sex during pregnancy ???

[llny1224]

Okay, so i dont,know who to talk to about this since i really dont want to ask friends or mom,but it normal to feel upset if your spouse no longer wants to have sex with you? I noticed months ago he wasnt interested anymore finally he said it to me last night. He said,it makes him feel funny cause the baby. I have had,conversations with him before letting him know my ob approves as,due many other,medical documents/articles etc. I guess,its,more upsetting to me cause it makes me not feel wanted and i lost all of me during this pregnancy. My nody doesn't look like mine and im constantly depressed. I only have 10 more days until my due date and i was hoping to have sex to speed up delivery lol and before i cant for a while again
...help please . should the way i feel  be okay ?

[QueenB_82]

Maybe you could tell him you want to speed up delivery. Its actually the sperm that is meant to bring in the labour so maybe offer him a compramise of you giving him oral or hand or something but ask him to finish inside you. Apparently orgasms can help with bringing on labour too so maybe speak to him about extended foreplay or helping you out. If not you could go at it alone. Nipple stimulation is something else you can try too.

Its definitely ok to feel down about him not wanting sex with you but alot of women dont stop and think of how pregnancy effects the male either.
Unfortunately for me my partner wants it everyday still and im 24 weeks.

[llny1224]

Thank you ladies;) it feels,good,on owing your not alone in these situations

[manukes4]

At 31 weeks we stopped because it was unbearable. But I started feeling unwanted and like I wasn't attractive either. Walking around in pajamas all day didn't help either. Saturday I went to get a facial and pedicure, did a nice updo, a little makeup. It made me feel sexy and secure even with my bump. I jumped on top of him playing like at first and realized that wasn't going to work. So I turned away from him and started rocking on top of him backwards.  Bingo!  He didn't want me to stop and it didn't hurt as long he he was submissive and let me move at my speed and comfort level.

[Dametrice]

My husband said this when i wanted him to have sex while i lay on my back because i liked that position. But in return, we have to do sideways because he is so afraid  of hurting the baby, especially because our son make his presence known lol. He will kick when her is uncomfortable. I had to let him know, i still want attention so i began squeezing back into sexy bedtime clothing that didn't hurt my tummy and he got the idea

[lkaykirk]

It's just a guy thing. I over heard my husband talking to some friends from work (who are all married and have kids) and they all said the same thing... it's werid, it's creepy, I don't want to hurt the baby.

So I haven't pushed the issue any further.

[shaymich2015]

My husband told me I'm too skinny for him. Since I've lost 30 pounds with this pregnancy. We have sex maybe once a month. It's to the point so hurtful I don't even want him touching me bc I call ******** on everything. Before pregnancy I was too chubby and now I'm too skinny. 120 is too chubby for him and 93 is too skinny for him. I have happened to fall out of love with my husband through this pregnancy and I'm scared I will never get the love that I felt for him back. But then again my friends and family have been better to me through this pregnancy. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope it gets better for you after you have your baby! Good luck.

[joamb]

Yes it is absolutely normal to feel upset! I mean you want to feel loved and  beautiful! Some men really are selfish and cannot get over their insecurities that their penis is close to the baby. Really there is a lot between them and the baby but they don't realize. My husband and I have hardly had sex since I've been pregnant and it's devastating to a woman's self esteem and it is normal to feel upset. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do just think it's almost over and hopefully you will be back at it soon.