tired of bossy in laws and other family members!? who else?

[Full_time_mommy_wife]

I swear I am so sick of listening to everyone on my husbands side and my side of the family and their opinions on how to take care of my 1 month old daughter. I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter so this isnt my first time on thr mary go round. My father in law and mother in law have literally put demands on me and my husband DEMANDING we come over with the girls every Saturday.  Like really? Ur going to tell me and my husband who r in our 20's to come over whenever u say? Um no. You would think since they have had several kids that it is very difficult to get out of the house to go visit all of the family all of the time. When I have had no rest and I am a full time stay at home mom with both kids & ny husband works all week and I have to do all the arrands and grocery store runs and take my daughter to her dance classes 3 days oout of the week. I don't eveb have time to do my hair let alone shower in thr morning sometimes! My husband and I haven't had a night out together in so long so what makes ppl think I am capable of going to their house every week when they have a car and could drive their behinds to my house anytime! Ughh and then our families r always telling whats wrong with my newborn when shes crying and what I am doing wrong! Like seriously? I know her better than anyone bc I take care of her! Im sorry guys just a rant ive literally been crying over my family and his family making demands. That wasn't even half of the what they do. My mother in law seems to rhink my husdand is still a child living in her home! She pops into our house whenever without notice and buys my husband clothes! She says she worries if he is being well fed and has plenty if clothes r u foreal?? She babies him and kisses his cheeks in public and he hates it. He has tried his best to tell her to back off but she wont listen. She medles in our home life and spreads our business around to other family members & gets into our finance life asking questions she shouldn't. She has even asked me questions about our life in the bedroom!!! She asked me last week if I had my pap yey bc a man has needs and is my husbamd satisfied! ! Like ewww!!! Ugh ladies plz tell me im not alone

[coryreply719]

Unbelievable.

[mfayb]

I think mothers with boy's just have a hard learning they aren't the priority anymore and feel huge need to be involved in the sons life. My mil is that way and she had three boys. My husband is the only one married because she scares women off lol. His youngest brother is engaged and she is doing everything possible to stop it. But special mom is right in that we will all be there one day. Let's try to be easier on our children's spouses lol

[specialmom]

Just remember ladies, you will all be mothers in law someday too. :>)  I try to  believe that they aren't 'trying' to be annoying but are wanting to be a part of things and help.  Draw your boundary lines but try to let them be a part of things too. everyone will be happier INCLUDING your kids because the grandma/child relationship is a very cool one.  

I think it is reasonable to ask them to your house but they may be trying to do you a favor as when people come to mine . .   I cook and clean for them.  It's actually more work to have family over than it is to go there.  

But it would be nice if they offered to come over and help you out.  Even babysit for you once in a while so you can have a date with your man!

[Full_time_mommy_wife]

Thanks ladies I am so glad im not alone in this bc its stressing me out!

[Full_time_mommy_wife]

Thanks ladies I am so glad im not alone in this bc its stressing me out!

[Dandi_2014]

Oh dear,
Such a disturbing family!!!!

Tell your MIL that questions about bedroom is out of place, appearntly she NEEDS to know common sense so unfortunately you need to spell it out to her.
Her son's satisfaction in the bedroom is not one of her concerns and she has no place asking about it..
That it even crosses her mind is a bit disturbing.

If they are so keen to see the girls they can help.
Run a few errands.
Drop them off/pick up.

Wgenever your daughter cries and anyone claims you're doing things wrong, simply tell them,
"Look. I'm sure you mean well, but it is a bit insulting that you believe I don't know what my daughter needs. Esspecially since this is my second time around a newborn. So please, keep your advices and suggestions to yourself - I got this."

They need to treat you guys as adults.
Stand up to them.

Good luck!

& congeatulations on your baby!!! <3

[Rossy25]

I completely understand I haven't even gave birth and my family is already telling me I have to go to their house so that they can take care of the baby bc I'm a first time mom and I won't know how to. Also my aunt is demanding me to have my mom in the delivery room with me even though we dont talk to each other for months it's absolutely insane how people think they have the right to tell you what to do with your life and your family. Good luck to us and hopefully they will one day understand and leave us alone, to make our own mistakes and learn from them.

[mamashh26]

Send the to hell let them know your tired od there b****** that it's your nd husbands life to stay out

[mfayb]

The worst thing is when they try to tell you what's wrong with your baby. Dear god for my daughter's entire life (she is two) any time she is upset my mil "she is so gassy, she needs formula not breastmilk" um no *****. Or "well she has to eat something if she won't eat that give her some of these fries" I honestly don't know how my husband survived.

[todayyyyistheday]

Uggghhh, I'm sorry!!! That sounds horrible!!! My father-in-law is already telling what to do with my babies and they aren't even born yet -.-

[Full_time_mommy_wife]

Ugh I just can't stand it It makes me feel like we cant do for ourselves when ppl try to bud in our personal lives daily

[bholcomb]

My ex mil was the same way!! Note she is my ex..lol. my ex husband wouldn't stand up to her. He is her only child and our child is her first and it happen to be a girl. She wanted my baby to stay the night when she was a month old. She would stop by and when her son was sick she would come stay with him. Good luck