am I being selfish?

[Teagan_Chelle]

So my boyfriend volunteered me to go to a huge bonfire party that friends of ours are having. Which ordinarily wouldn't be a problem, but it falls on a day where I'm working overtime in the morning (I wake up at 5:30 AM to be at my job by 7:30) and then have a baby shower to attend after. The party itself isn't until 7 or 8 at nigh and that's when I normally wind up down for bed; there's going to be nothing but alcohol there, and that's not exactly fair to me. Plus I'm always exhausted and feel like I can never get enough sleep as it is because of the baby, so I really don't want to go. I told him that he can go without me so he doesn't have to miss out, but he's still upset because I won't go and can't understand that that's what too much for me in one day. Am I being selfish in not wanting to go?

[Lacii15]

Not selfish at all. He should have asked you instead of volunteering you and understand that you're tired. And it really is unfair. If he wants to spend time with you and party with you he should buy some sparkling grape juice, turn on some calm tunes and sit by the fire and make s'mores with you. He can't have you around lots of drunk people they're loud and crazy and it might upset the baby.

[djbingham]

And telling him he can go without you is very nice and selfless. so he should not be upset With you.

[djbingham]

Do not feel bad. A lot of times my husband doesn't understand that being pregnant takes so  much out of me. he is constantly trying to have friends over. while they get to dRink and have fun i get to go to bed. It is not fair and i never feel bad for putting my foot down and saying enough is enough. you should never feel bad about being tired or not wanting to go somewhere. YOU'RE PREGNANT. The more you stand up for yourself the more they realize that being pregnant takes away a lot of the "fun" in being young. I'm almost 20 so these are the prime party days. It's hard for guys to adjust because they're not the ones carrying the baby. Moral of the story...DONT FEEL BAD GIRL!

[Teagan_Chelle]

I don't think he realized how much that pregnancy would take it out of me... I'm still waiting for the magical return of energy that allegedly comes with the second trimester, but it's gotten worse and some days, it's very hard to keep my eyes open coming home at 4:30, let alone stay up for hours beyond that for a party. I just feel bad that he's upset...

[Octmommy2015]

Not at all I don't blame you and I think encouraging him to still go is a very nice selfless compromise