kids and new puppy.....overwhelmed!

[mom_to_be_of_3]

I feel so bad right now, so my family and I decided to rescue a dog from a shelter. She is only 4 months old and she is very sweet, but not exactly house trained or trained at all. I have a 6 year old who is in school, a 20 month old who is at home with me all day and I'm currently 25 weeks and 5 days pregnant. We just got the puppy on Tuesday, so I feel so bad for feeling the way I feel right now since it has only been like 2 days since we got her. So anyway, I find myself constantly yelling at my 20 month old because he won't leave the dog alone, I don't even feel safe to take my eyes off both of them and every time my son wants something I have to wash his hands because he is AL WAYS touching the dog.  Just this morning was a hell morning for me, my daughter threw up everywhere, the dog decided to pee in the carpet, I had taken her out earlier in case she needed to go but she didn't go outside she felt like going inside the house. So I'm cleaning the pee and throw up and the dog decides to also poop inside. So I grab her and do run outside with her so she will finished pooping outside and when I turn to look back at the house, there is my son touching the dog poop. I started yelling at him to not touch and then yelling for my daughter to stop him. I didn't know what to do, to let go of the dog and come get my son or what. I think I definitely put more on my plate that what I can hanlde. I just want to take the dog back to the shelter and only be chasing after my son and cleaning up his messes and not the dogs as well. Does it make a horrible person for wanting to return the dog so soon? I'm sorry it's so long but I just needed to vent. I honestly just want to sit in a corner and cry because I feel very emotional right now.

[1Desiree]

Really hope your puppy problems are getting better! We are fostering a 9 month old puppy and I forgot how stubborn they can be!!! I thought I remembered but nope. Like she didn't listen to sit or lay down on our hardwoods. She looked awkward while doing this. I had my husband take her on the carpet and she listened the first time!

[sanja25]

The problem with shelters are not the workers its that after a while if they dont get adopted they are put to sleep
I m happy you decided to keep her
It just takes time
Think of her like a baby
They need timw to learn stuff

[mom_to_be_of_3]

Thank you so much ladies. Well I have been implementing the whole putting her in her kennel when she decides not to go outside. We are taking one day at a time, my kids have already grown very attached to her and I can even pet her and play with her without feeling like she is not clean. It's taking a little adjusting for me especially since I always worry about my kids and germs, but like it's been said, it's doable and with time and patience she will be trained.

[1Desiree]

When you bring a dog home from a shelter they will poop and pee in your house as part of marking their territory. If you have a fenced yard and you know the dog can't get out just leave it outside till you see it go. If it doesn't go them comes right inside in a kennel. In an hour let it out again and repeat. Dogs are less likely to go in their kennels because they see it as their bed. This does not apply to all dogs but most. As the person above said praise for going potty outside and discipline for going inside. You can also keep it on a leash in the house. The dog won't be out of your sight and you can instantly take the dog outside if it decides to potty in the hohouse.ogs need structure and an alpha. If you know the dog is clean and your children arnt allergic petting the dog doesn't mean they have to wash their hands. children will develop antibodies to fight off any germs on the dog. Keep your head up just like with kids puppies need structure and time to learn. It will get better!

[jen0221]

I'd say the hardest thing you can do is get a new pet when you are expecting. There is so much that comes with it that I think it's too much adjusting. Not to mention if you are anything like me, you tend to not have as much patience, if any at all. That said, give the pup a chance. You obviously fell in love and it will take time to adjust and it might be hard, but it is doable. And remember the first month is the hardest for everyone. The pup doesn't know you, you don't know it so it can be and is challenging until you start getting that bond and they learn house rules.

[mom_to_be_of_3]

What's wrong with shelters? I thought they were good. The people seem really nice and they were all being nice to the dogs there when we went.

[mermer311]

Please don't take the puppy back to the shelter. That's the worst thing you could do believe me, I've worked in several.

