Am I Being Selfish

[Stefaniekassiee5]

So my boyfriend just got a job offer in Florida that would be great for him, However I live in Chicago. He is going first and then said after the baby is born then I would go down there with him since I absolutely love my doctor and want her to deliver my baby here in Chicago. He is contemplating if he wants to go since this is our first baby, he wants to be there during the pregnancy.  Would it be selfish for me to tell him I don't want him to go. This is our first baby and I want him here. Plus the job offer is for a family business so it will always be there. Need your opinion ladies! P.s I'm 19 weeks (:

[specialmom]

I just wanted to also say that it is, in my opinion, MUCH easier to move and get settled before baby arrives than after.  I moved with a 6 week old.  Torture.  From packing, to uprooting our things, to carrying the baby around throughout the process.  MUCH easier to get there, set yourself up and be good to go when the baby arrives.  good luck

[RockRose]

I see two things that are interesting to me.

One,  you're choosing your doctor over your partner.  

And two,  this is an ear marked job for him in a family business and he can go after the baby is born.  Why is he doing this right now?

[specialmom]

I am super practical regarding these things.  A good job is important.  Advancing one's career is important.  And that is how you live comfortably.  I agree.  If this is your long term boyfriend and you two want to be together 'forever' and raise a family, now is the time to go with him and be his partner in this move.  Look at it like an adventure.  Don't talk about missing home or that kind of thing.  Be positive about it.  

I also agree that you aren't being selfish.  It is understandable that you want to be near family, with your doctor, etc.  I totally get it.  Totally.  

and I think down the road, once you are where you think you want to stay---  whether it is in Florida or back in Chicago and you have kids that you don't want to uproot, then it makes sense to make a choice to give up a great opportunity for the sake of continuity with the family.  But early on in one's career and before kids are established with friends/school/etc. ---  that is the time to move if you are able and advance yourself professionally.  good luck

[luxah]

I would go with him, being not that far along, you'll have time to pick a new doc and all that. If he were to go and you to stay, anything could happen and you'd be spending more money on his travel than needed. If you were nearer your due date then yeah I'd say stay, cus then you guys wouldn't have to wait as long to move. Its up to you entirely though. But move and get stuff set up for baby in the new house, instead of setting up and then taking down. Ya know? Good luck. And no, your not selfish in wanting to stay and ask him to stay. Going through pregnancy is hard when someone is there.