Feeling under appreciated at times.

[B1128]

I feel like my boyfriend just doesn't get it! I've had a fairly easy pregnancy with really no symptoms, but when I do feel things he acts like I am faking or it doesn't matter. I wish at times that I did have all the symptoms of pregnancy because then I would at least be treated and cared for as if I were pregnant. He doesn't help me around the house at all, he works but has multiple days off, and when he is home God for bid I ask him to do the dishes. I just get a huge lecture. I do have bad back aches and he doesn't help me at all. We have a futon that we use as a couch and it is falling apart and kills my body! And I don't know wtf we are going to do, I am only getting bigger and my back is and will only get worse. He is careless when he makes any type of mess, heavens for bid he ever cleans up after himself. Ever!

I just want a little help, is that too much to ask? o.O

[Luckygirl23]

I understand you.. because i dont have noo symptoms either and my boyfriend is good for nothing im 12 weeks and sometimes i feel like i want to slap him

[marijana19]

**I have the exact same situation. My husband comes from a family where his mom and stepdad both work, but the mom still has to do everything around the house because its considered as a "women's job" to clean, cook etc. I cook everyday and clean everything, and it seems like the more i clean the more mess he makes! So frustrating! And when i'd ask him to at least put the dishes he used in the sink, he's like well i forgot, sorry... he does it some times, but thats only if i'm watching, if i'm not home, i'll come back to a disaster in the apartment... his excuse is that he's working and i'm not, so i can clean and do all the chores... well even though he's working, that doesnt make his maid.. i'm pregnant andthats why i'm not working, if i wanted to work i'd get a job -.-" the biggest problem is that when it came up in a conversation in front of his mom how messy he is, she got all protective of him, like, well he's working, you're home and you're the woman blah blah... ughh it frustrates me!

[marijana19]

I have the exact same situation. My husband comes from a family where his mom and stepdad both work, but the mom still has to do everything around the house because its considered as a "women's job" to clean, cook etc. I cook everyday and clean everything, and it seems like the more i clean the more mess he makes! So frustrating! And when i'd ask him to at least put the dishes he used in the sink, he's like well i forgot, sorry... he does it some times, but thats only if i'm watching, if i'm not home, i'll come back to a disaster in the apartment... his excuse is that he's working and i'm not, so i can clean and do all the chores... well even though he's working, that doesnt make his maid.. i'm pregnant andthas

[B1128]

I am just so stressed and tired of it! Not only did he grow up with a mother in the kitchen type mom, he just doesn't ever pick up anything -normal for men I know, but his mom made it ten times worse on someone whose with him. I do not want that life, and I am finding myself terrified of having that life when our daughter is born. I know before I was pregnant and working there was always a reason he never did anything on his days off, or when he wasn't working but always a reason for me to come home off work and clean everything! I don't want to be that woman. Thinking about it stresses me out to the max!

He does something messy, I clean it up right behind him and he looks at me all wtf and I say "cause I just LOVE cleaning up behind you EVERY DAY!" And he always says something about working. Well this was tonight, and it is his forth day off in a row and tomorrow he will be off also. I'm freakin tired of it! He asked me to go out in the rain and get something he left out there and I said "you better start learning how to pick up after yourself before the baby is here because sh!t will start falling apart because I am not going to do it all as you have me do now around here." And he says "yeah you better" just fkn around but still wtf -_-

[marijana19]

I'm in the same boat! They will never understand.

[wiggles2015]

Hun. Men wiLL never understand because they don't go through it. I'm not saying it's right but I'm going through the sane thing. My husband just doesn't get that my body is changing and my hormones are changing as well. I try to talk to him about it but he still doesn't understand. I was surprise when he good me he wanted us to do a co-ed baby shower. That was one amazing thing I heard come out if his mouth. try to get him to participate. And no he still won't understand but it's okay don't let it get to ya. Hun me. Never get anything. Men are children as it is.

[Sass508]

When the baby is born make sure your bf splits some of the tasks with you, Like prepping bottles or something. Discuss it now so he knows certain things will be his job. Or maybe tell him for 3 out of 24 hours, you need baby-free time.

If you wait until it's too late, he will never understand the responsibility of caring for a child. Make sure you don't get stuck doing 100% of responsibilies

[B1128]

I really really hope so. It is a concern of mine that it won't change. I'll be damned if Im doing everything still and he is not helping. It is just us here, our family all lives in Florida and I will have no one but for the first week if that to help me. I'm worried and it stresses me out that he doesn't help me around the house. It's all little stuff, it is just us so it's not like I ask him to do these big huge things all the time. I asked him if he could do the dishes for me yesterday because my back and feet were killing me and I just got a big lecture after he has been off for four days. It's just ridiculous. I hate how easy it all seems to be to him because it hasn't been a "typical" pregnancy.

[crystallively]

Trust me. Having all the symptoms in the world won't help.
I've been in preterm twice. I'm constantly hurting.
Some guys just don't really get it.
It'll be different once baby gets here.