offer her advice but shouldn't just care for her grandson the way she wants to. Especially if she's doing things the MOTHER asked her not to. Mom knows best. She needs to know her role and respect what her DIL asks of her in regards to HER son. good luck zaydensmommy79. It's not forever. And honestly, i would throw the bad formula away. Regardless if she bought it or not. His poor tummy will be all messed up.
Omg my mother was the same freaking way it was soooo annoying im african so she feels oh dont listen to what these white doctors have to say and i keep telling her im in America and grew up here and her fathere is african American if we want to do things the "white" way so be it she was going behind my back and putting cereal in her bottle after i told her no giving her apple juice water and she wasnt even a month yet i told her i want to follow things the way the doctor said she got mad and i let her be mad and still did things my own way
Omg that sounds that my fiances step mom! She is terrible with his 3 yr old. She can't have alot of cheese and stuff because it upset her stomach and every time we pick her up from there she comes home and gets sick! I swear if she does that **** with my daughter I will fream!
no its not but u saying it is is because im just being honest a MIL is someone who treats u and ur child like crap endangers u or ur childs life doesn't help u and causes problems in ur relationship not Some one whos trying to help u take ur pity party else where
And no hun giving him to different formulas won't kill him but it'll mess with his stomach. Smh
Lol that was completely unnecessary ^^ i live with my mil too and she likes to tell me what to do with my daughter all the time, she acts like that's her baby, she doesn't let me hold her when i get home from work she sais i have to shower first, as if i work at a car shop or something that makes me filthy? They like to take over all the time and it drives me nuts, you seem to have a worse case than mine though because she will not feed her anything i tell her not too though she's tried. She does things how she wants when I'm not home and does things behind my back too. Ugh. Yup. It's only temporary. I'm grateful for some things but like someone said, they had their turm, now it's ours, my man is a mommas boy too. So annoying.
sounds like u live with her?? huh well what can u do she obviously raised ur hubby so take it easy on her ur a ftm u can learn a thing or two i dont thino she has bad intentions at all i think that ur overreacting and are hormonal she obviously loves ur son so be grateful for that second stop acting like a ftm lol ur being to careful and crazy relax ur child wont die with her giving him different formula. trust me u dont want to burn those bridges
Yep. My husband is a big mommas boy too and he never says anything to her when she's acting all crazy. But if my mom acts crazy its my job to put her in her place. I live with my mil as well. I can't really say or do anything either. Difference is my son isn't here yet. I just try to brush it off n tell myself that this isn't permanent.
I wish I could just put her in her place ladies but unfortunately I live with her and my boyfriend and he is a big *** mommas boy and she's mad crazy so there's that
I agree put her in her place but as far as the cereal thing it depends on dr and baby my kids dr told me to use cereal bc mine left hospital eating 4 oz and still wasnt getting full so at 1 week they told me to put a tsp of rice cereal in her bottles
Cereal and sugar water for a 2 week old wuoh!!! Loco
you need ti not leave her alone with your kid and if she dont like it tell her here your chooses plan and simple sugar water is horrible for your baby
I would stay away
Either that or call a mental hospital and have her put in because a 2 week old shouldn't be fed cereal that's just crazy
Put that woman in her place. She had her chance and now it's yours and you don't want her input. If she can't respect your decisions than she shouldn't spend time with you or your baby
Girl, put that woman in her place! You need to tell her to back the hell up or leave.
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