Last name ?

[Patriciaaa02]

So I've been thinking of not putting my bf last name to my daughter bc I think he be talking to other girls behind my back he keeps denying it but idk what to think when I when I went to use his phone to text my friend the word beautiful and sexy appeared right next to each other as soon as I started typing as if he uses those words a lot he never ever calls me that so I know for a fact it's not me and well he is a good dad been there since day one but I feel really hurt knowing he might be talking to someone else especially while I'm pregnant it hurts me so much bc I feel very unattractive and he's over there making other girls feel special it's been 4 days now that we been arguing about it and I keep giving him the cold shoulder and I feel really disrespected I'm confuse and don't know what to do anymore :(

[mayaawi]

I know how u feel hun.. I feel miserable when my husband even looks at other girls.. U should not argue with ur bf in my opinion.. Cz if he is talkin to other lasses argument wont stop him.. Chill out for some days.. Feel confident.. Give him extra love. And after some days ask him politely that u saw those words in his phone and if there is something u should know.. Cz u r gona start a family. And u dont want any trouble afterwards..

[mayaawi]

Oh and one more thing.. My mom says guys are ALWAYS attracted to other girls and girls are desperate and wd do anything to get a family man.. Even if he is someone else's family man.. In this situation its like a man is standing right at the edge of a cliff with ******* waiting at the bottom.. Dont push him away in this situation.. Hold on to him.. Dont let him fall.. Make him feel that u r the one

[Patriciaaa02]

I told him what i saw as soon as i saw it and he says I'm trippn that he's not talking to no one and he doesn't have time for that he's too worry about me and his daughter and we are all he wants and I'm the only one for him and so on but it's hurts my heart so bad that he would even do that while I'm pregnant he ruined my " oh my pregnancy going so perfect" moment I've been crying for days now and going to bed crying last night I got reallyyyy mad I felt like hitting him and breaking things while he slept so peacefully and I'm up crying my a$$ off smh it's not the first time either it happened a few years ago too him talking to other girls and I thought we had moved on from that I was trusting him again and I feel like he ruined it !! And he he says I'm the one giving up in the relationship and my best friend tells me I need to work it out with him for our daughter and my mom doesn't know anything but she says how I need to make my relationship work out and how we have to get marry one day and I feel like everyone takes his side bc of his innocent face oh I don't do nothing face and everyone sees how much he spoils me and caters to me but that doesn't mean he can talk to girls behind my back ! I feel like no one gets me :(

[tiantiluv]

I understand its the hormones girl and you are sounding very insecure,  untill  you have valid proof that he  is talking to other women then baby girl just chill for now how you get him is you beinh calm and content keep your eyes open at all time but then agin you have to trust him, i know its hard especially if he had some past skeletons trust me iam going through the same kind of trust issues but you know if a man loves you and wants you and if he wants to messs it up over a fling hunny tree that will ne be on him and it will hurt him 20 times than it will you , if he is talking to other girls then let it come out the way its supposed to dont force it dont argue with him cuz that is stressing your relationship and your guys baby. Be confident even if you dont feel it. You are giving him a gift that way worth more than any regular female can give him and thats a family. :) stay up hunny i know being pregnant is no joke trust me i cant wait for my baby to come out lol..

[MamaJ1014]

You should not base whether your child gets his last name off you two's relationship. If he's been doing what he needs to do as a father then why shouldn't his daughter get his last name. That's where conflict comes in, women get their relationship and the relationship with the child intertwined and that shouldn't be the case. My child's father has gotten caught cheating and it's really some fck him type sh!t, but the man loves his son and I know he's gonna be a good father so I'm giving my son his last name.

[Patriciaaa02]

Yes I'm very insecure at the moment  when we first met I was like 120 lbs flat stomach big butt and my body was just so perfect no stretch marks no cellulites and now im 180 lbs with cellulites and stretch marks even tho no one would even guess I'm 180 lbs cause I look like 140 lbs right now I know how much weight I've put on and I know my body is not the same I don't mind it I'll do it all for my baby girl I always thought I couldn't have kids so idc but at the same time I'm insecure and my bf talking to other girls doesnt help out it makes my self esteem go more down I can't wait to have my baby and go back to old me and it's true what you're saying at the end he will hurt more for messing up our family it just hurts me more for my daughter I come from divorce parents and that's the last thing I want for my daughter but I will not tolerate cheating from him and talking to other girls is cheating to me

[Patriciaaa02]

@mamaj1014 I guess I know that will hurt him so I guess that's my way of getting back at him I tell him he can always see his daughter tho regardless of us being together or not I won't take her away but I know the last name is such a big deal to him that I know it will hurt him and I feel like that's my way of saying I told not to fck with me bc I told him since the beginning of my pregnancy don't try me especially now that I'm pregnant cause I'll make u regret it and I don't him to think I was playing when I said it

[MamaJ1014]

I know you wanna hurt him, but the best revenge is gonna be when you have that baby, bounce back, and he realize how it's nothing for baby girl to have a step daddy real quick. Lol. I'm joking, but no seriously, you only have a few more weeks. He wanna play with fire then let his *** burn. I keep telling my child's daddy that pregnancy is temporary and I'm gonna bounce back. He didn't believe me, now I'm 18 days from my due date and the n***a is realizing just how fast this is about to be over.

