need help ASAP!!!!

[eighteenANDpregnant]

Im in absolute love with my man, we just found out im about 3 weeks prego♡ but we dont know if right now is a good time. We live in a house with 4 people and 3 rooms I have a part time job making minimum wage. he has a pretty good job with construction full time. But not good enough to support us and a apartment. I know its horrible but im thinking abortion might be whats best right now. I need help. I thinkn its so hard bc I want a family with this man but deep down I know its not the right time.

[jessmakainai]

Time to get a full time jobby mama. You can do this. Women all over the world have babies with much less than you have going for you now. It won't be easy, but nothing worth having ever was. Abortion will have major effects on your body, mind, and spirit. Consider your health and well being rather than the ideal situation to have and baby.

[infinitefaith_mommy]

I can tell you from my experience I was also 18 and pregnant with my first. We lived in a house with 10 people and only 4 rooms. I am now pregnant with my second son. Nothing is going to be easy and it's never going to be the right time, things like this come out of surprise. My husband and I were only working part time Jobs at the time but we still made it. There Andre government programs that can help out a lot. & if you don't want to use those programs and do it on your own with what you have it is also possible you just have to learn how to do it all. It might not seem be a good idea living with other people right now but stick to it until you can save some money, maybe others living with you can help out with the baby which is a lot of help! If you do still think of moving out try something smaller than an apartment,like a studio or something along those lines.. my point to all this is that it's possible! It's such a blessing to carry a little person inside of you feeling them grow and move and even more when you get to hold them. . But if not keeping the baby is an option for you then really consider putting it up for adoption after its born. .

[Nayy_]

Great good luck and keep us posted

[sexiidiiva]

Yea like she said when is the time ever right? You could have a house cars and the whole 9 yard. And pow. You wreck your car , he loses his job and y'all have to figure out what y'all gonna do. So same situation just figure out how to do better with y'all selves and everything will fall into place. Good luck

[eighteenANDpregnant]

Thank you. I know abortions not right I've never been ok with it. I never even considered adoption....if I dont have an abortion im decently going to keep my baby. And I think that may be mu final disesion.

[mal84]

Sorry my phone is choosing the wrong words smh. Bottom line is that's not a choice that anyone can make for you. That's a decision that only you can make.  Not even the father. You have to live with yourself. Not us. Not your man. Whether you have the baby or not.

[mal84]

Wow! When is the time ever right? I can't tell you want to do but i can tell you I had abortion over 10 years ago.  Afterwards I had to leave with that decision. It took me years to get over that. Honestly I will tell you to pray about it. I dont want to make you feel bad at all. I have to say this... whether you are 3 or 12 week's pregnant, that's a precious life inside of you. Please pray and ask for guidance.

[maryhelen1718]

Abortion is never ever the right answer. Your supporting a life, it might be hard but if nothing else consider adoption.

[Nayy_]

No one can make that decision for you. When it comes down to that its up to you not us , your family, or even your husband. This is something inside you so ofcourse its about what you think is right and why you feel that way. Having a baby is always a scary thing because you come up with all these questions that have your head spinning around but then again its a blessing to know that you can actually have children when other women who really want to can't. When making this decision make sure that you are 100% about what you want and just know there's always support on this site if not in this forum then there's definitely another one out there:) best of luck and congratulations

[eighteenANDpregnant]

Very true

[Breelasha_]

I think you should keep the baby god wouldn't send anything your way , you guys couldn't handle .

[LadyBirdJ]

You could always go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption so that you don't have the weight of abortion on your conscience and can be a blessing to others families that can't conceive.