so disgusted...

[miracle_mommy2014]

so me and my bf live at his moms for the time being...well im more so of a clean person and my bf used to be....his family they are not clean people they just throw stuff everywhere and trash is all over and i cant stand it....its gross....i stay in my room because its nasty and im not gonna be around it....well her 12 year old son gets the whole down stairs living to himself basically....he trashes then she expects me and my boyfriend to pick it up....yeah no im not...and recently her other son brought his stupid chihuahua here and it goes to the bathroom in the house. i dont want my baby around it and my bf doesnt say **** because its his family and they are "perfect". i cant stand living here anymore....i hate it.. :/

[specialmom]

I think I'd rather live just about anywhere than what you describe.  I personally think someone needs to call social services for your boyfriend's brother.  He's only 12 and seems to have no parental boundaries and a mom on drugs.  That's horrible for him and no wonder he is such a mess.  I still wouldn't want to live with him but he probably shouldn't be left I the care of this 'mom' either.  Yikes.

Absolutely,  I'd do whatever you have to in order to get out of there.  Section 8 housing?  Look into that.  good luck hon

[wyattsmom2015]

Look into any emergency pregnancy services that may be in your area. I lived in Florida and they had a place and now I love in Tennessee and they have a place that you can get diapers and formula and other baby items. Places like that can help you find housing that is in your budget. Go in with out boyfriend and find y'all a place then tell him y'all have a place of your own.. if you don't have a place that helps pregnant women their should be some place that can help you since you are pregnant. You need to move, I was in a similar situation with my family. My grandmother was bedridden and I was her in home caretaker because I was going to school to be a nurse and she needed around the clock medical and everyday need care. She let her dead beat kids and other grandkids stay there and the house was nasty. My uncle would get drunk and pee in corners. Social services came in to take my baby and met with my husband and I. She seen us with our daughter and seen the problem was not with us. She found us a place and paid the deposit because we had to move immediately and it takes a while to find a place to move to and with me in school and only my husband working we did not have a deposit or first months rent on such short notice. She was happy to help us because she seen we were good parents and all those dead beats she had living with her would not take care of her and she had no choice but to go to a home.
If the place is dirty now don't expect it to change and your boyfriend will Give in and have baby throughout the house if that is what his mom wants. Your best bet is to get out before baby comes and some dumb *** calls in social services. Good luck, you seem to be having a hard time.

[mammatanz]

Wow this sounds like my life about 3 months ago. My husband, our 3 year old daughter, and I were all living at his parents house with his sis and her fiance. Well no one but me would ever do any cleaning or take out the trash, plus their dog would go to the bathroom in the house because no one but me would let him out, and no one else cleaned it up. So my daughter and I took to living in our room for at least 6 months getting out of the house every chance we got, and my husband worked constantly,  I told my hubby that I was not under any circumstances going to bring the new baby there, so we ended up buying a house, and thankfully have been out of that situation for three months now. I hope you have the ability to change your living situation,  and if you cant move you need to speak up. I understand how frustrating it can be, and not wanting to pissed off your in laws, but its about the baby now maybe they will listen. Good luck.

[jaloveslorelei]

Oh I was there with my first! My bf was and is a very clean person but that doesn't really matter when his mother let her animals **** all over the house or wouldn't let him take down the 80's styled board valances that can't be washed. I feel for you, you don't want to insult people but you'd also think your help and encouragement in getting the house clean for the baby would be a nice new start. Bring up respiratory issues and pull up some articles to encourage your boyfriend to be proactive in having a clean environment for baby. Its very difficult when you want the very best for lo but your finding it difficult to provide a basic clean environment : (

[miracle_mommy2014]

we are planning too move out....i just hope its as soon as we plan it seems like my boyfriend is getting to comfortable here and hes changing and i dont like it....we were living with my mom before but she drinks all the time and i didnt want my baby around it....but i dont want her around a nasty environment either....

i love my boyfriend and being with him...i just wish he had a different family :/

we had got them couches a few months ago for downstairs they were used but they were nice and his little brother stabbed holes in them and trashed them with food and burned parts of them....and nobody says anything to him we had to get rid of them today...im sure if we get more his brother will just ruin them again. i tried to keep it clean and vaccum and what not but it got annoying picking up tons of dishes and trash from his little brother so i just stay in my room.now where its clean...
his mom thinks im gonna have my baby all out around the house....shes on drugs...

[tara86]

Work on trying to get your own place. If unfortunately you still have to live there when the baby is born, buy a lot of rugs to put on the floor/couch etc. Go to an op shop, they sell cheap and good second hand ones. Good luck and try not to let it upset you too much. And if you have the energy.. Maybe it couldn't help to clean up the areas you have to use. i feel for you.. good luck

[ShanLori]

Time to assess your money situation and move out.

[specialmom]

It's hard to say too  much when it is their house that you are living in, you know?  True freedom will come when you get your own place with your partner and you then can keep it how you want.  And you can tell your boyfriend that since it is gross . . .    the time to  move needs to be moved up.  

Any way you guys can afford your own place or you could move to your family's place?

[Eevee_moon]

You need to move out..