dolls pram... dads againts it.

[secondmummy2boys]

So i wanna get my son whos 21months a doll and a pram for when i have the baby next month so i can be like loom i have a baby n so do u. But his dad is totally against it he wont let me get him one he said if i do he will give it to the dog coz its a girls toy. But i think it would be good for him to have one but i know hes bein seriouse about the dog. What can i do to convince him coz iknow my son would love it.

[bump2015]

Wow, the gay comments... My little brother used to dress himself up in a dress, our mom's heels and play mama. He was only 2 or 3, but today, he's very straight. Very normal. But, he's a wonderful uncle. And is great with kids.
What are we afraid of when our sons want to pay with dolls? That they'll grow up to be good fathers and stand up men?
I think if it's something you're son would choose on his own, let him have the doll! Maybe keep it at grandma's house though.

[Barnett345]

If you go into a nursery/preschoo/playgroup you will see children with all sorts of toys. They don't  say no you can't play with the dolls coz your a boy toys arnt gender specific girls play with cars and trains boys play with dolls. in England many shops don't split toys into boys or girls its done by age suitability.

What msg do you show your sons by saying thats a girls toy? That he shouldnt play with dolls my husband played with dolls as a child and he is an amazing dad compared to some dads I've seen who were not allowed the opportunity to play with them.

If you have a daughter after son or son after daughter they will share toys what then split them up tell them they have their own toys??

[mummy_times_2]

I don't understand why people are saying it's feminine, is it feminine to be a father!? No its a man's job so by having a stroller and doll wouldn't that be education on how to parent regardless if it's being a mum or dad? I think absolutely!! When my son goes to my mums house he pushes around a pink stroller and a female doll in a diaper and guess what I think it's beautiful to watch him be so gentle just like I'd hope he'd be as Father with a real baby.

[mandajayne0333]

I dont think it matters whether it is technically 'a girls toy' or a boys toy. If he likes it and wants to play with it then who cares. If it helps him feel closer to the new baby even better. In the end kids will chose what they want to play with or not. And for the poster who said being gay is a choice. That is so incorrect its not funny. You ask any gay person and they will tell you its not a choice they were born that way so giving your boy child a doll to play with will not change who they are when they are older.

[lieschenb]

When my son was 3 he took one of my old handbags and 'went shopping'. I dug out an old purse and put some cards and money in and he loved it. My hubby had a mini heart attack but i told him to grow up. We compromised by calling his purse a wallet.  He still often brings out his handbag and plastic fruit set and sets it up on the table and goes shopping

[Roobby_93]

To add to my comment above; my sister was a hudge tomboy growing up hated barbies,loved trucks,dinosaur's,fireworks etc... She is veryyyyyy gay . BUT i liked barbies,fireworks,trucks and dinosaur's too and i am very much straight. Being gay is a choice . u can give him a doll or dont he will choose to be gay if he wants too. And as a parent u love him regardless. But as parents u should mutually agree upon something like this and no ones opinion should be more important then the others

[LadySithAirielle]

It's terrible that we are gender specific on toys. Who cares let them play with what they like,  if they grow up gay it's not because of your parenting it's because it's who they are. Love & support your children no matter the situation.

[hunterdee]

Its not gunna make him GAY!!
My 3 year old girl plays with trucks n trains with her dolls...
if ur son or daughter grows up to be gay theres No shame as a parent if that happens or go back and say i shouldnt have gave him or her that toy..
so silly..

[Roobby_93]

I think dolls are for girls. Gotta agree with ur hubby.Not because it may make him gay but; it surely is a feminine toy.

[GeekMom1213]

If you give your son a doll to play with he might end up a good father someday. The horror.
My son has dolls right alongside his stuffed animals and trains, there's nothing wrong with that. He doesn't play with them often, but once in a while he'll tuck them into his bed or feed them from imaginary bottles, sing them made-up songs and strap them into an imaginary car to go somewhere fun. He's learning by doing and it will make him a better big brother. Tell your son's father to stuff it. Kids learn through play. If he learns to be gentle and caring towards a plaything he will be more able to "help" when the baby arrives.

[MrsJames64]

I honestly don't think a doll is a gender specific toy!  

[organicmama]

Dads have babies and push strollers too. What's the big deal?

[slm39]

My son had a stroller when he was 2 and I was pregnant. He lost interest really quickly! He's now 17yrs old and has girlfriends etc. I think when you try to say you can't have or do something it makes an issue out of nothing. Hey his dad will surely push a pram, it doesn't mean he's wrong or going to become gay! Gender specific toys do my head in!! I'm sure people wouldn't think twice about buying a 'boys' toy for a girl! I think you should go for it!

[jennymeaney]

I did the same for my son and he loved it even though hubby was convinced it wud make hin gay!!!! I dobt see anything wrong with it but my husband took some convincing.

[Jennyjones007]

You should be able to buy your son any toy he wants regardless of how it looks to everyone else in 'society'. If he wants to play with a doll why not let him? Just because it's a girls toy? That sounds outrageous!

[igoraroyal]

I would be with ur hubby .. Prams and dolls are for girls