31 weeks preggo and bf sister free loading off us?!

[keilabeans]

My bf sister moved out here (calgary) from vancouver and is currently staying with us... she had said that she would start looking for work as soon as she got out here and yet.. its been 3 weeks now and she's only gone out 3 times for an hr looking for work. She sleeps pretty much till 12 and eats all our food. We only have one income and anytime we tell her to go look for work she pulls attitude and is very picky about what she wants to do. We can't afford to have her here and even my bf says so yet she doesn't seem to want to make any effort. She just eats and takes w.e she wants and has a SERIOUS attitude problem. I'm getting fed up. I told her she can't be picky b.c if she's going to stay here she needs to get a job asap to help out with food and rent and she just complains no one is giving her a job but doesn't call them back or anything. She just sits on the couch chain smoking and watching t.v and eating the food we can't afford her to eat so I haven't been eating as much as I should b.c of this. I'm so angry and stressed all the time. Less then 9 weeks to go before baby gets here and we have yet to buy some things we need for baby. We had to dip into rent to buy food, yet she just takes her sweet time. I get the feeling she won't look for work unless we yell at her or ask her. She acts like we're the bad guys for asking her to look for work. I just want to leave but I'm trapped. Can't work myself, and no where else to go. Her grandma said she would send us money to help out with the sister, but is it just me or is that stupid? Bf knows we can't afford to have her here and yet here she is! Sleeping all the time. Is it too much to ask that she be up and out of the house by 9:30 pounding the pavement? That's what I did when I was looking for work, but nooooooo, an hour of job search is acceptable to my bf and not to me. I'm so mad!!! I just want to shake her awake and tell her if she doesn't find a jobb or at least make a DAILY effort she should pack her bag and go free load off someone else? Bf doesn't want to talk to her about it, he says I should do it b.c she will take it better from me... doubt it.. b.c I won't be nice about it. What should I do? Income assistance is a no go for me. I'm so tempted to just lock her *** out. I'm going to cry..

[Acardon]

Also ur not sopose to be around someone who is smoking because even if she is done with that cig if u even smell it coming from her it goes to the baby .... Be careful

[Acardon]

I would be so mad... I would be like get up get ur crap ready u need to get up earily every morning and hit the pavement... Don't be a pushover u don't need to deal with more children then the children u raised.

[glittergirl88]

First of all, tell her to go get food stamps so she can get her own food. Second of all, give her a time limit. 2 weeks or something, be strong and sincere when telling her. If she doesn't get a job in that time she will have to leave. Don't be a pushover, and don't let her ruin your life. Its tough love. If she doesn't want to get a job and just wants to mooch off of you then that's her problem, she's going to realize real quick and appreciate everything she had when you kick her a$$ out and she actually has to start looking for a job to support herself. Put your foot down!

[keilabeans]

Considering she put us in a position of if we didn't say yes she could stay with us she would have been homeless.. so she manipulated us into taking her in knowing we have baby on the way and we are struggling

[missmommyd]

OMG.. ill be praying for u.. that *****.. i would flip out... talk to ur bf.. or start telling her whats up.. if mom isnt happy, no one is happy!!