Not being allowed to serve at church

[KristenC04]

I'm not really sure how to feel about this. Part of me feels like i deserve it and the other part feels like its not right. My worship pastor told me i can't sing at the new multisite or any ensembles till after i have the baby cause they don't want to send the wrong message. I can't be a greater either. I don't see how hiding me till after the baby is going to change anything people will still see the baby. If anything now i just feel more ashamed disappointed and embarrassed at church. I'm 30wks and they are just now telling me all this. I love my church but i think it might be time to find another one :(

[wayfunmommy]

I would find another church. Jesus says, "Love God and love people." By shunning you, they sure the heck aren't showing you love. I left the Baptist Church because of all their judgements and rules that aren't in the Bible what so ever.  There are churches out there who will welcome you with open arms, love you and your baby and be honored to have you serve God through them.

[alid32]

Find another church. You don't need to be shamed for being pregnant mama.

[missymarie214]

As an athiest, that's something I don't deal with, but last week I did agree to go to church to make my family feel better, and I'm huge and showing, no wedding ring, and they still greeted me with open arms, telling my congrats, and how amazing being a mom is. I can't believe a church of all places who preach of forgiveness, and kindness would be so rude. I would definitely look into another church, because that just doesn't sound right, even to me.

[loveYou4Ever11]

I think try i different church..pregnancy is a beautiful thing .

[DenziWife]

i know alot of ppl had that  happen to them becuz they werent married including my best friend i dnt agree with it but i understand it

[lousie_1986]

People talk about letting you be WHO YOU ARE and LOVE and RESPECT. People that go to church generally believe the Bible right? So you'd believe humans are so sinful they need to be saved. And therefore 'who you are' is the old flesh. The new creation strives to be Christlike right? So for your church to show love they would encourage you to be like Christ. They would also need to be mindful of how their leaders were encouraging others to be like Christ, and therefore removing them from leadership if their actions were jeopardizing this, much the same as a corrupt official would be removed from the police force for fear the public might start to think it's ok to act like that. The nice thing about church is that you get second chances. All the time. God keeps forgiving. But it just might not be wise (for a while) to be in a position where other members look up to you as an example. God will still hear you sing just as clearly off the stage as on... no shame in stepping down for a while and praising him from the congregation floor instead, people will actually respect you more for being able to admit your mistakes. On the other hand if you think the Bible and your leaders are wrong on this issue, why would you want to sing in public about a God you don't actually agree with?? Definitely find somewhere else to meet that suits your beliefs or just leave church! Don't let a bunch of people or an old-fashioned god make you feel uncomfortable about something you don't even believe in!