Question about introducing baby to family

[ShannyO]

I'm 38 weeks pregnant today & as my due date approaches, I've been thinking more about how I'd like to introduce my son to his grandparents.
My husband & I have decided not to tell anyone we're in labor so the hospital experience will be for us to bond & take advantage of learning how to breast feed without interruptions.
I would like to have each set of grandparents come to our home at seperate times so they each get their own private time to love him & not worry that they're holding him too long or the other grandmother getting jealous...meaning my mother in law.
My husband wants everyone together at the same time & I'm not comfortable with that because I'll feel obligated to give my son to my mother in law before my own mother to avoid favouritism. My husband also doesn't want mine to meet our son 1st because he doesn't want to hurt his precious mommy's feelings even though she knew the sex of our baby 1st.
I'm so sick of the 1st game with our families! We're 35 years old, not children! I'm trying to be respectful of each sides having their own special moment with our baby. Is that so wrong?
Any other ladies have this kind of dumb issue?

[ShannyO]

It's so annoying that my mother in law is like that too because she makes us feel like my parents are the favorite, but my husband doesn't see it that way. He's very defensive when it comes to his mom. We used to live right next door to his parents & she would just barge in the house without knocking or anything. I started locking the doors on her. We now live a mile away from my parents, but my parents respect our privacy. They won't come over without calling 1st. Anyway, last time I saw my mother in law, she made a point to ask how often my parents are over. I told her hardly ever, they give us lots of privacy & don't come over unless we invite them.
She's going through menopause or something cause she's gotten weird & thinks my parents will be more involved & have been more involved in my pregnancy which naturally, I'm going to go to my mom before I go to her!
Ok sorry for the novel. I'm just frustrated & needed to get it off me so I can quit stressing myself out.

[lkaykirk]

I think the separate time would be a great idea. But sometimes you have to deal with a whiny in laws. Mine is more emotional than I am! I have to tip toe around everything.  Which I shouldn't because I'm the pregnant one! Sry. I feel your pain.