[maw4389]

Not trying to sound rude or anything, but do you actually have proof of him talking to other girls? Did you ever see actual messages from and to other girls?

[Patriciaaa02]

Lmao you're funny but yea it is true even now that I'm pregnant I still get hit on and at work over the counter u can't see my belly and good looking guys do try to flirt with me I think it's funny & I know I'm not ugly not to be conceited but I'm the prettiest gf my bf has ever had and he's an ok looking guy people always tell me i could of done better but it was his heart and personality that I fell in love with and made me think he was different but at the end it seems like all guys fck up no matter what it hurts me bc I've been with him since I was 19 I will soon be 24 and now a baby on the way and he tried sooooo hard to be my bf I use to be mean to him and tell him eff off when he would try to get with me so all the effort he put in into being with me for him to mess it up like nothing it's hurtful and no i didn't see the actual texts but what a coincidence that as soon as I went to type in the bottom little bar where your most use words show up sexy and beautiful showed up and they were the only words that showed up he's done it before so it's hard to believe him now

[tiantiluv]

Omg same boat girlie i was 135 now i weigh 184 stretch marks are appearing face is getting fat and swollen nose is fat i did a complete 160 going from small frame to who did it and why. Your feelings and what your going through is whay iam going through right now smh belive me if you have a instagram add me @tianti21 ypu you will see what iam talking about lol

[Danielleberger1]

What I will tell you is your lucky he wants to be a father and provide. He should give his last name to his daughter. In my case, my daughters father decided drugs were more important to him than his daughter, so he isn't going to be in her life, so she's taking my last name. He may be talking to other girls or may not, but he's going to be a father. So keep that into your consideration before giving him that blow, because that's disrespectful to a man when their kid doesn't take their last name.

[kourtneeeey]

i gave my daughter both our last names. his-mine.

[Leabellallee]

There's no law you have to give the baby his last name, but it won't stop him from being dad. That being said- its also much harder to change the last name from his to yours later if things go south. Furthermore- you'll prob never 100% definitively know if he's talking to other girls or cheating. But if you have a gut feeling and its ongoing you need to distance yourself from him romantically. Because even if he's not cheating your insecurity alone will cause a rift in the relationship and you will not be happy. Sometimes we subconsciously cast our doubt about the relationship on our partners by thinking they are cheating. It's usually a reflection that we ourselves want out of the relationship but are too scared to admit it. Not always- but sometimes. Just a different view from the others posted. It's certainly not the gospel by any means.

[Patriciaaa02]

What would you guys think if u guys saw the same thing in your bf phones new phone he just got too so it's not like it's from the past

[maw4389]

Does he hide his phone? Or take it to the bathroom with him?

[Patriciaaa02]

No

[Patriciaaa02]

Well he always takes it with him when he Gona do number 2 but so do I n I'm. Not hiding nothing

[Patriciaaa02]

But he's a business man so his phone stays going off and he has no lock on it either

[Patriciaaa02]

Idk if it's bc he knows I never touch it like ever

[maw4389]

Usually guys that cheat don't let their phone out of their sight...but who knows...

[Patriciaaa02]

My bf is kinda slow I hate feeling like this my head been hurting for days now thinking about it I'm so tired talking about it with him

[Patriciaaa02]

I told him today to put it on our daughter he doesn't talk to any girls and he said he couldn't cause he has done it in the past wtf is that suppose to mean ? We got into it and he ended up putting on our daughter and everything he doesn't talk to anyone but I feel like he ended up doing it after I exploded and went off on him to shut me up I'm so confuse now :/

[RockRose]

Patricia, I think you need to stop this until you have proof.

After you first posted about the "hey" message that suggested "hey sexy" or "hey beautiful" I've spent some time with my Iphone and I can't make it replicate texts I usually write.  

If that is the ONLY evidence you have that your boyfriend is cheating,  you're throwing your relationship and your happiness and a good guy away needlessly.  

I can't make my phone replicate texts with words that I write.

You are making a big mistake kicking him out of your heart by misunderstanding what an Apple phone typically does.  

There was a woman on here recently who had a terrible argument with her husband,  believing he had been posting soft porn on his facebook page.  Turns out,  facebook did that,  as a "suggested" post.  

Deep breath,  girl  Don't ruin your life because you keep refusing to consider that the iphone is suggesting texts that your boyfriend has never written.