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seriously.

Not a question but nothing annoys me more then when a woman becomes pregnant and all of a sudden honestly believes they have turned into porcelain dolls and can't do anything anymore. Your doctor/midwife whatever would have you on bed rest if you've become high risk and fragile but other that yes you can eat whatever you want, yes you can cough, sneeze laugh it's not going to hurt your baby! Yes you can exercise. It just annoys me how silly people become, I understand we all want to make safe decisions for our unborn babies but come on let off abit you can still live your life lol.....
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Well I've been so sick day and night i can hardly get up and cooking or doing dishes etc makes me vomit. Besides that i had to quit my job because i was a med aid for special needs and medical fragile children that were all around 50lbs and required lifting them  frequently. And every pregnancy is DIFFERENT and every woman tolerance is DIFFERENT. It's great that you can tolerate it but not everyone handles it the same way. Not to mention some of us ftm don't have a mother around or anyone who taught us about pregnancy and what to expect etc. I've done lots of reading and research but still didn't replace the comfort of a trusted female figure.
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I agree, if you are not high risk there's no point in changing your life completely (I mean here keep working, exercising, doing the house chores, having fun, etc.). Of course, do stop smoking, drinking and anything that would be harmful to you anyway without being pregnant.
Except my boss at work noboy knew I was pregnant until I showed and I worked (fulltime including overtimes, night shifts and on-call duties) until the day my dr put me on bed rest because of high risk for preeclampsia (at 34 weeks). My preeclampsia luckily didn't kick in anymore (must've had high BP from the stress at work and proteins in my urine from who knows what) and I was given clearance to get back to being active again 2 weeks ago :) I, personally, would go back today to work because I feel I'm losing my mind staying at home all day, but I am now 39w5d so baby should be here any moment.
Btw, my husband even feels frustrated because he is trying to pamper me and I always do everything I can myself (of course, not moving the couch around to vacuum under it :p).
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I cant stand it when people tell me i need to stop/slow down with work, not eat this, not do that. Im pregnant not broken.
My doctors are the ones encouraging me to continue at the gym, keep working as long as i can etc. If there was any risk to my baby i certainly would stop for example i no longer lift heavy weights at the gym or do all of the deliveries at work but i can still do everything else.
I know a girl who stopped doing everything and became so ill and is having issues now finding energy now that baby is here and her doctor told her its because her body is now use to sleeping all day.

Each to their own but unless youve been given a medical reason as to why you cant continue as normal i think some people do use it as an excuse.
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I was supposed to be skiing in Switzerland in late Feb. for my Dream Honeymoon.....We married in Sept. and took a mini trip to Victoria BC right after wedding, where I became pregnant! I am a great skier, but cannot control others, and do fear being struck on the slopes by another....I will be 24 weeks/5 months at vacation time. Mexico would be cheaper, but I admit I know too many friends who get sick there to desire to go while pregnant. We will be going to Plain Ole Maui, where the risk from food, water, and crime rates are minimal.I love scuba diving, but will only be snorkelling this trip! 9 months is a very short period of time to live a little more boring life, in order to have a healthy pregnancy and child. My pet peeve is mom's who won't get help to quit drinking or using drugs while pregnant...

Oh....and I am 43, this is my first pregnancy, and yes I gave up alcohol, caffiene, and improved over all consumption of organic foods and vitamins. I am a Director for a company, I work 50+ hours a week, and no one ther will know I am pregnant until I can physically not hide it anymore....Thank god I am tall and can wear a frumpy sweater vs. and 1-2 size bigger pants vs. maternity pants! I do all my regular chores at home, will plant my spring Vegie garden in next few weeks, and am doing some DYI home repairs bef I re baby comes....

At 43, I was blessed with this natural pregnancy without physician assistance. I do not have to quit living and be a China doll, but I am old enough to understand RISK, and if my Dr. or other wise source provides me with advice to keep my baby safe, I am wise enough to take it!

Women my age don't get knocked up naturally too often!

