Wrong sex for family. Anyone else with this problem?

[Susinko]

My stepmother was very excited when I became pregnant.  I was a little worried at first because I knew she really wanted a grandson after having five granddaughters.  She's...very hands off when it comes to my first child who is a girl.  By that I mean she only is interested in her at Christmas and Christian summer camp.

She was calling and texting all the time...until the sonogram showed that this baby will also be a girl.  I haven't heard from her since then.  No, I have to correct that.  When I posted my baby registry online, she wrote me to ask my church for baby things, not her.

Has anyone else had this happen to them?

[zareenawifey]

Wow. That's so sad. My husband and his family were all really wanting another boy (we already have a son) and I was worried what they would think when I found out it was a girl. But they were so happy anyway. Remember it is YOUR baby. Not hers. I know how hard it at is though.  I was feeling guilty when I found our it was a girl. But now I'm so happy.

[Lizard8124]

That has got to be hard for a family, a want of one cause of not having one, but I have to agree that it is messed up to take it out on you, and even the kids, they can't help what they are, be it boy or girl, so to treat any child like that is just really sad. I have 3 kids already, 2 girls and 1 boy, I am pregnant with my 4th and was scared also for my boyfriend and his family. They only have girls as well and were all really hoping for a boy, I wanted a boy as well, and although we got a boy, I did have to pull at least my boyfriend aside before we found out and tell him that even if it is a girl, I need to know that he was going to be okay, and not focus so much on the "it is a boy, I know it" so much, incase he is disappointed. I still dunno what would have happened if they had told us girl, I worry about it sometimes and wonder, but he has lost his first daughter and is amazing with his second, so I don't think he would do any less or feel any less for another daughter. Maybe try talking to your family, telling them that you feel your daughter is getting cheated, robbed in a sense cause she is a girl and that it isn't fair the way they are making people feel. See if that kinda opens their eyes maybe. If not, you know who to cut out of your time and effort.

[lonna3288]

Wow. Are u serious? Its sad no selfish others can be,i recently found out im having a girl and im thrilled,but my friends and family not so much,i was pregnant before with a boy but i miscarried at 25 weeks so now with the new baby they wanted me to have a boy for my second chance,so there very standoffishness now they dont like me talking abou my pregnancy, but im fine and you'll be fine as well because it YOUR BABY not hers long as shes healthy she should be happy for you just dont sweat it she'll come around eventually☺

[Susinko]

Thank you all so much.  A lot of my family is messed up like this, so although the reaction should come as no surprise, it still feels like my soul is bleeding.

My daughter had development delays because of medical issues and my grandfather took me aside to tell me that my husband and I obviously make 'retarded children' and so I shouldn't have any more.  My father (who I believe is still angry I told my therapist about his abuse when I was a child) hasn't even acknowledged my baby's existance.

But I have a wonderful husband, daughter and a few other relatives that are happy for me.  But it's still hard.

[rushipooh]

People will always have negative things to say, so sad that its a family member though. I have a 5 year old daughter and I'm now pregnant with twin girls, most persons are like, it should be boys or I should go back for a boy or some nonsense of the sort. I pay them no mind.

[collinsmumma]

Aww that's mean.. She should still be just as happy with another grand daughter and if she's not tell her to kick rocks

[1Audrey]

My fiancé's mother never liked me until o got pregnant. She always kept saying im going to have a boy when i end up having a girl. Now everyone on my fiancé side is talking to me because our daughter is the only girl in the family. There are only boys and no girls. Now my fiancé mom said she will set up baby shower for us then dhe canceled at the last minute and said she have better things to do. Come to find out she wanted to have somemore kids but after she had my fiancé she got her tubes tied and she wanted a girl next.