Really peed off

[happymummy3]

Me and my sister are both pregnant with girls I'm 3 weeks ahead of her so i found out sooner ovb, any who.. it was a bit more tricky with my sister because she has a chromosome unbalance and she needed to have an amnio to see if this had passed on to the baby , so because everyone's been on egg shells waiting for the results I've taken a step back and let the family support her and avoided showing  them things that bought or i wanted to get to avoid upset , now we've finally had the results her little girl has had the all clear and now everyone is falling over backwards to get whatever she wants for the baby , I just thought that maybe they would have wanted to get more involved in pregnancy now aswel but no , still sat in the back seat .

[mamacastro]

My hubby's brother and his girlfriend had the first grandbaby and no one liked her or paid attention to her until she got pregnant so her and that baby have been the center of attention all this time. Now that we are having the second grandchild and second boy she ishaving a fit because they are not the complete center of attention anymore and tries so hard to be negative about our pregnancy

[momma2bee2015]

I can relate i suppose. Im 24 preg with my first 10 weeks today. My sister whos 22 just had a baby. I was pregnant before she had her but didnt know yet. Our parents have wanted grandchildren for a while. I have yet to tell anyone cuz by the way im treated by family they wont care about my child. Theyll still always be about my niece whos my world but i sometimea very sadly resent cuz i know my child wont even compare to her. As i never have my sister growing up.

[happymummy3]

Thank you so much for your comments girls I really appreciate it , it's nice to know that I am understood and im not being dramatic .x good luck to you all x

[Joyful_n_Hisluv]

Hi! I read what you wrote and can kinda relate... My sister and I were pregnant at the same time(she was a few months ahead of me) it was both our firsts, so we were both so excited! My sister gave birth to her son but he was still born. My family went through a lot of pain, but also healing in the whole thing... But through it I was also feeling the same way as you "put on the back burner" you could say. It was like my family was still grieving over the loss of my nephew they forgot about my little one... People didn't talk about it much, especially my mom, she seemed as if she didn't want to talk about my pregnancy at all which made it harder. I felt I couldn't talk about my baby in fear I would hurt them more and wondered if my child would be loved just as much as hers. It hurt and it made me feel lonely, but God had let me know something... That while He was celebrating one of his children being with Him in His presence, that He was also rejoicing over the life of mine on earth! He started changing my heart about it and I started thanking Him that my nephew was in the arms of God and started encouraging my sister. I'm so happy to say that my sister and her husband are trying again for children next month! And my little boy is 22 weeks in the womb growing healthy and strong! I know how it can feel, but it will get better! The God who created you and your baby cares and loves your little girl more than anyone ever will or could. He doesn't forget even when family does.

[maggie574]

I'm sorry you are feeling frustrated and left out, that must be difficult. Maybe habits have been set because you've held back out of respect for your sister and it'll take you making the first moves to get everyone else up to snuff. Stop holding back on what you want to share about your pregnancy and hopefully the rest of your family will catch on.  Maybe talk to your sister about how you are feeling so some of this gets out in the open...they may not even realize you are feeling this way!

[AprilMay24]

I'm the same boat. My mom had five girls and she favors my sister because my sister needs her help. On a positive note you'll be better off because you can do it all by yourself. Maybe you'll have a great baby shower. I am mean and always tell my sister she is spoiled and will be very disappointment if our mother passes away and she is stuck fending for herself. I wouldn't go that method.

[Nayy_]

I feel the same. My sister in law is now pregnant and it seems like my husband's family will go all out for her talking about baby showers, making a baby scrapbook, all these nice things and I'm like hello I give birth in 2 1/2 months what about us! I don't understand because the family complained about my baby thinking I'm trying to ruin my husband's life and make him do everything its ridiculous they can't help with one thing.Lol sorry needed to let that out

[shelbypaige1991]

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I can tell you from experience that it is heart breaking. My husband and I are dealing with a similar situation with his brother and sister in law. I'm six months along and have just now come to terms that its ok that my child will not be the "favorite" or receive as much love as the baby boy coming from my in-laws. The bottom line is that your child will be perfect and beautiful beyond words. If others choose to not take part in your experience than so be it. It is their loss. Baby will have all the love and things she needs from mommy and daddy. Hope you can keep this in mind while dealing with the rest of your pregnancy. :)

[rosealie23]

That s.u.c.k.s... sorry, I was the only girl in my family and my family don't take to the boys kids very much because they fear its not their kid... I got the attention while pregnant and my kids got more attention.. my family had a few deaths and everyone including me moved away... now it's just my husband, I and the kids.... nobody to get excited anymore. Lol... I hope they turn the attention to you soon.. it's sad...

[BryannaMarie]

I'm sorry. I dont even know what to say. That really *****.
I guess just keep pushing forward with yourself and maybe eventually they will take you into consideration