[bellacts]

Buy training pads for when she pees or poops inside

[babypersephone]

Honestly I raised my dog by being strict and yelling and rewarding her when she's good. But also my dog is very hard headed. When she **** in the house I held her head over it and told her no and put her outside and she learned fast not to when I started leaving her outside longer each time she pooped or peed in the house. And every time she pooped outside I have her a treat. Pooping on walks also included a treat. I was hard on her but she learned and now she doesn't poop in the house. Except one time she had diarrhea and pooped everywhere but I didn't punish her for that. I felt pretty bad and cuddled her all day. But just remember it won't be like this for long. It may be a lot to handle at the moment but try to keep your sanity. One day you'll wish you could 're-live those moments again and you'll look back and laugh. If it is too much though honestly just do what you feel is best. Don't feel obligated to do anything if you do feel uncomfortable or really stressed do what you feel the best option is but if you can hold out a lil bit longer I promise you'll see some improvement.  :) it'll be okay

[mw89]

They have this new puppy house training kennel google it I guess its really good.

[mom_to_be_of_3]

I take her out for walks like every hour in case she needs to relieve herself. But it's like she refuses to go outside. I don't know what's the best way to train her, training classes are so expensive here. In my home country dogs are free to go wherever they please. My grandma's house is fenced all around so when the dogs go is not a problem, she just goes around and scoops it up if she sees it. They know where they are allowed and where not just by hearing her voice. Here it's way more difficult because of the whole leash and all that stuff.

[MissouriMommaofthree]

Keep her in the kitchen or in a baby gate play area.  Don't sweat the small stuff.  She should be learning very soon with your help.  Don't give up so easily.  It is a big change but if you are proactive about it you can get everything running smoothly again.  

[sanja25]

Dont take her to the shelter
Find a family for her
Post it on fb or craiglist but not shelter please

[mom_to_be_of_3]

I don't have a problem walking her and I know that with patience and love, she will eventually be trained. The only thing is thing is that I'm also thinking it is not fair for the dog that she won't get a moment of peace. I don't want to ruin her for another family with kids eso especially. In my home country I was surrounded by dogs, of course lifestyle is completely different from here. I enjoy taking her out for a walk, it makes me feel better too, better than being stuck inside the house all day. And of course I didn't expect her to be fully trained with her only being a pup. All I'm saying is that I am really overwhelmed and as of right now the only thing that makes more sense to me is taking her back to the shelter and giving her the chance to find a better home where someone will not be as busy as I am with a toddler and soon a new born, a chance for her to have the attention and time she deserves. Thank you for your input, I really appreciate you ladies taking the time to post your feelings and opinions. I guess it's something my husband and I, and well also my 6 year old have to decide. God bless!

[sanja25]

Well you cant expect the dog to be traind that young
When you think about it its like your kid touching the poop
They need to learn
You rescued the dog now or keep it or find the dog a new family
I have 2 big dogs and i almost 34weeks
I m still walking thwm by myself
Yes,sometimes i wanna sleep in and not get up at 7am to take them out but i decided to have a dog so i have to take care of them

[bellacts]

*if u keep our dog and if u don't then please make sure u find her a loving home where u know FOR sure she will not end up in the streets or mistreated.

[bellacts]

I got my dog in November, she was 8 weeks old not house trained and a lot to handle, I didn't know that I was already pregnant and I had the worse first trimester u could imagine, so being that sick and taking care of a puppy was ALOT u have no idea BUT I made the commitment to look after this breathing living animal. So now she's older n pees where she's supposed to (after months of training her) and she's better.I'm just saying things will get better if u keep ur. N if u don't find her a

[maripch13]

Oh no!!! I feel your pain... my opinion is that you should.. your kids are still too young and they need all your attention plus taking care of a 4 month puppy is too much specially when the dog is not house trained. I dont have any kids yet but I am 32 weeks pregnant and we got a puppy when she was only a month old.. she is now 6 months and I am just now getting a break... she just now stop peeing and pooping in the house. It's just not fair to you!

[Masoak]

Umm no definitely got a dog wayyy too soon. The resentments will keep growing..I'm with a guy who came with a dog and at first it was okay until the dog hair was everywhere I was tripping over her in the kitchen had to take her for walks when as a job I'm a letter carrier so was already walked out for the day. I think the only solution is the one you can control and that's first admitting your mistake in which you've done and finding a new home for the dog.