daddy praise.

[shaelouisebubba1]

Why is it that as women we feel we have to praise the men around us whenever they do something "good". I mean, come on! We're carrying their children, but we're lucky if they choose to help us? I'm sorry, I have an amazing fiance. He's my everything, but I expect him to do just as much as I do. Am I wrong for that??

[lilpianogirl85]

I don't understand what is wrong with praising your man. Men are wired much differently than we are and I think praising them for doing something you appreciate let's them know how happy you are they did it and they are more likely to do it in the future. My husband is a wonderful man and I love him for everything he does for me especially now being pregnant he has stepped up. Aren't you more likely to want to do something for someone else if they appreciate you for it than if they just expect it from you?

[shaelouisebubba1]

@sarika that's completely fair and I'm the same with my fiance. He helps me when he's home and he's been super involved in the pregnancy without me urging or pushing him to.

But then there's his parents. His dad doesn't work but his mum does. Yet she's still expected to do everything around the house. He literally lays on the couch all day.

[sarika20]

My boyfriend has a heart of gold. He goes to work early and i know that he is stressed out and tired but he still cleans the floor, does the dishes and laundry, because i cannot anymore. That is why I try my best to cook a delicious dish every day and make a dessert, I sew, iron and take care of other chores. He even cooks during weekends. I praise him and he praises me, that is the only fair way.

[MissJessGolden]

I hate the idea of praising men. All they really want is a simple thank you and a woman to be by their side. My fiance doesn't expect me to do things for him but does appreciate it when I because he knows even though I was groomed to be a house wife growing up it is the last thing I want to be. Men don't need women to be a mom to them. A good man will expect support from his girlfriend/wife and that's it and that is what my grandparents taught me besides my first stepdad raising me to wait on a man. A relationship should be go both ways not just one way. I mean yes we are lucky if our child's father chooses to stay and help but we are also lucky if they don't. If they don't then wanna are still lucky because we get to care and love for a wonderful blessing knowing that the father is missing out on the greatest gift of all.

[shaelouisebubba1]

Thank god I'm not the only one!! My mother in law constantly praises both her husband and sons whenever they do anything and it's so frustrating! I'm expected to help with the laundry and cooking (which I'd do regardless) but if I ask any of the males to help me I'm the biggest b*tch! If they're at home they shouldn't just sit on their bums.

[addysmama04]

No you aren't! My man does nothing for me unless I ask him a hundred times. One woman told me on here that we should feel privileged to clean up after men, cook, do laundry, wait on them hand and foot all while doing errands and caring for other kids and while being pregnant! I'm sorry but these aren't the dark ages and men don't need a "mommy". I believe everything should be 50/50.