Jealous of my hubby!

[jhertel2070]

Does anyone get super jealous when you're up late at night, taking care of the kids, cooking and cleaning all day/everyday and your hubby is snoring away in a nice comfortable bed? I have a 1 1/2 year old who is still adjusting to sleeping in his own bed and I'm 7 months pregnant with our second baby. I feel like sleeping just isnt an option between being unfomfortable, getting up every couple hours to pee, and getting our toddler back to sleep in the middle of the night. Not only do my pregnancy hormones make it worse, I break down crying alot. Lack of sleep doesnt help either. Does anyone else feel this way? Any opinions on what I can do to make things more managable?

[jhertel2070]

Thanks everyone for the comments. I am a full time Mommy but I am also a nanny to 3 other toddlers. So I have 4 toddlers in my house monday-friday 5am-4pm and I'm also 7 months pregnant. My hubby works 8 hours a day, m-f. We talked about it and he has started to help more. I just had to keep asking him. I still put my son to bed every night, but he helps with dinner, bath time, and just little things around the house. Things have gotten alot better after I finally told him how I felt. Thanks for all of the advice!

[beckyy28]

I agree.^ I'm at home all day while my husband works. My house is always clean, laundry done, dinner done, etc..(no excuse for it not to be)  I'm blessed to be able to stay home.

[RockRose]

I have a little different take on this.  Are you a full time mom?  If so,  you have all the freedom in the world every single day to do whatever you want to do when you want to do it.  I think sometimes full time moms believe they have to regiment their time,  and they have to stay home and cook and clean all day when in fact,  they could pack a lunch and go to library story hour and then to the park with friends who also have kids.  Then you can come back home,  do a couple loads of laundry and toss in a frozen pizza and fix a bagged salad for dinner.  

You have a toddler.  There's no reason for you to be "cooking and cleaning all day" unless you're a maid and cook for several families.  

You are blessed,  girl.   Most women throughout the world would change places with you.  It's about realizing that - and not feeling housebound.

Best wishes.

[SaSa28]

This was one of our many problems before the big incident where he came home drunk.  You can look it up on my post if you want. Well I talked to him about it and towards the end I told him what the hospital did, " if you are not here to help, be day or night then its time for you to go". Anyways nothing seemed to change. I told him that if he cant do the few things I asked of him and he was not happy with me then he should go away to work or go live else where. Still no changes. Then that fateful night... I kicked him out. We are now going through a separation... I am still not getting any sleep, still doing every thing by myself,  still takeing care of the kids by myself.  But at least im not being abused any more.  
What you choose to do is completely up to you. Is it really as bad as you think it is? Is talking about it going to make a difference? Or will you end up in similar shoes to mine?
What ever you choose... I wish you luck

[uvamom2boys]

We had a 'come to Jesus' talk where I told my husband that I really needed more help in the evenings.  Now he does the dishes after dinner and helps pick up after the kids are in bed.  I had to be really specific about how he could help but now things are much better.  Also could your toddler stay in a crib longer?  If she's having trouble transitioning, she may just need more time.  My last 2 were 17 months apart and we got another crib off of freecycle so they could both have one.  It really helped a lot.  Good luck.

[bigmamapagaza]

My hubby works 12-14 hours a day six days a week. I don't complain or say anything to him because I think a marriage needs to be equal. I'm lucky enough to have a hubby who helps even if he works like a horse. But I never ask him too. I think if he works full time, ask him if he could do a focal or two for you to ease your load. If he is honest amd says either yes or no due to his work level respect that.

[naru89]

I know how you feel watching my hubby sleep and snore away makes me so mad so i poke him awake lol

[rosebud56401]

I totally agree. My fiance has 5 boys. I'm 5 weeks preggo I get up early, go to work, come home take care if the kids, clean, cook him a meal and wait for him to get home. I go to bed he comes in an hour later starts snoring and I'm awake. I can't do this. Our couch is bad and I'm getting frustrated regretting getting preggo because I can't take my sleeping pills.

[brit333]

Drives me nuts I'm the only one that gets up with our daughter. And I never fall asleep right away so yes the snoring and twitching drives me bonkers. Thankfully our daughter just got a twin size bed so sometimes I just go cuddle with her cuz she is easier to cuddle with..  And my husband has just been super rude lately and snapping at me left and right. I'm getting so frustrated with him. I don't even want to be around him or in the same room most of the time.

[susamor]

What about giving your toddler before bed time a warm bath with Johnson & Johnsons lavendar Sleeping bathwash and lotion and a warm small glass of milk? And try drinking enough fluids and snacks an hour before you sleep so you wont have to get up to use the restroom. Good luck!

[beckyy28]

I know my comment was off subject but when you mentioned your hubby snoring away.. it came to mind lol

[beckyy28]

I wouldn't say i get jealous of my husband but when I'm trying to sleep and he's already snoring.. sometimes i get annoyed and throw a pillow over his head or lightly throw an arm in his face lol but he's always been my jungle gym when I'm trying to get comfy .. seems like i always have a leg or two thrown over his legs or something. Poor guy.

[Kayjays_Mummy17]

Talk to him , he should be helping you out. :)

[ntrinaculookin]

I agree w mommy431...sometimes just a lil communication will do the job...i also had 2 tell mines & he started helping out tremendously...& gives me so much encouragement now...weird I was the same way getting upset bc he was able 2 move around & do stuff I couldn't do or really don't feel like it...keep ya head up mom & let him know :-)

[Mommy431]

Talk to your husband. Hopefully, it can happen in a way that won't upset him. Lol.

You are growing a human. You can't keep doing it all.

Surely he'll understand, because he's needed! What man doesn't want to feel needed.... And you need to rest. Or you'll stress yourself into health problems.