Am I the bad guy?

[wwjessdo]

I can't help but to feel guilty for not texting my babys father on updates. We recently had a huge falling on to the point where he said he could care less what happens to me or the baby..

I've tried texting him and his response  is I'm not ready. I tried taking him pictures to tell him he was having a son and he told me he didn't want to see me. I'm tired of trying and waiting around for him to come around. He doesn't have a job and has no drive in life.. I can't help but to feel like the bad guy for giving up.. but I know things will never change and just continue to get worse..

[blackbeauty1320]

Girl you are not the bad guy you tried. I just had my daughter I had to tell my child father on fb just pray for your child him and yourself everything will be fine.

[Celehar92]

I'm in the same boat. Phillip says he gonna help out financially and but Hes not a dad.

[Kyleandmommy]

Don't stress it love. I'm on a similar situation. I don't inform my baby daddy about the baby. He feels as though I need to tell him. And I said no because if you are interested you would ask not wait for me to tell you. He would ask me once in a blue so when he asks I tell him. Any other time I don't waste my time on him. If he doesn't show interest then let him be. Don't feel bad cause he's the one not interested. Just try to stay calm and stress free. I know it's hard but do it for your baby. I'm a ftm too.

[xkat22]

He doesn't deserve you. Don't chase after a person who doesn't deserve you. Him saying he's not ready is childish and pathetic and you need someone who is more mature. Sounds like you should focus on the baby and fill your time with friends and family that truly love you. Erase him from your life. It will be hard now but you'll be so glad you did it one day! Plus you don't need someone so weak as an example of how to be a man for your child. Better to go it alone right now than settle.

[Visionee_Baker]

Girl forget him! My baby daddy and I fell out also. I sent him pics of the ultra sound, he didn't even respond. Once you reach out and they deny you, that's all you can do. No need in causing stress on yourself because he's not willing to accept his responsibilities. They are the ones missing out. Just ask God to continue to be with you and keep you at peace, pray for the father also, maybe he'll have a change of heart. Everything will be OK. This isn't how I imagined having my first child (alone) but everything happens for a reason, just make the best out of the situation. Good luck to you!

[Rachel__grace_]

It doesnt get any better, so dont waste your time mama. My sons dad is a pile too. We were together until he was 4 years old (he's 9 now) and I put up with so much crap that I wish I would have left him long before I did. Its pathetic because now still I have to ask him if he wants to see his kid, he hardly ever asks me to get him to spend time with him. So dont feel bad, men like that never change so why waste your precious energy on them.

[taylor5904]

Forget him! That's all you really can do. If he isn't ready then he isn't ready. He will come around sooner or later