Advice please...My MOTHER is driving me crazy!

[ElderBaby]

Bottom line my mother is bossy, demanding and very critical.

Everything from what SHE is naming the baby to being the only person for my c-section and kicking out my hubby.  she wants me to purchase certain things she wants me to do certain things with my home.   Although my mother is very supportive in her own way she doesn't know how to take no for an answer.

I love her and don't want to hurt her feelings so the only thing I have Really said is that the father and mother that we will make the decisions and that it is our baby.

Yesterday it turned into an argument and I told her she wasn't listening and I asked her to leave she was very upset.

Both of my parents are older and they are in poor health.  This baby is in an unexpected blessing and my mom is really excited. I do not want to destroy her joy and happiness but I need to know what to do because she has me so stressed out.

Please help, ANY advice?  Does anyone else have an overbearing mother?

[MommyToBe42015]

My mom is that way. And my boyfriend's step mother is too. The thing is with my mom even though her back is in bad shape and her knees and my grandmother who is that way as well and her failing health I put my foot down and said I'm the mother I'm going to decide what's best for my child and when I ask for help then she may state her opinion otherwise sit back and shut up

[Aarahbellah]

My mom is like this i had to sit her down amd explain that im happy sje os excited for her first grandson (my soster has 3 gorls) i explaned that she can do things for the baby but i will decide what babus name and what to do woth the house she aggred and now is calm but happy still brings stiff over for baby but now asks what we need or if its ok for her to get it for baby

[traciv]

I understand you want to please you mother but she seems to be destroying your joy and happiness.  You need to remind her that she had her chance to name her babies and do things her way and now it is your turn.

[Taili2010]

My mom Is The Same way! She's very stressful. It doesnt help that this is my second child and with my first baby i lived with her, was only 16 , so she did have a lot of help to give me and it was great . But ive always been a mom to my child i wasnt one of those teens who end up getting pregnant and leaving grandma to raise baby or anything like that. BUt since she was grandma and had access to baby 24/7 she swears my daughter is her daughter and that she "raised" her. Thankfully my daughter (4) knows who mommy is and who grandma is but my mom tries to sway it all the time. If im around her and my daughter calls me she says what like as if she is her mom. It drives me crazy. Also she thinks that when my baby Is born I am gonna go Stay At her House For a week. She's nuts. I live with my fiance daughter and dad and I LOVE IT. Plus The baby has her room and All her stuff here. My mom Is gonna be super disappointed But She's gotta understand I'm an adult now. I can handle It. Lol. I know It's hard But u have to put Ur foot down explain nicely That you need to be able to be a MOM to Ur baby

[baby_aden15]

I still live with my parents though I'm only 17 but my mom has been supportive but she's very rude and annyoing to me anymore and trys telling me I can't move out once I turn 18 and she tells me how I should raise my son when he's here and says she's always going to have him witch she's not and I can't take it

[Moluko]

My mom is that way. And at first it is hard. But I learned to let things go.

I realized she is just excited about the baby. And everything she nags me about, even though it's annoying, stressful, and sometimes down right hurtful... she's coming from a place where she is just trying to help. (Obviously my mom and I have issues. LOL!)

In the end, I let her have her way with certain things...especially if I don't feel strongly about them. And just figured that as long as it doesn't harm the baby in anyway, it's fine. Besides, she raised me and I'm OK.

My girl is almost 2 years old now. And I'm really thankful of all the help my mom gave me over the last two years. She even watched my girl 5 days a week when I went back to work. My girl also loves her grandma.

It'm not going to lie. It was hard at first. We would fight and I would end up feeling guilty and cry all night. That is until I realized how much my mom loved my girl. This might be her chance to enjoy a baby again and not repeat the same parenting mistakes she did with me. After I stopped fighting my mom, we actually got closer.

Hope this helps. Good luck!