frustrated with my husband!

[cass86steve]

My son is napping my husband is home (both rarely happen at the same time), and instead of taking the time to maybe be intimate with his wife my husband decides to go dig through the junk in the storage room. We rarely have sex because we just don't have the time and when we do he gets his and I don't get mine because he goes for 2 seconds. Its so annoying because I finally feel like my sex drive is back now that I'm in my second trimester and I have to make an appointment with my husband to do the deed... He has no idea when I'm using an innuendo either... I thought sex was the one thing that men understand.

[cass86steve]

I know what you mean nonishy. I guess I have an image of our sex life in my head when I'm not pregnant (which is great), and I really am a lot more turned off when pregnant. I think he is just drawing from experience with the first one and trying to be more considerate really. He saw how annoying it was for me at times with our first.

[nonishy]

Just let him know how you feel. And some men give up on trying to make the first move after they get shut down a few times. My husband waits for me to make a move because it seems like every time he tries it's a bad time, i either feel sick, too tired, body aches, or just not in the mood. I guess it's just bad timing. So lately i been having to make the move that way he knows it's going to happen and i don't feel sick or anything. I'm 33wks, so it's also not like it happens very often either.

[cass86steve]

I don't think we need counseling we always talk things out but I just let my emotions get the best of me sometimes. Which is easy to do when you are pregnant. After he got done in the basement I told him I was frustrated and he told me he's not a mind reader, which is what you ladies told me. I'm thankful he understands that I'm raging with hormones and have moments of unclear thinking. Most of the time I realize that I have to lay it all out for him but every once in a while it would be nice if he would take the reins.

[saramay2014]

I just pounced on my bf lastnight.... he was sleepin n i couldnt n we havnt done things in a while... just go at m ;) lol

[ducktapetherapy]

I agree, with everyone else. This is one area that men can be very confused about. I would suggest open and honest communication. Assumptions can be very dangerous for both of you. Have you guys gone through any couples counseling?

~Ducktapetherapy77

[cass86steve]

I just wish that he could start things for once. Its like pregnancy isthe plague to him and he would just rather go fishing for 40 weeks. He's a great dad though I just get easily annoyed with all the hormones. This time around it seems like he doesn't want to dote on me at all, its like we did it once before so now its old hat and he could care less about my needs.

[mommalombardi]

Yea. Men are not mind readers not get the hints at all. I literally have to show my hubby my boobs or some more skin if you know what I mean lol and then it clicks. Or just go up to him and start kissing on him!

[wayfunmommy]

Men don't understand hints and innuendo. You have to be blunt.