sex debate??

[misskee09]

me and my ex argue all the time over sex and he is addocted to it. he is not the father of my child but wants to be in me and my babies life. he thinks its ok for me to have sex with him while im preg, but i think its tryfling and disgusting having sex with another mans baby im carrying. what do u think? with out judging...

[Mandatace]

It's a personnel choice, if your comfortable then do it. If your not comfortable doing it then dont do it. It's simple! Your the one who has to deal with your life, and your choices. The only person you have to explain your actions to is you.

[brit333]

Sounds like he is using you just for sex... I wouldnt do it if I were you. And he cant force you to do it either because thats called rape! Even if you consented to it before with him he cant force you to. He may want to be in you and your baby's life but sex buddies isnt the way to do that. He needs to make a better effort at it then that.

[jen_ortiz]

My husbands mb slept around when she was pregnant (the reason they broke up ) to me I don't respect the hoe but I'm civil with her when it comes to my stepsons . I do kno men that have stepped up n have been involved with a women who's pregnant so I been its up to u but thats not something I'd do I'm just sayin. Plus remember he's ur ex for a reason N are u sure he doesn't want to use u for sex ??

[ilovemybebe]

you are right it is nasty to let another man who is not childs father have sex with u while pregnant!! what kind of man does that?? i say leave your ex alone and go on with your life its a reason he is your ex

[Sarah765]

If he is sleeping with other women no way, you could give yourself and your baby something.  Not to mention all the emotional crap that could go with it.  Not to mention it sounds like he just wants sex and every woman deserves more respect then that.  

[GordonBaby]

Well then you have a valid point. If it was a problem relationship before, unless he has changed immensely  , chances are that it will be repeated. In that case, with a negative past, I would stick to your gut and wait it out. Plus being so early in your pregnancy, he may talk a good one now, but what about in another 10 weeks?! Will he be around then?? If he sticks around and seems legit then you have more of a foundation to stand on. My ex has been in contact with me ever since I made my baby's father leave the day he went after me (my ex was the first person I called after I called the police), so he's been involved from 9 weeks until now.

[misskee09]

thanks everybdy im 10weeks today and have not spoken to the childs father since i concieved. i kinda want to but dont trust him he wants the whole shabang oral and all and we didnt have the best relationship he has been with other women and dnt want the extra drama over a nut (excuse my language)

[GordonBaby]

If you two are together then I don't see a problem with having sex with him, especially if your planning on having him around now and after the baby is born. I can see where you think it may be a little wrong, but if you and the baby's father are not together and don't plan on it, then you have to move on at some point. I too am seeing an ex from time to time, baby's father is not in the picture and this man wants nothing more than to be in my sons life, even if we aren't together. We are trying to work it out, and with distance right now, we don't see each other often, but when it comes down to it, we have slept together. I'm 29w4d but have not been with my sons father (in a relationship) since December, and wasn't with him sexually since I conceived. I say if you guys are happy then go for it.

[MrsCookii]

I know how you feel I was like that with my first pregnancy for the first couple of months but after I realized how much he does care and he is like the baby daddy anyways I then got use to it... So its all a mind thing but if you dont see yourself being with that person then I understand why you dont want to... How far along are you?

[bri1210]

I wouldnt do it. To me it just wouldn't be right. It's up to you but you can't let him force you. I don't get why guys want you to do it if you don't want to anyway. That's weird.

[Ashdub07]

If you're not together I wouldn't do it. If you are together I don't think it's that gross. Lots of women get pregnant then end up meeting the man of their dreams. My uncle met his wife when she was pregnant and they got married before the baby was born and his name is on the birth certificate even tho it's not his blood child, that's still his son. Idk. It's up to you

[mamaof4410]

I would feel dirty but that's me.