im scared to become a single mom. please help

[rose_2015]

Is it hard to he a single mom?  I don't know if I want to keep my relationship going. And i m scared to become a single mom. I'm also scared that I might be making a wrong decision. I don't know what to do. All I know is that I'm unhappy and I've been for a while. And I feel like my life with my partner won't get better. We have to many complications. And the baby is not even here yet. She won't he here until June. Some one please help me and give me advice.

[QueenB_82]

I was unhappy and stayed with my daughters father because i thought it was the right thing to do and it ended up having an effect on her.
Once my partner and i seperated both myself and baby were alot happier as i feel there was less stress and rension in our environment.
I basically raised my daughter alone even though her father lived with us.
It is tough to be a single mum but it also has its perks. Like not having to be told your doing something wrong or having to answer to someone else or look after them too.
Being a single mum you can focus more on your baby and there isnt the stress of are you keeping your partner happy enough now that baby is here.
If you want your relationship to work then take steps to better it now. Sot down and talk with your partner and tell him how your feeling and find out how he is feeling. Sometimes we forget that men are effected by pregnancy and the expectations of them as a father to and no one thinks to ask them how they are doing.

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

[amb2rose]

My mom was a single mom when she had me and she did what she could and was a great mom. When I was 3 years old my mom married (not my biological father) but the man who raised me as his own. We had some happy good years. My dad had some issues though that were effecting our family in negative ways so when I wad 15 my parents divorced. My mom then continued to raise the 4 of us kids by herself, work full time, and go to school. Single moms are amazing! It does take a strong woman to do it, but the love you have for your child will help give you that strength and motivaton.

[ftm110]

It shouldn't always be just because you're not happy. These days we live in such a individualistic world every other words seems to be I I I or Me Me Me. Make sure the reasons are good enough is all I'm saying.

[nabby09]

May ur decision and steps be directed by God.do what's right for you and ur baby.u can do it.

[Sue_113]

Hey, there is nothing to be scared about. Im not a single mom but iam pregnant and me and the father are together but i do sometimes think about wat if we break up. At the end of the day trust yourself, u can do it if it ever comes to that. But you definitely shouldnt stay in a relationship thats not happy or not going anywhere. Thats gonna have you missing out on a life u could of had with someone who will make u happy. As long as you and the father can co parent then u shouldn't worry about it. Dont stress yourself anyway its not good. Bringing your baby into the world should be the only thing on your mind. Good luck

[hmk01992]

**Jennig85

[hmk01992]

I completely agree with @gennig85

[jennig85]

First of all... never stay in an unhappy relationship, and NEVER use a child as an excuse to stay. That is a mistake that i made. You will be miserable, and that will reflect down to your child.

Being a single mom is sometimes really easy, but does have its frustrating, lonley, heartbreaking, dont think you can do it moments. But you do what you have to do. It puts a limit on when we can work, what we can buy our kids (unless you have a job that pays really well) what extra curricular things we can do for our kids. If the dad leaves and never calls or visits, you have to try to explain to them on why eceryone else has daddies but they dont. Like i said its very heartbreaking/frustrating.

BUT!!!

it is the most rewarding thing you could ever do in your life. To know that you, single handedly raised a child to do whats right, make the right choices. There will be tears but there will also be the happiest moments you could ever ask for.

If you are unhappy, and cant make it work, then go. It will be hard, but you can do it. That doesnt mean that its done forever. You can always try again with your guy. I tried 3 times with my ex, and finally decided enough was enough. Fighting all the time was not healthy for my girls.  You have to decide whats best for you and your baby.