Don't want to tell people

[3157746100609266013_695_5]

My husband and I are expecting our sixth and last baby in August. Normally we wouldn't wait to tell everyone but with number five who turned out to be our first baby girl...no one seemed excited for us. My MIL felt sorry for us because she had five and it was so hard for her. She also commented that it's becoming too expensive to keep up with the birthdays and Christmas for the grand kids. Don't buy my kids gifts if it isn't in your budget. I am nothing like her. Money was tight for them, her kid's walked all over her, and then tragically my husband's father passed of cancer when he was eleven. When we were 15 and 18 my husband and I discussed what a blessing a big family would be. Our children have brought us joy and we are told often that they are the best behaved most well mannered kids any person has seen. My mom saw the pregnancy test box on the table and said "Are you serious, not again." I told her it was negative. Does anyone else feel like they can't share their awesome news because of similar reaction?

[ladysamwise]

I am one of six kids. Big families can be hard but they are such a blessing. I love my big family and wouldn't mind if we had a big family too. You and your husband are the only too that have a say in the decision of how many kids to have. Congratulations on your new little family member and don't let anyone take away the happiness you feel.  

[Corriem]

Thanks mw89, I'm sorry that you are in a similar situation, but its comforting to know I am not the only one, even though we Dont know each other it makes me feel like I am not alone...thank you and I hope all works out for you and congratulations your on the baby!!!!!

[erin_loren]

Birth control has everyone spoiled. If anyone has more than two children then they're judged. It's disgusting.

[mw89]

@Corriem I am in the same situation.  I am still married to my ex, my two kids dad. And he refuses to sign the papers.  He has also taken so much money from me. And will not pay me child support. He even has the nerve to claim the kids on his taxes. Its a pain and my boyfriend now and I are having a baby together its his first. I was so scared to tell my family. Because I am still married they are ok with it now but at first they weren't.  But I just came to the conclusion that it doesn't matter what they think because we are happy.
Congrats on your bew baby

[Corriem]

I had a hard time telling my family eventhough I am 32, I felt like I was 15, I've been in the middle of a messy divorce for the past year and some change....my husband robbed my entire life savings behind my back, i been put on all sorts of depression meds, lost all my friends because i left my husband, lost 60lbs....and i was not heavy to begin with, gone to see many many drs and specialist, therapists and so on.....my family didn't exactly approve of me dating anyone because I'm legally still married, it's a loooonnnngggg stressful annoying  process,  but anyhow...it took me a good 3 weeks to build up the courage to tell my dad and brother, 5 weeks to tell my mom...she said "well this is going to take me a while to get used to this" I couldn't see how, she lives 800 miles away...but what my point is is that everyone is selfish to some degree, you just can't let their feeling affect you and your excitement with another baby!!! This is my first and though I am still going through my divorce, and at time I feel that my boyfriend only stays with me because I am pregnant, I am excited to be having my little boy....even if I end up doing it alone and struggle....I love him so much already and I haven't even met him yet and I just know that I will love home even more when he joins my life come may!

[showard022]

My mom had 8 children. Every single one of then is amazing and a blessing. She seriously could not have been as happy without them. Yes they are expensive and buying for my siblings as well as their children is killer but I decide to yoh. It takes a special person to have that many children and it's amazing. My childhood rocked. My adulthood is even better. My little brothers and sisters adore my son as well amazing help out so much. I couldn't imagine life without them. My grandmother was the same way as well. I don't think she will ever get over the one time she brutalized my mom for have another kid and my mom miscaarried. My mom got pregnant again and my grandmother didn't say a word. Ignore what others say and celebrate you wonderfull blessing!!!!..

[milkchoclatepreggomom]

I would tell them how I feel if they judge. Some light take it very personal and will think 2 nixt time. If they can why can't you? If God gives u a blessing, tzke it with 2 hands cause he won't suprise u forever!!! Some people never recieve it and get jalous inside. Why else would they be nasty? No need for it right :)

[3157746100609266013_695_5]

Thank you all for the encouragement. Congratulations on your new additions as well. I say if you can afford them and handle the work that goes into raising them have them.

[addison_mom5115]

Honestly their opinions doesn't matter and your kids are heaven sent. The people that's judging you aren't providing for your kids,only you two.

[tiffanybul1990]

My mother had 7. Kids everytime one of her kids get pregnant she tells them to stop haveing kids just bc she has 19 grandkids

[mommyytoobee1]

My mom had eight in total some people told her the same thing but she was excited so she didt mind..

[familyarizaga]

I'm on my third and honestly want more children my family is kind of the same not so much my mom or his but cousins. But I already stopped caring what people have to say because at the end of the day they dint pay my bills never the less help me with my kids so **** them I'm going to keep growing my family because it truly is a blessing and I love them. Just hoping this baby is a girl lol

[Amanda_Jane]

I was heart broken when I got negative reactions. My husband has 3 little girls and when we found out we were so excited, me especially bc it's my first. And a year prior to finding out we are pregnant I had surgery and was told I had less than 50% chance of ever having my own. People were so nasty bc it's his 4th. I ignored them and then they ask why I'm cold towards them and I tell them. Makes them think about their negative comments.

[case933]

Oh no :( it makes me SO sad when I hear people react negatively towards a new baby. I have always wanted a big family too and I always get bad reactions when I say I want 3+ kids. Babies are such a percious gift, no matter if its the 1st or the 10th. I hope your family will see that and support you! I believe its really nobodies business but yours how many kids you want to have as long as you love and support them as best you can.

[3157746100609266013_695_5]

Thank you all. It will be fine. We will tell them after we know gender.  If they complain that it wasn't sooner I will be honest and hopefully they won't be so quick to judge for the next person.

[proudmommytobe15]

Because I'm young I dreaded telling my family. I got a lot of horrible reactions. It used to hurt my feelings really bad but everyone's just got used to the fact that I'm pregnant. My grandmother was trying to tell me to consider adoption and now she feels very bad

[augboy2015]

His mom and dad don't want us together

[kiki24115]

As long as you two are happy...it doesn't matter if others are happy for you...it's not their blessing...it's yours and your husband

[LyakGarcia]

I understand what you are going thru, we are expecting #4, and all of the sudden everybody feels sorry for us, the money they say, the cleaning, youll need a new vehicle, get yourself "fixed", i just plain told them,  as long as their taxes arent paying for my kids food stay out of it, kids are a blessing, and you think family would understand, sadly its not always the case, God bless and happy pregnancy! !