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Pregnant colleague at work, what to do and NOT to do.
Hi girls!
I'm running out of patience.
I need to say Stop and No.
Let me know if you agree or not,
If you have a pregnant colleague at work, please be considerate and give some thoughts to the following:
"You look tired" - let's be straight here, this comment never helps. Esspecially if you actually feel pretty good and fresh this is for sure going to bring you right back down again.
Petting/Touching the Belly -
Yes I can understand it is tempting.
But this is a BIG NO NO.
This is not appropiate, please respect personal space and do not touch unless invited to.
"You're so BIG!" - I understand that this comment doesn't bother all expecting moms, as it is a sign of a growing baby, but isn't a better alternative "You look so healthy/well today!" because you don't know how far along this pregnant lady is, to hear "so big" when you're not even halfway through your pregnancy can give some anxiety.. and pregnant gals have enough worries, don't add yours.
"Was it planned?" -I am surpriced how people think this is more appropiate question than: "Was it an accident?"
Do I need to say more?
Things to say:
"Congratulations!"
&
"You look well/healthy today!"
It doesn't need to be more complicated than that..
Cheers
I'm running out of patience.
I need to say Stop and No.
Let me know if you agree or not,
If you have a pregnant colleague at work, please be considerate and give some thoughts to the following:
"You look tired" - let's be straight here, this comment never helps. Esspecially if you actually feel pretty good and fresh this is for sure going to bring you right back down again.
Petting/Touching the Belly -
Yes I can understand it is tempting.
But this is a BIG NO NO.
This is not appropiate, please respect personal space and do not touch unless invited to.
"You're so BIG!" - I understand that this comment doesn't bother all expecting moms, as it is a sign of a growing baby, but isn't a better alternative "You look so healthy/well today!" because you don't know how far along this pregnant lady is, to hear "so big" when you're not even halfway through your pregnancy can give some anxiety.. and pregnant gals have enough worries, don't add yours.
"Was it planned?" -I am surpriced how people think this is more appropiate question than: "Was it an accident?"
Do I need to say more?
Things to say:
"Congratulations!"
&
"You look well/healthy today!"
It doesn't need to be more complicated than that..
Cheers
I will just ignore sone of the stupid comments that I hear sometimes other than that,my other co-workers are really sweet and understand a lot on what I'm going through as a ftm. At the front end of the retail store that I work they are mostly women so they tell me nice comments, give me advices or we just chat about nice things.
I totally agree!! That has been a huge pet peeve of mine. Luckily I am a teacher and have been off the past couple months but I am also hearing things from family, friends, strangers on the street. "I was the same way," "...happened to me," "you really shouldn't..." I am so tired of unsolicited advice and everyone thinking they know everything about MY pregnancy.
I work with the public, in sales and customer service. I have customers all the time say oooo you've gotten bigger since I've seen you last... or my Co worker who is 2 years younger with 4 kids to me being a ftm. Who says she can't wait to see me waddle like a penguin. Really? How nice of you.
How about some support or a friendly comment?
Totally agree with you ladies. It does sometimes takes a hit on our esteem.
How about some support or a friendly comment?
Totally agree with you ladies. It does sometimes takes a hit on our esteem.
Story of my life!! Ty for posting :p
My favorite is sleep now cause you won't be able to later I'm like seriously I'm a trained sleep tech (not practicing) you can't stock up on sleep! I have too much stuff to do to do to be sleeping all the time I sleep when I'm tired. Anyway that is a pet peeve of mine lol
All pregnancies are differents. Its all genetics and living situation and other circumstances.
I wouldn't brush off another pregnant ladys concern... neither would I add my own concerns, we have so much to worry about as it is..
I wouldn't brush off another pregnant ladys concern... neither would I add my own concerns, we have so much to worry about as it is..
