what would you do?

[MommaBear72214]

well my babies grandfather (his dad's dad) is in prison for the rest of his life for murdering someone...and his dad (my babies father) is pretty messed up about it so I'm trying to think if I should tell my son once he's older or if I should wait for him to ask and if he does ask should I tell him the truth...I don't want my son to be messed up by it too...it's not like he'll ever meet him but if he would happen to look up his father's name on the damn internet one day(my son's getting my last name) he may stumble across it....there was a tv show about it any everything it was a big case I guess...idk I just feel weird telling my son his grandfather's in jail for life for murdering someone...what would you ladies do? and do you think maybe I'm over thinking this?

[pregoX3]

I didn't tell my 2 kids about my birth father because he's a deadbeat and will never meet my children. Recently my 8yr old asked if I have a "real" dad (they know my step dad as pappy). I was honest without details. As they get older and want to know more I won't keep it from them, but what they hear will be based on their maturity level....relax, you have plenty of time. Nothing to concern yourself with now :)

[MommaBear72214]

I don't think he'll be a kid when he asks I think he'll be older if he does ask I know once I got older I started asking about my family I actually would love to go on ancestry.com and find out more lol

[MommaBear72214]

he's not even born yet lol I just saw the episode on tv about it today and was thinking about it....I wouldn't tell him until he was way older I'm just curious if I should wait for him to ask about him or tell him....I'll probably wait for him to ask though...thanks for the comments :)

[rebeccaann11]

I agree with raven. My sister is a lesbian. Her wife and her have a daugther. My niece doesnt have a dad. She doesnt ask why. Its actually funny my other sisters daugther told us she was two mommies like her cousin bliss.

[ravenamaru]

My Parents Are Lesbians, He Doesn't Ask Where His Missing Grandfather Is. Kids Are Lovely, They Are Born Without Ideas On What A Family Should Be And They Are So Accepting And Loving Of What They Have!, ID Wait Until Much Older, Like College. If Your Child Never Knows Him, He Won't Miss Him.

[rebeccaann11]

My sisters husbands dad is in prison for murder as well. He is upset about it. But they dont plan on bringinf him up to my newphew unless he ask. I think they are just going to say he did some bad things and went away. But also ago matters in this. I wouldnt say anything unless he ask. He probably shouldnt know the details.

[csaylor23]

I think that would be a discussion for when the baby is much older. The babysfather should be the one to explain and answer questions as well as you being there as a support system for both.