getting pissed

[kay1027]

Okay this has nothing to do with pregnancy or anything but my step mom is pissing me off. She does nothing but stay in the bed and sleeps all day while my dad works. Want me to "help" with the house work but she won't do anything. She has been "cleaning" her desk for 3 weeks now. Also I pay half of the gym membership but she won't ever go. Something is always wrong with her she is always sick. Yesterday she was dizzy and couldn't get out of bed and today her stomach is  messed up. I understand she has diabetes and is bipolar but damn. When we go to her doctor she tells them that she is fine and what not but says NOTHING about sleeping all day. I have to stay here a year before my husband and I have the money to move and I don't know what to do if I go to her about what is wrong she gets mad. (I've tried it for 20 something years so talking won't work)

[NinasMommy14]

Well just think about it that you're not going to be living with her ur whole life. Since you're pregnant u should take it easy and not be stressing over her. You might think she's making up excuses to not do things around the house but she might feel down for some reason.

[kay1027]

I'm not trying to make this just my house but I'm not going to be used as a maid either. My car broke down and I lost my job that's why I am even here if I still had my car and job I would still be living in my own place. I give her money every week and I do dishes cook sometimes go places when she goes I'm letting her do my baby shower her way. So I'm not mooching off of them.

[kay1027]

Since I have been pregnant I get sick or get tired. For the last week I have been tired. But with her it all started when her shoulder hurt,then we got that fixed then it was her arm,then she got sick and was in bed for a week,then she was dizzy, now he has stomach issues. I get tired or sick then its all my fault why the house is a mess or why we haven't gone to the gym

[Boeboe]

Hey ladies..... Im bipolar 1.... and I wont say that im not lazy... I'm pregnant and my baby might get it aswell.... but b4 I was pregnant my meds made me just want to sleep, I changed doctors and they changed my meds.... its also the amount of meds you take that makes you lazy... its not always the bipolar.... I know its difficult to live with ppl like us.... but once the meds is in the right combo it can get better.. the will of the person just has to be there....

[kay1027]

I have no way of moving out right now. And I talk to dad but he says that's just how she is. This isnt about her being bipolar but about her always finding a reason why she can't do anything around the house. Once I go back to work and start school I am not clean or cooking so she can just lay in bed. I don't mind helping at all its just I feel like that's all she thinks I am good for.my husband lives with me but is at work all the time.

[alid32]

It has nothing to do with "keeping people with bipolar happy". It's a serious mental illness that requires intensive therapy and appropriate medication management. It's easy to get frustrated when she just lays in bed but she is fighting an invisible illness that's hard to understand. That being said you can't help her on your own. She needs to be an active participant in her own well being, as well as your dad. Is try talking to him and maybe you can have a family intervention. Other than that maybe look at moving out. It might be tight but it might be the best and healthiest option for you.

[CutieMommy2be]

Unfortunately there is not.much uou can do. As sucky as that is your living under someone elses roof and even with family you cannot go making demands etc. Just likw the comment above go about living your life and ignore her! She has issues and maube the meds are making her sleep that way..idk. Do what you nees to do and get the heck out of dodge.  

[Perezchica]

I know what you're going through. It's very hard to keep a bipolar person happy. It's like walking on egg shells just waiting for the sh!t to hit the fan. What about your hubby? Where is he living?

[kay1027]

That's what I am thinking about doing. But I've done it before and she asked why and I answered she got so mad and said she can't help it. But there is always something

[Perezchica]

My ex best friend is bipolar. There's good days and bad days. with him it seemed the bad overpowered the good. Anyway, I'd say to just live your life. If she wants to sleep all day, be anti-social, or take 3 weeks to clean whatever, then so be it. There's really nothing else you can do.

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