visitation rights?

[lizsaulnier]

Im due in feb. My baby dad and me arent together he recently asked me about visits to the our baby. But he thinks hes gonna come to my house and pick the baby up bc he has a new gf now. I dont want that happening till shes older. Am i right or wrong?

[knufrio]

I personally believe that he helped make the baby, so he/she is just as much his as they are yours and he has every right to have the same amount of time with his child.

[marijana19]

i would definitely not allow anyone to take away my baby as long as i breastfed. My uncle was in the same situation and he couldnt take the kid on his own until he was 3 years old. He was only allowed to come and visit for a few hours twice a week. That was what the court decided.

[Robotj9]

If he is respectful of your home, I would definitely allow him to come visit his baby on a regular basis, without the new girlfriend. If he truly wants to see his child, he will do whatever it takes and be respectful of you and your home. The breast pump comment from him is out of line- at least the way you made it sound like he said it. I hope you can both be amicable for the sake of the child. Congratulations on your forthcoming new addition! :) (I'm also due in Feb!)

[pourmycoffee]

Just to let you know. Until there is a legal order in place any visits you agree to are under your terms.

[Brandi0992]

Also I was told if u don't put his name on the birth certificate, he will have tho pay for the DNA test tho prove he's the daddy before he can go to court for visitation.

[lizsaulnier]

@nonishy thank you soo much. Yeah i spoke to a lawyer already he said if it goes to court hell end up losing.

[nonishy]

National alliance for breastfeeding advocacy,  and La Leche League.  

[nonishy]

Judges and Lawyers know that women have the right to strickly breastfeed, no bottles, no pump, just strickly natural. Baby to the breast. So he won't be able to win that one. There is also a non profit breastfeeding group that believes this and that this is women's right, and they firm supporters and believers of the natural way. I'll try to find the name of this group and you can read up on it, and get a little more educated on it, and it'll help you with what to say and how to think about this. And they have had many cases and have won numerous times.

[mfayb]

Just don't allow it. He can take you to court. I would however allow him yo visit the baby in my home with me there. But only if he is respectful. The first few months baby needs mommy 100% of the time.

[lizsaulnier]

I said i was breastfeeding he said theres spmething called a pump. And he deff dont have money for court so i guess only time will tell.

[lizsaulnier]

Exactly. If i went to court i heard the judge wouldnt allow him to pick her up till shes older. Exspecially cause im breast feeding

[nonishy]

I think you are right. But that's my opinion. I think you should do what's best for you and the baby. And if anything let him take you to court. That way he will have to pay for a lawyer and most likely he won't do that. Unless he has the money. And it can get pretty pricey.
On top of that you can always talk to him and ask him how he would feel about it if it was the other way around and you had a boyfriend.  
Plus you can tell him you plan on breastfeeding and that will take a few months before the baby goes to a bottle so you can't be separated from the baby because you are strickly breastfeeding.  If he wants to see the baby he can come over to the house. But not be able to take the baby,  because your breastfeeding.  
Some women breastfeed up to a year. So that excuse right there should give you plenty of time. Plus him and his new gf might not even last that long.

[AhmadMommy]

I would wait till she is a little older cause baby really needs mommy right now. An to make sure baby is taking care of properly. I would just wait hun