baby dad

[lizsaulnier]

My ex bf wont help with anything he doesnt feel he should help with her room or anything but hell take his new gf out every weekend. We just broke up in sept and he has a gf already..im so stressed :(

[specialmom]

Ahh.  I'm really sorry hon.  I'm sure this is so sad for you and disappointing.  You are supposed to be going through one of the happiest times of your life and I'm sure it doesn't feel that way right now.  

I guess it is most likely that he isn't going to do all of those types of things a partner is going to do with/for you.  I just wouldn't count on him.  but I think when it comes to preparing for the baby and needing some things, you can ask him to contribute to paying for them.  And when the baby is born, I would definitely file for child support.  Your baby deserves that from their father.

good luck hon.  

[RockRose]

I agree that I don't think he should come and help out with the room.  That would send mixed signals to you,  and it's the kind of thing couples do together.  

It's hard to tell if he'll be there to have a relationship with his baby but I hope you're getting child support.

[aicnov14]

And sometimes it just takes a minute for a man to grow up and realize what he needs to do, some men never grow up.

[aicnov14]

I personally wouldn't help with the room either, its in your house. if he was concerned about being in the babies life hed probaby rather spend it on stuff for his house and getting prepared for life as a single dad, if he's not, you have no obligation to do so for his sake, he just won't have rights to see her if he isn't gonna provide for her.

[mummainoz]

Sounds like he's already started to put in place his new life and set boundaries as to how involved he would like to be in his child's life. I would suggest you do the same and if you don't like his proposed level of involvement consider getting some legal advice.

[lizsaulnier]

He says when shes born hell be around but who knows.

[miracle_mommy2014]

Sounds like a dead beat dad and it doesn't sound like he plans on being around or helping. You should just plan on raising your baby alone and it seems like that's how it's going to be.