leaves me at 15 weeks pregnant...

[vro1991]

Wee have been together for two years this November but he waits to leave me until i am 15 weeks pregnant. Now I am going to be a single mom to 3 kids, 2 white and one mixed. Wtf am ii supposed to do? If i do decide to date anyone then around here no decent white man will want me because A: I won't be able to have anymore kids and B: I will have a mixed child. And no decent black man will want me because i will have 3 kids at the age of 22. Plus there aren't that many decent men here unless they are taken, gay, or old.

What is even worse is i already have 2 kids that wouldn't know who their daddy was oif he passed them on the street, and now he is leaving his kid too. So much for keeping promises! So much for not being like your father who walked out and left his kids to some stranger after their mother died!

Why the hell would God allow me to have another child if he knew it would end up being fatherless. I wasn't supposed to get pregnant, i was actually gping through menopause! So why allow me to bring another child in thso world that is going to just be left as well. It doesn't deserve this. And now I am sitting here and abortion has crossed my mind even though I would never actually do it plus I have been fighting so hard to keep this baby after they thought I was losing it!

I have heard that God won't put anything on your plate you can't handle, but I'm not a professional weight lifter! I can't take much more of this!

[GordonBaby]

A decent man won't care if your kids were neon green. How about you just focus on the kids and not worry about what a man will or won't do. You're not doomed to be single because of the amount or ethnicity of your children.

[kizzoo5]

Who needs a man nowadays? I know it's tough, but do you really think you can't do it? My mom was a single mom of five!

[vro1991]

@gordonbaby i am focused on my kids. But i grew up without a father figure in my life, no one to protect me, and my mother was always so interested in herself plus I hated my mother because I felt it was her fault my father left. I was raped by my own husband and became pregnant with my daughter(second child) and my mother told me I had to stay with him so as not to embarrass the family. Tried to contact my daddy and could never get ahold of him. When i needed someone to be there for me I didn't have that. It's not so much me worried about being single as it is he is going to go out and live life and date whoever and be scott free while i am here with his child. I am raising children without their father for nothing I have done. So don't tell me to focus on my kids because that is what I have been doing since I was 17. I cook, I clean, I work my *** off and barely get to spend time with my kids because I am trying to provide for them. I was finally able to go home and take a break a coupke hours every dayday for the last year because me and him were living together and had 2 incomes. But now as my 2 children are starting school and I am having complications with a high risk pregnancy he up and leaves so now I have to work long hours again and hardly see my kids. So who will my childre. Have when they need something? I will be at work and not 1 of my 3 children will have a father figure in their life. So before you tell me to just focus on my kids, why don't you focus somewhere else.

[JaidennsMommi]

Have u considered adoption maybe??
Its not for everyone but just something to think about maybe...i get what u mean about wanting a father figure for your babies, i really tried for years to get my sons father to be in his life but really u cant make someone do something they dnt want and u cant make someone be around that doesnt...only thing u can do is hope maybe he'll come around (you'v still got a ways to go) and keep doing what u gota do for your kids ....if all this is happening its for a reason...

[issymama]

@vro I know how you feel. Not exactly, but I do. I have a high risk pregnancy and my baby daddy took off and is refusing to even entertain the idea of a child, even though it's 100% his. Im working 50-60 hours a week and just worked 14 days in a row to try and keep making money to put away for my baby. Its depressing and frustrating and life feels impossible. But that baby is still gonna depend on you. You may not be a heavy lifter, but god is beside you on this. Miracles happen. I believe youll make it through this.

[vro1991]

What i don't understand even more is he wanted a kid. We were actively trying until doc told me basically it would be a cold chance in hell.... I just don't get it.