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Should the daddy have a say so in naming the baby?
Since forever I always wanted to name my baby Jannifer Marie(was never planning on having a boy lol) some years ago the option of me being able to have kids was put off the table. The moment i start to accept that i most likely wouldn't have a child of my own BOOM i end up pregnant. And it's always what i wanted it's a girl. I really want her name to be Jannifer Marie but my baby's father said that he don't like the name and that I'll have to pick a different one because all Jannifers are liars. But it's funny because throughout my pregnancy he's been iffy on whether or not the baby is his, he wants a dna test, he don't babysit, what if he don't want to be a father which is stupid because 40 years how and have three kids so it's not like he's not already a father but i guess he meant what if he don't want to be a father to my baby. I'm 7 months pregnant and he's just now telling his family that he has another baby on the way yet he haven't told his kids yet. I find it funny that he been knew what i wanted to name the baby but once he tells his mother about the baby and the name now i have to change it because she also says that all Jannifers are liars. Which my baby name won't be Jennifer but Jannifer so i don't think she'll be in that same category. And how can you put a group of people in the same category based off their name. But anyways since he's said that i have to pick a different name I've really been thinking about it. It's a little stressful and disappointing because i really wanted her name to be Jannifer. Should he have a say so in what she is named? Even though he said that he don't like the name he hasn't suggested other names. Should it matter that he don't like the name?
I agree with the above comment. I hate when dad's say they babysit! So annoying. Its the dads child too.
1. Dads don't babysit. They raise. You pay a babysitter, you never pay a dad. Don't let him fall down on his duties.
2. If he hasn't been supportive for the first 7 mos, its a pretty safe bet, you will end up doing 99% of this without his help. Are you going to be okay with this?
3. You said he has other children. How great of a father is he to them? How supportive is his family?
4. If you want to compromise and somewhat make him happy, switch the name order. Marie Jannifer.
2. If he hasn't been supportive for the first 7 mos, its a pretty safe bet, you will end up doing 99% of this without his help. Are you going to be okay with this?
3. You said he has other children. How great of a father is he to them? How supportive is his family?
4. If you want to compromise and somewhat make him happy, switch the name order. Marie Jannifer.
If he's saying the baby isn't his and already saying he's not gonna help I wouldn't let him have an opinion on the baby's name. Don't let him be involved in the baby's name with hopes that it will warm him up to his new baby. He should already he warmed up to her!
I want him to feed like his opinion matters and to be actively involved in this pregnancy but i just don't get what he's doing i mean he don't even think she's his and even if she is he's already stated that he won't be doing any babysitting or anything. I just wonder that if i let him decide the name will he be more interested in the pregnancy and my baby when she comes. Will it help him warm up to the fact that he's about to have another baby or is he just making things difficult for me. I didn't know that something so simple as naming a baby would be so complicated
Yes, sorry it is so difficult. I wish you were having an easier time of it with the baby's father.
I think as it appears you'll be doing the bulk of child care that you should name the child as you wish.
However, with that said, one thing to keep in mind is bonding with the bio dad. So very important to the well being of your child for him/her to develop a relationship with their dad. Whatever you can do to make that go easier, I'd do. If input on name from the father helps, that would be worth it to me.
good luck
I think as it appears you'll be doing the bulk of child care that you should name the child as you wish.
However, with that said, one thing to keep in mind is bonding with the bio dad. So very important to the well being of your child for him/her to develop a relationship with their dad. Whatever you can do to make that go easier, I'd do. If input on name from the father helps, that would be worth it to me.
good luck
Sorry to hear u have to go through this drama with the babys father but in my opinion if he doesnt think hes the father and wants a dna test then i dont think he has the right to decided what her name is.
Well for one everyone has the right to have an opinion on a name, and if he doesn't like it he just doesn't.
But if he really is never there for you or for your baby he should have no say on what the name should be.
But if he really is never there for you or for your baby he should have no say on what the name should be.
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