Please help :(

[hannahw1991]

I found out my fiance was cheating 3 months ago I'm 8 months pregnant n since then decided to forgive him n make it work for the baby just today I found out he hasn't stopped doing what he was doing and when I called him to ask about it he told me I was a psycho if he wanted to text or call people he will do as he pleases,I then called the girl who he was cheating with told her I was due a baby in 5 weeks and engaged and why she was still doing this n she told me she doesn't have to answer to me n hung up. When i spoke to my fiance again he again called me crazy for calling the girl and she's right she can do what she wants .so basically I think he's just told her I'm a crazy liar n if I ever call her to say that...I'm too embarrassed to tell my friends and family so one knows and immediately actually starting to resent my baby because I know a piece of him is inside me ...sorry for it being so long just please if anyone has been in my shoes how did it turn out?? Will I be ok??

[MommaEnough4_3]

Resenting baby is the wrong move. You picked him not baby! Personally I think taking him back for the sake of the baby was also a wrong move. If you were going to take him back, it should have been because you love him and want to be with him rather there's a baby or not. My oldest daughters father was the same kind of POS. He cheated my entire pregnancy and when he realized he had a good thing, I was already done being hurt. The first rule to having a baby....always remember that a baby will not keep a guy for you. I found peace before my daughter was 3 months old. When she was 3 I was blessed with an amazing guy who wanted to love me and her...and have a life and family with us. Right now its hard to comprehend, the screw him mentality but from the sounds of the responses he is giving and his actions, you should focus on the baby and yourself! SCREW HIM! I sure hope you keep your head up and realize that you are carrying the best he had to offer you!

[alexandrajoy13]

Your due in 5 weeks and can have this baby in 2 weeks at anytime! You don't need this stress more than anything! I think you should tell your mom so you can have her support and leave him alone until he realizes he has a family and grows up. Its not fair to your child to have a father who mistreats his mother. Your childs gonna look up to you and you don't want your child to see you unhappy or fighting you know. Just remember if mommas doing good baby will be hood :)

[SweetHart22]

Being a single mom is hard and having my family and friends support helps me like crazy. What i try to remember is that my children look up to me and never want them to think its okay for a man to treat a woman the way he was treating me. Lead by example. You don't know what true love is until you become a mother that baby will give you so much strength you never knew you had

[SweetHart22]

Sweetie ive been going through this for the last 3-4 year's. Ive let my heart be drug around in a viscous cycle of replay. If he wants to be in his kids life then he will. Dont go after him. He knows when your due he will come to you if he cares about his kid. Me and my children's father get along for the most part now. We make it about our children but i had to let him know he could only come around if he 1. Supports them financially. 2. Has to be consistently In or out of their lives. And 3. He must show me respect because i am his children's mother and i him. It took awhile but now we are able to co parent togethet peacefully but that is only because he wants to be there. There was a seven month period where we never spoke and he didnt even ask about his daughter.

[kkhh24]

I have been in your situation too. My daughter was 11 weeks old when be cheated and I took him back and had another child with him, I then started to resent him, hate him and lose all my confidence....I left him 3 years ago after 10 painful years of his bullsh×t...and have since met a lovely man and we are expecting a baby together....I didnt realise how unhappy my ex made me until I met my man now. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Tell your friends and family as u need support, you have nothing to be ashamed about....he has though. Chin up, once baby comes nothing else will matter

[laur23]

I know you don't wanna stress your Mom out but you should tell her if you know she will be there for you. Don't make your self feel alone. I honestly would leave him.  He's obviously sticking up for this other woman because he's still seeing her. you can do this,  I know it's hard but your just gonna be miserable w him anyways always wondering what hes doing every time he leaves or is even simply on his phone.

[jellybelly105]

You need to tell someone.. family, friends, someone you can count on to be there for you. Sounds like you're in a very hard situation, don't feel like you have to go through it on your own. Reach out.

[babymoe15]

I'd say leave him. Do you want your baby to look up to a guy that treats his/her mom that way. They will grow up thinking that situation is how relationships work.

[hannahw1991]

Thank you guys it's nice to know I'm not alone yea well the last I spoke to him was asking him to change details on a bill I pay for him and he was on his way "out" told me to leave him alone obviously going to see this other girl since she was probably upset I spoke to her lol...I've told him Im done n don't want him near me and he hasn't replied anyway I'm due this baby In 5 weeks and don't know if I have the strength to tell my mum what's happened as she has enough stress and i  know it will kill her to know there's nothing she can do to make me feel better...I won't speak to him at all but any advice on closer to the birth should I try discuss what happens I don't want my son to hate me as if I never gave him the opportunity for his dad to be there or do you think it's just best I don't contact him at all? Until I'm in labour only thing is he's in a different country for work..sorry for all the questions guys it's just lovely to have non judgemental comments

[Miszydd]

I'm sorry to hear this!!!! You nd to get lookout of the relationship! Asap. Your going to be just fine! The hard part is letting go... Try your best not to resent the baby, that baby is going to show you a type of love you will never have!!! Or have ever felt. People come and go in life... So let him go his own way. It will bit him in the butt later but you need to start thinking of the baby! And what's best for baby. I say
leave your dude and be happy. Good luck  hon.

[Emik1]

Am very sorry to hear that, and I know how that feels, but You have to remember one thing in your life! People will always cheat on each other no matter if its physical,minded,pictures,videosthousends of ways. All we do behind our loved ones we DO IT IN FRONT OF ALMIGHTY GOD the only one we can trust is God! We were born in sins and do to Jesus Christ died for our sins we NOW have forgivness and can live FREELY!!!

[emerys_mom]

I'm kinda in the same situation my baby's father cheated and I forgave him but now I have a gut feeling he is still doing it, I haven't decided if I want to stay with him or not but I just can't trust him after he cheated because I just can't be with someone who I feel like I have to watch 24/7 .The way it sounds is like he has no respect for you! When u confronted him he got mad instead of trying to comfort you I think you should go without talking to him for awhile,don't answer his calls and give him a wake up call maybe he will step up

[rhysmomma]

I have been in your shoes. My son is now 7 yrs old and his father and I have not been together since he was 1.5. But for that long I put my all into a relationship that I was getting cheated on the whole time thinking it was what was best for my son for us to be together. That was very wrong. My advice is to get out now before the baby is born. I am a true believer in once a cheater always a cheater and your baby deserves to be happy and being with two people who aren't happy will show through one way or another. For your baby's sake you shouldn't stay. It is scary but I'm sure like I was you Andre stronger than you think. I am sorry you're going through this. I hope it all works out for you.