I am being unreasonable??

[Val_Schoen]

My husband is planning a trip with his friends to Jamaica. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and he's planning on going when I'll be roughly 35-36 weeks.  All I asked him is to make it 5 days trip rather than a full week. Once he returns he has another getaway with his work for the weekend but at least this second trip is a few hours away.

I'm upset because a couple of his friends including my husband told be I was being unreasonable.  I got mad and told that they wouldn't understand unless they were pregnant. I waddle around, i'm tired, I can lift heavy stuff and don't feel the greatest... you know how it is. I want my support person close by... at driving distance! What if something happened?! Please let me know your opinions.

[1NAMILLION]

You...unreasonable? !?! Ha...must be a joke...are they Frickkin serious? It's bad enough that he's going on a trip when you'll be at such a critical point in the pregnancy,  but, I think that he is being downright selfish...his "donkey" shouldn't be going ANYWHERE PERIOD!!!  His friends can't possibly be married or have children....they just can't and if they do I'd be the friends wife to bring this selfish stuff to a halt. These fellas must get away with any and everything from their companions. Hubby had better stop listening to the peanut gallery and realize the saying is so true...happy wife...happy life.

I hope that he changes his mind and dies the correct selfless thing as a hubby and father. Best wishes and congrats on baby!!

[Tati107]

You have every right to be upset. He should reconsider that trip. You and baby are more important.

[KellSull]

Oh, I would be irate! You could have your baby at any time! Why would he want to risk missing the birth! What if you go into labor and can't get yourself to the hospital?! Put your foot down and tell him to get his priorities in line!

[worriedmomtobe2014]

I'd be damned if my man went anywhere on a vacation without me first off specially being pregnant and so close to due date ....if anything us woman who carry there children would need one not them and two is he nuts and please tell me your a younger couple bc if this is a grown man doing this he has a lot of growing up to do himself before the babys born ....he needs to keep his butt at home with you anything could happen and he's being the one who is selfish ...if something were to happen to you while he was gone or to thw baby ask him if he'd be able to live with himself knowing he was on vacation out of country while you were here going through somerhing .....he needs to get his priorities straight and thats family which is you and your baby is first and number one then work and his friends ....he needs to man up and quick I'd tell him straight if you leave were done bc obviously he doesn't care and you and baby shoulf be all he's thinking about specially this close to the end ....put him in line now or hell walk all over you ....

[BonitaMichelle]

Let him go for the 7 days. He might need to get away before the baby comes. 5 days, 7 days? Is it really that big of a deal for you?

[victoriamarie7347]

I agree with all the comments here. My husband had a highly stressful job and I tried to be supportive of his need to get away for a bit in my first pregnancy. I really did try...but I wasn't supportive at all! I was so angry but we got into fights when I brought it up. Toward the end I would get so upset because if I went into labour I wouldn't have anyone to drive me to the hospital an hour away. Looking back, I still don't feel like I was being unreasonable. You should try talking to your husband again when it's just the two of you and you're both relaxed. Let him know what a big deal it could be.