baby shower conflicts

[organicmama]

Frustrated. I have 2 aunts. One of them hosted my wedding a couple months ago. The other one wanted to do my baby shower. I don't have much family so it was just going to be one shower for the people I do know including a handful of family and work, at my aunts house near where I live. Then the aunt who did the wedding (who lives an hour and a half away) said she wanted to have the shower and started planning and oreparing a venue in her street, even though my other aunt had wanted to do this affair herself at her house. So after some hurt feelings they've ended up getting together to cohost an hour and a half away. Except now two girls at work insist on giving me a shower only for work friends and no family, even though I already told them my aunts were hosting my shower. So now I have nobody to invite to my aunts shower because the work ladies are having one. But the work ladies don't want to have the shower at a house or church or something, they want to have a party at a restaurant and provide no refreshments, they want guests to buy their own food more like a dinner. I am so frustrated. I don't understand why the people with no venue (work) won't just get together with the people with no guests but a venue already prepared (my family) and do a single shower. But both groups don't want to include the other people now. Grah. What on earth. Should I just tell them both that I want them to work together and have one shower or I'm not even going to participate? This is getting so stupid and stressful.

[organicmama]

Kind of agree with you there, plus she lives closer to me and to the people I work with so it would have been a better location too. Unfortunately that aunt already gave up, and they have already reserved a venue by the wedding aunts house an hour and a half away. :( So now frankly its probably so far away that nobody I work with would attend anyway. I'll have two aunts and three distant cousins I haven't seen in 12 years, hah. Blah.

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I think they should be only one baby shower hosted by the aunt who didn't do your wedding because she was the one who wanted to do it in the first place.

[AshleyB1221]

I had a lot of stress like that at the beginning of planning of my shower. My mom and step mom who have never gotten on and HATE eachother tried to do it together. I eventually told them that 1 person has to back down and not be included in it or the whole thing was going to get scratched and not have one at all. This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, not the most stressful. You need to tell whoever you don't want hosting that you appreciate the gesture but your family has it under Control and it would mean more to you for them to attend as guests to the previously planned shower and maybe just a cpl of you girls can go out for a nice dinner or something instead.