.if it doesnt work between him &i am i a bad mom?need tk talk

[naomi_walsh7]

Im 23 ,I am falling out of love , but I will do all I can to try and make it work for this baby of ours .  but if it doesn't work does it make me a bad person ?  I am afraid to do this as a broken family . but I'm the person you can't force to love someone . I did love him, but lately a lot of things he does annoys me , and just turn me off about him . i will keep trying ,for our child but if I don't keep my family together am I a bad mother ??

[wayfunmommy]

It doesn't make you a bad person or parent.
However, you have to remember, real romantic love is a choice, not a feeling. Being attracted to some one or turned on by them isn't a choice. Loving them is a choice you make every day. It isn't always easy.

[naomi_walsh7]

Especially me having no sexual drive at all so I tell him unless u want to have sex with me while I lay as stiff as a board til u are done don't even try it .. He is getting mad no sex for few weeks frankly I'm OK this way I have no sexual drive and am not wanting it so he better ****** get over it cause when he tries to make me horny I'm like what r u doing ??? Stop .. I do not want sex and he goes gets mad I get so disgusted with him and just leas attracted to him

[naomi_walsh7]

I may hope cause its because pregnancy cause its hard feel like we argue all the time I'm irritable as hell anxious and little depressed just .. I want him to be in the babies life , either way together or not I know he will be I will try my best after baby is born in may if it doesn't work out then OK just be civil for our son or daughter

[asherz123]

It can really be because ur prego i feel like my man is so annoying and after i deliver im like what was wrong with me i love him. Im preo with are second and i feel this way again. I know its because im prego.

[specialmom]

Well, your last sentence is what will make you a good mother.  good luck  hon

[naomi_walsh7]

Thanks . we were happy but living together and some habits he has I just makes me not attracted to him like I was .. Yes I wish it would have happened that way would have found out before the baby but it happened either way I will do anything and everything for this child of mine .

[specialmom]

No, it doesn't make you a bad mom or person.  Break ups happen.  I DO wish that these things could be figured out before someone is pregnant and that pregnancy happens after a couple has figured out if it is a long term relationship.  But I guess it doesn't always work out that way and then you just have to make the best of it.  good luck

[mommy_94]

I feel the same exact way but everyone keeps telling me it's just my hormones going crazy because I didn't feel this way before