guilt

[glennbaby]

So i am a ftm and 24 weeks along but this pregnancy has been far from easy i have had every single flu virus cold chest congestion that has come within a mile of me. My husband hasnt really been much help with my sickness or even supporting my pregnancy. Now he does have another child and he have him 50/50 but in the first couple years of his sons life he was not part of it now i feel he doesnt wanna be part of our childs life because of the guilt he has of missing his first sons life. But whenever i bring up my feelings towards it im always the bad person or he turns it on me like im a horrible step mom saying (all i care about is my baby) but why is he just my baby?!?! When i married you i became a mother to his son as well so i guess i am just a little upset over the situation and dont know how to express myself.... advice anyone?

[J_Ferreira]

Ooo boy im in the same boat my husband and i got married. His ex gf was pregant then found out i was also.. and she just had the baby 2 weeks ago but she has no contact with him what so ever, his friends seen her and  baby he says one day he will but  everyday i think hes going behind my back to find her and im pregant at 19 weeks when i found out the baby was born boy o boy i was depressed and all i still worry ...

[J_Ferreira]

Ooo boy im in the same boat my husband and i got married. His ex gf was pregant then found out i was also.. and she just had the baby 2 weeks ago but she has no contact with him what so ever, his friends seen her and  baby he says one day he will but  everyday i think hes going behind my back to find her and im pregant at 19 weeks when i found out the baby was born boy o boy i was depressed and all i still worry ...

[joamb]

That's tough! I can sympathize I had the same things, chest colds, allergies, morning sickness it was awful and I wonderful how I made this far. Just try and rest and relax as much as possible. Maybe you can try suggesting he can be in both his children's life without feeling guilty. Is there a way you could try suggesting something so he can be supportive of both children? Once he knows he's not neglecting his first maybe he will be more supportive.