baby daddy

[mommylov3]

am I wrong for feeling some kinda way that my boyfriend still talks to his other babys mom and not just about their kids. he doesn't understand y I feel the way I feel and he says she's his babys mom so he will keep talking to her regardless of how I feel or what I say.

[Amy1830]

I definitely wouldn't be cool with that. There's no reason they should ever have conversations about anything else but the children. They're still exes and at one time had feelings for each other. I don't keep in touch with any of my exes and my fiancé doesn't either. If we happened to have kids with someone else we would both keep it on a very simple level - talking about pick ups and drops off and kid things only. I do have a son from a previous relationship but his father isn't in our lives at all which made it very easy for my fiancé. He said if he had to deal with an ex calling and being around every weekend he didn't know if he would have been able to date someone with a kid. Because there's always going to be that "what if" factor.

[nicole331984]

Me and my ex husband/kidsfather are very cool and we talk even if its not about the kids and my boyfriend was worried at first and still has little insecurities but I reassure him its nothin and I even bring him around and talk on the phone while he's around so he knows its nothin but if your boyfriend cant reassure you that its nothin more than jus talkin on a friendship level then I would do some searchin to find out whats going on and if that means going through his phone then thats what I would do but u have to be prepared for the worst goodluck

[specialmom]

I guess I'm going to just give my opinion.  I certainly understand how this it would feel.  But, perhaps the friendly chit chat between them isn't anything more than being friends because they have kids together.  Oh my gosh, this is SO much easier than when ex's hate each other.  When they hate each other, it complicates everything and can be a major pain on everyone (including YOU).  When they are amicable and getting along, things just flow smoother for all involved. So, being friends between ex's to me isn't a bad thing when they have kids together.

However, that is different than if you suspect that something could happen between them.  If that is the case, then that has to be fixed.  I would not be okay with someone that still wanted my man, for example, chatting with him.  

So, I guess if you think that other stuff is going on, that's a problem.  But just being friendly and talking about people they know in common or what's going on is less to be upset about in my opinion.  good luck

[mommylov3]

jaszygirl. you are totally right. I wish he could understand that

[mommylov3]

babyrose15 . I totally agree with you.

[jaszygirl]

Yea they only should be discussing the kids. If he with you he need to let the other know wats up with no strings attached.

[mommylov3]

at first he would show me the messages between him and her, but lately he won't show me which is showing me he's hiding something. But I don't mind him calling and talking to his kids but y is he still talking to his ex

[mommylov3]

at first he would show me the messages between him and her, but lately he won't show me which is showing me he's hiding something. But I don't mind him calling and talking to his kids but y is he still talking to his ex

[Babyrose15]

If that's his baby mama all they should be talking about are the kids or child!! Not anything extra...but that's just my thinking... And I guess he does have to communicate with her since that's his baby mama but hey me and my child's father don't speak... I can't stand him actually lol

[LutiousLefty]

I can understand that he still wants to be part of his childrens life but he should do it in a open way, I'd be suspicious if my partner was texting his ex and wouldn't show me the message but if he's calling to talk to his kids, I feel that's different.