CPS OR POLICE? need serious advice PLEASE READ

[anj3li3]

should I call CPS or Police?

Sorry for the book...

situation:

My husband has PTSD not really getting help from VA but can get help from company I work for. I mentioned this because this is the reason I let go some incidents about his drinking problem..

He has been good where he asks his friend to come over our place to drink. It is kind of his outlet and let him have another buddy who is a veteran as well. They are only 30's and like to drink so I dont nag and let them be..

Now last night he went to his buddy's house to drink and brought our son 2yo. My concern is i texted my Husband before 9pm asked him if he is drinking I will go pick them up so he is not drinking and driving. He said no he is good, so I went home straight from work. Before I got out I can tell already he was drunk, as I got out of the car I can smell the alcohol. He looked like he was checking the car out.

This morning as soon as he woke up he went out and came back right away and told me his car's tire is flat someone did it last night. . I cant blieve it because 2 other cars infront of his car was not touched. Sooo his car who was closer to the house was the only one got touched... it tells me something happened lastnight on his way home and he was too drunk and thats what he was checking out right when I got home.

I am too tired to cry and get angry at this point I just am looking out for my son's safety... for me drinking and driving is very irresponsible and worst having a child in the car...

I dont want divorce but looking into moving out if he dont change. Not sure where to start. I want to call the cops but i am worried he will lose his job since he works close enough with cps.. he has a DUI record already from 2006.. if he gets another one it will be a felony this time.

I dont want to ruin his life... but I need him to grow up. I am tired of talking to him.

This morning I asked him "what if you got pulled over"
His reply was just "but I wasnt"
That tells me he has problems...


Help.....

[anj3li3]

Thank you so very much. Its after 10pm here not ready to go home yet... but will go home and soon and talk to him seriously. I will update later after the talk. I appreciate all the advice and input. I dont have family here just my husband and son... no sis or mom.. non of my side of family, so this is something o go when i need someone to talk to.
I am going to bring him to an AA
As for the not letting him get in the car its almost impossible as i work 10hrs a day right now. My husband picks up my son at.daycare. i cant afford to quit work. Will be on maternity leave soon so i hope things will get better.
We are going to have serious talk. He is a good man when sober..
Thanks again everyone.

Ikaykirk i will.check your message thank.you

[lkaykirk]

Hi. I sent you a message.

[ShalaneMarie]

I would not allow him to have ur son in the car at all. How irresponsible of him. I want to slap him silly. Sorry. But he put your child on serious danger.  I would tell him that u are calling the cops. Threaten him first if he takes it lightly than go ahead pick up that phone and call. He may lose his job. But if u don't make that call YOU may lose your son. Hope it all works out mama. Praying for u

[JamieNVance]

I would not call CPS. I would stay far far far away from that. You have control over your sons safety, if you are afraid of your husband then maybe you should think of you and your sons wellbeing more in debth.

[JamieNVance]

I think you just shouldnt let him take ur son if he is going out to friends house any more regardless if he plans to drink or not. You could also share your concern with his friend that you dont want him driving home drunk especially with ur son.

[Sue_2ndbabyontheway]

My advice is to not let it go , this is why so many ppl lose there lives so easily . Drunk driving isn't just dangerouse for himself and your son it is dangerouse for everyone around him . He has to learn to grow up and be responsible for his actions . Try to get him help and if he refuses then if it was up to me I would call the cops , God bless you and your family and good luck

[anj3li3]

Thank you so much for your input. I am thinking to call the cops anonymously and ask advice. I dont want them to think this is ok with me i am just scared what will be the out come of my actions if i let this go... or call cops. I am very lost and confused right now

[TMMB]

Well, I'm not sure what the appropriate response to your husband should be, but I don't think that you should call CPS, because if you do, they will open a case, and they could remove the child from your home just because you live under the same roof as your husband; remember, once a case is opened they are obliged to scrutinize you as well, including who you're associated with, and often their first response is just to take the child and ask questions later. Best wishes.

[lilmamasweetannie0427]

Well first of all, you wouldn't be ruining his life. He is ruining his life. You need to think about yourself and your son and not him because he obviously has no respect for himself, you, or your son. So my advice is do your own small investigation and check out his car for yourself. Never let him take your son with him when he plans on drinking and if he doesn't change call the police and tell them your scared that your husband is going to kill himself or someone else by driving drunk. Never let him go out and drive while he is drinking. Even if he is buzzed he can still kill someone. Take it from someone who has lost family members due to a drunk driver.