I stay home with the.kids now I was a cna and between the gas and sitters for 2 kids it wasn't really worth it for.me so its the best decision for us. But I hated.working pregnant the creepy people rubbing your belly. I also hated people saying oh your eating/ drinking that? Like EF off!!!! Or my stopping last pregnancy at 33 wks my son was iugr and born preemie oh I worked till I.delivered blah blah blah great for you lady!!!! Lol and the.worst was when I had the flu for 2 wks and couldn't keep anything down I lost 20 lbs I gained and another 8 I was 6 months and my boss was all oh I.lost 20 lbs too and my baby was fine . it's not a big deal. Really ahole?? Yeah not a.big deal but my son was.only born preemie w iugr at 36 wks he was barely 3.4 lbs. Oh yeah no big deal... People need.to zip their mouths.
No clue! I am a ftm so Ive never said anything like that to pregnant woman before, I didnt know what was going on with them and their body, I couldnt relate. I just know I do not the comments, questions and unsolicited advice. Everyone knew what was best for me, I apparently didnt.
Some things I found rude and bugged me other things I laughed and would share their stupidity with everyone I know. My boss is a moron as it is, but she has no kids and hates kids. One day when I was 34 weeks she told me slow down no running, being completely serious. Ummm I waddle everywhere and the only place Im running to is the bathroom lol
Some things I found rude and bugged me other things I laughed and would share their stupidity with everyone I know. My boss is a moron as it is, but she has no kids and hates kids. One day when I was 34 weeks she told me slow down no running, being completely serious. Ummm I waddle everywhere and the only place Im running to is the bathroom lol
38weeks,,not long now:)
I'm a bit jealous.. I'm only 23weeks, can't wait! :)
I'm also very private and not comfortable with all the attention.. but esspecially comments like that..
It is strange how it is okay to openly talk about your appearance if you're pregnant.
Why is that?
and some things ppl blurt out are just plain mean.
I'm a bit jealous.. I'm only 23weeks, can't wait! :)
I'm also very private and not comfortable with all the attention.. but esspecially comments like that..
It is strange how it is okay to openly talk about your appearance if you're pregnant.
Why is that?
and some things ppl blurt out are just plain mean.
I am 38 weeks now, and thank God was able to start my leave at 36 weeks otherwise I would have gone off on someone I could feel myself losing my patience with everyone. I am a private person at work and never felt the need to discuss any of these things with my cooworkers.
I am already a pale person, early in my pregnancy one lady asked me almost every day how I was feeling because I looked really pale and not doing too good. And everytime Id politley tell her its not pregnancy I was born this way!
I am already a pale person, early in my pregnancy one lady asked me almost every day how I was feeling because I looked really pale and not doing too good. And everytime Id politley tell her its not pregnancy I was born this way!
mommaberry I agree. Since faar too many ppl doesnt see this as obvious No-No's it is a good idea to put it in the companies policy book..
I've considered to put my above post in the bathroom stalls at work so everyone will read them.(Impossible not to read if you're on the toilet)
I donno. I just feel violated almost.
Everything I do is now an open discussion.
What I eat. Wear. What I look like. Everything.
I really MISS being treated as a normal colleague again.
I've considered to put my above post in the bathroom stalls at work so everyone will read them.(Impossible not to read if you're on the toilet)
I donno. I just feel violated almost.
Everything I do is now an open discussion.
What I eat. Wear. What I look like. Everything.
I really MISS being treated as a normal colleague again.
ppl ask me about the weight too.. very inappropiate. People loose all sense of bounderies.
one colleague said to me when she found out I was pregnant: "Ooh I can't wait to see you get REALLY BIG!!!!"
Not sure what that is suppose to mean?
Not sure what that is suppose to mean?
Something like this should be put into every company handbook. Just because I spend 40 hrs a week with you does not mean I want to hear your comments. Many times I had to bite my tongue not to be rude back. And I still do not understand why people think its ok to just rub your belly, for one my bellt button has been sensitive since stretching, OUCH, and two its still my body! Sometimes I felt like rubbing their belly back lol
Absolutely brilliant lol ....
I am getting a tshirt saying "don't pet me" !
I am getting a tshirt saying "don't pet me" !
I totally agree, My boss really asked me "so how weight have you gained already" dumb loser
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