maybe I'm crazy!?!? help!!!

[MommaOf3Under3]

So my husband is a wonderful man very loving and think today this morning we were having our fun time and I finished and he didn't like he couldn't or something that's never happened before in the three years we been together and then this evening he sat on the couch watching porn and looks up at me and says I can "finsh" now and it hurt my feelings a little like I was offended. Am I wrong should I let it go or say something I just felt I wasn't good enough.

[1NAMILLION]

Unfortunately,  I didn't want to be the one to say it but I agree with @twinstwins and @mamasell because porn can be bad news for relationships... it just depends on how the two of you feel about it. Oddly, before I married my hubby I was a porn watcher and huge collector...he watched porn but only owned like 3 dvds to my hundreds; however, we both agreed that we should get rid of all porn or any intent on watching any to preserve a healthy marriage and sex life...believe me..I would have trouble orgasming at times because I would be thinking about the kinkier stuff that they did on the porns so it caused me to feel that our sex life was a bit dull and I fantasized about more...however, once I stopped watching it I realized just how so far from dull and exciting it was but I had my porn blinders on. So, long story short...I'm saying that if porn in general bothers you, you definitely may want to let him know that it's effecting you and doesn't leave you in a good place with the relationship because it can be the gateway to "trouble in paradise"....best wishes on whatever you decide.

[mamasell]

I agree with twinstwins as far as porn goes. Knowing my husband got turned on by another woman or women would hurt me. I would talk to my husband and let him know how I feel. Ask him to be honest and tell me what the issue was or is. Turning to porn or lusting for other women to get the job done isn't the answer.  

[1NAMILLION]

I'm so sorry that you had to feel like that...I would be feeling the exact same way. I don't think that you're wrong...it genuinely bothered you so I think that you should communicate your feelings to him. Currently,  we are all in a vulnerable and emotional state so he has to be made aware of the need to be a little more reassuring or more delicate when trying to communicate.  Unfortunately,  while men should no better,  they tend to be oblivious to offense at times unless you convey that to them. My hubby is as sweet as pie and so loving...he lives to make my our daughter and I happy but occasionally I'll have to let him know that he needs to communicate with more sensitivity or clarity because what he may have said didnt come across well. Oddly, they don't even realize what they've said some times and they truly believe that they didn't say anything that you couldn't understand or wouldn't be okay with. So, I said all of that to say that if hubby is typically a sweet and wonderful guy...I think you may just need to express your feelings to him because he probably genuinely didn't realize that what he said to you after this morning's unconcluded event was offensive...you think they would but they just aren't great at connecting the dots.

Best wishes and congrats on baby!!

[twinstwins]

I don't deal with guys that do porn, let's put that out there first. I feel like it's cheating personally. I wouldn't however, make it a big deal, but let him know that it hurt u. Be gentle about it. Ask him to tell u what u can do different to help him get there too next time.

[MommaOf3Under3]

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