Blessing to mum awaiting number 7 pregnancy! I prey this one will be without issue, and that you receive the blessing of a healthy child!
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I was like that in the beginning only bc from the beginning I've had a lot of kidney infections. Even though my doctor never said the words bedrest till yesterday I still took it very easy. Didn't lift anything over 15 pounds, would walk for ten minutes and rest, tried to sleep a lot. And now that I'm considered high risk bc of threatened preterm labor at 22 weeks and am put on bedrest with only bathroom privileges and pelvic rest I kinda wish I would've taken it more easier than I did... I didn't even notice my contractions until they got to 2 minutes apart. I push pain away so less for me to complain about. And usually women notice contractions...
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Im a first time  mom, & i personally don't  have a mo tty her figure  so i dont have a female  to ask questions  to. Im paranoid  because  everyone always talks about what's good and bad to eat. So i apologize  for not  knowing  everything. I exercise  and do house work everyday. Food just scared me! Lol
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I agree, then again I've always been the type to keep hustling no matter what. I remember when my boss found out he applauded me saying he's glas I'm still giving in 100% at my job and not milking my pregnancy to sit around and do nothing.
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Everyone is different I rather be safe than sorry.
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Ughh I thought I was the only one that gets annoyed by this lol... Some people over due it, I see it more and more with new mommies
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I am very serious. Which is why every day of my 7th pregnancy and hopefully first child's prenatal term (yes 7 pregnancies, no babies) is crucial to me. Some little things might not be having much impact on my little one's development, but you better believe I still take it very seriously and act cautiously. I still go to work every day, I still get done what I need to to survive and thrive. But you getter believe I will worry about what I eat, how I workout, and what I am exposed to. A child is a precious gift, and a pregnancy,  a blessing. I refuse to apologize for not taking it lightly.
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Finally somebody said it! My sister in law is 31 weeks (my due date is 2 days away) & all she ever speaks about is how much her back is hurting, how much her legs hurt...she sits in the house all day & makes her husband who works 12 hours a day 6 days a week on night shift, do everything for their 6 year old, & clean everything in the house..she wont even do the dang dishes cuz "her back hurts" ....drives me crazy!
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Amen mummy!
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Also I'm saying that if it were harmful to the individual you'd have been notified by your carer if not then obviously your not at risk but that's about much more high risk issues not the average everyday cough or sneeze, let's be serious. This is why I'm saying some people who think this way need to relax abit and enjoy their pregnancies. I thought i was pretty clear on that obviously not lol
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Where at all does it state anything about being sick in my post. You all are taking it to the extreme I personally have been sick every single day from week 3 I'm now 30+5 and still wake up every morning and throw my guts up until I go back to sleep. That doesn't mean I can't carry out everyday tasks and need to wrap myself in cotton wool from the rest of the world. Re read the post I'm simply saying some woman should relax when it comes to little trivial things and enjoy their pregnancy instead of being so uptight and not having the enjoyment of it. Some of you have twisted my words completely and turned it into a 'sarcastic attack' which is absolutely not what my intent was. I'm saying that it's okay to live your life as normal and not be so worried about every single thing that TO ME is just pure commen sense that these things won't harm you or your baby just like before how they wouldn't harm you in the slightest.
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Agree with you, i was too nauseous up until 13 weeks pregnant and all i wanted to do it layed in bed. but dont worry it will past, till then be a doll and take rest (:
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I think that when you become pregnant there are some precautions you have to take. Things do change and there are many things you can't eat or do but I do agree with you there are some women that take it to far I know that because I know a couple of them and it is so annoying
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Well I have not done much in weeks because I have been too nauseous.  I would love to get up and get things done but I guess I will have to remain a porcelain doll until this passes.
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Different females have different pregnancies. I had to lie in bed for two weeks and was definetly not allowed any excersie. With your comments about laugh, sneeze etc I think you being sarcastic. It's like you trying to say - you can breathe ladies. Just consider the fact that not everyone is the same.
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I think it's the way you said it,  mummy,  not necessarily what you said.

I too have been surprised that people on these boards ask if it's okay if they have a Subway sandwich,  or turkey soup,  or a cup of herbal tea.

I think our information system is just kind of haywire.  Rule of thumb is,  if it's dangerous to eat if you're not pregnant,  it's dangerous to eat if you are pregnant.

That goes for fish containing mercury,  improperly cooked meats,  raw fish,  raw oysters,  etc.  

If it will make you sick when you weren't pregnant,  it will also make you sick when you are pregnant.
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So your telling me that you can't laugh, cough or sneeze or exercise and by me saying that it is perfectly fine to do all those things to relax abit is judging people????
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Well, it does matter what you eat...
And some people take more precautions because of past miscarriages. Don't judge them unless you know the whole story. Some people are a so told to take it easy without being put on bed rest.
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I know a woman like that lol.
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