Am I psycho?

[BabyandChey]

My boyfriend used to work at Eastbay. Every bit of money he got went to weed, which didn't bother me because its his money and it's his choice. And I wasnt pregnant at the time. But he has a tendancy of not giving a poop about anyone or anything when he is high which is why he got fired. He eventually would stop showing up for work to go out with his friends and smoke because he had to money for it. As you can imagine once he ran out of money, he was unable to smoke anymore. He was also kicked out of school for not going. At that point him and I made a deal not to smoke or drink unless we were with each other. We made this deal because he didn't like the way I was when I was drunk and I didn't like the way he was when he was high. So he stopped smoking and I stopped drinking.  He became my sweet, loving, affectionate boyfriend again. Not he has another job. And he doesn't spend all his money but he spends quite a bit of it on weed. It really makes me mad because all the money I get goes to our daughter and we have to save all the money we can. He's mean when he's high which is weird because a lot of people are not that way, or I guess its the fact that he doesn't seem to care which makes me think hes mean. But i mean come on, im 31 weeks pregnant. I told him i fell on my belly and I was going to the hospital and he says "oh okay, feel better". He also lies when he's been smoking because he'all do anything to get that high. He still goes to work but hasn't been going to school much because he cant get up even though his class starts at NOON. He's almost 19! He needs to graduate. So I got fed up. **** tested him because he told me he wasn't smoking though I KNOW he was, and I was right. I told him he had to stop or I'm going for custody. If he can't get up for school at NOON how can I rely on him getting up for our daughter. I'm not going to put up with him lying and spending all his money on weed when we have a baby to take care of. And most of all, I don't want a bd who's too messed up to take care of out daughter. I don't want her exposed to that. So he said he would stop and I've been testing him every week. Am I psycho? Like I don't know. If he wasn't the way he was when he's high them I wouldn't mind. Advice? Thoughts?

[BabyandChey]

yeah! :)

[ericatoday]

Nope girl keep testing him. I would. That's a smart idea don't stop. Keep him on check because your daughter is now what is important.

[BabyandChey]

Thank you all. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't a crazy girlfriend or anything since everyone thinks I am but they don't understand. This city is just full of junkies. I set him straight and he hasn't been smoking. We still have our agreement that every once I'm a while we can drink and/ or smoke, TOGETHER. When our daughter isn't around. He knows I'll go for custody if he smokes and it break my heart to have to say that to him since he's already lost one child and he's broke over his son. (He didnt lose his son for smoking or anything)But I want a better life for my daughter than that and so does he, that's why he's stopping.

[specialmom]

I don't think your psycho at all.  When he's smoking pot, he messes up his life.  he loses jobs, he gets kicked out of school, he loses custody of his kid, etc.  He blows his money on that rather than buying what you guys need, he's not kind to you, he lies.  What could possibly be good about your man smoking  pot with all of those things going on when he does?  

Love does not conquer all.  You are responsible and planning on having a nice, peaceful life for your child.  I'm not sure how he'll fit in but definitely he won't when he's smoking pot.

I agree, that he may need to know it's you/baby or pot.  

I'm sorry it comes to that and I do hope it works out for you!!  peace and hugs

[joceeykittykitty]

You're NOT crazy, at all. You're being a responsible parent, and adult. This is not acceptable behavior and should,not be tolerated. An addiction is what's bad, doesn't matter what it is. Good luck with him, hopefully he'll change but stay on your ground and if he does it again LEAVE .well my opinion. (:

[melcarin]

Honestly I'd make him pick drugs or his baby. Tell him next time you find him high he's out. That's what I'd do

[BabyandChey]

Okay! Its just people think I'm crazy because I test him every way and people say he deserves his freedom. But they don't understand

[BabyandChey]

I wouldn't mind if he wasn't the way he was when he smokes. I wouldn't mind if he wouldn't give off the impression he doesnt care or he wouldn't lie or he wouldn't waste his money. I wouldn't mind if I was with him.

[mpattea]

My bf was bad addicted to drugs when we got together n once I found out I was prego in Jan. I told him he had 2 choice 1 leave me n the kids n continue with his ways or 2 quit get a job n help me out since then he quit pills n has had a job for over 6months n he gets drug tested ever other week so ur not crazy I kinda am doing the same thing LOL just stand ur ground

[BabyandChey]

No. This is his second. His first was taken from him. I know he smokes to get rid of all the pain but he needs to find a different way to cope. He also smokes a lot just because he got messed up with a bad crew and all he did for a long time was get messed up, so its normal to him. He has gotten A LOT better since we've been together this past year because he knows I won't put up with his bs.

[Stephymarie92]

No your not a psycho your thinking like a responsible parent. I believe your completely right. He should grow up because that child need a dependable father. Not someone who spends all there time smoking. There has to be a reason why he smokes so much. Is this his first child?