how to tell my uncle

[newmommy102414]

while my dad died when I was 7 my moms been on drugs all my life she got me back for about a year did something bad and had to move to Arizona where I live in my grandparents again when I was about 16 or 17 and went back with my mom and when I turned 18 I met my now husband got pregnant two months after we met I had my daughter right before I turned 19 and now I'm living with my grandmother because I'm not her caregiver I do not get paid for it i buy the food I pay no rent my cousin also lives with us she pays no rent but buy the stuff that we need my uncle he just like my dad he's always been there for me whenever I needed anything he's very strict and he's a Christian and I don't know how to tell him I'm pregnant with my second child when my husband doesn't really have a good reliable job that he's a felon so is there any advice that anybody could give me on how to tell him?

[anwhatin1]

A baby is a happy surprise even if it isn't planned. My dad is military and I got pregnant at 15 I ran away never went back. Me and my boyfriend broke up which didn't help. It hurt him and he disowned me for 2 yrs but I called and called and he came back. I then got back with my ex 9 yrs later and we got pregnant within months. I had to tell my dad which was again very hard bc he wasn't happy he was back. I told him that he was the love of my life and that U am happy about him being back and that we r being given a second chance at a family. My dad wasn't too happy but he accepted it better this time. Then I got pregnant 4 yrs later after we decided not to have anymore. This was a surprise baby and I stressed out again telling my dad so this time I went to visit and just said I have to get this of my chest right away and told him. He was surprised but he said it is your life and if u r happy then we r. He seems to be more excited about this baby and is asking how my pregnancy is going etc. He has never done that before or even been to any of my births.
So long story short just tell him from the bottom of your heart. If u love your husband and u r happy and excited TELL HIM THAT. If u r scared and worried then tell him that. Keeping this in isn't helping u and running or hiding from it doesn't help. Once your baby comes he will come around and it truly only matters how u feel and hopefully your husband gets he **** together I mean this in the best way trust me my husband doesn't have the best past but I keep him in line and he works hard to improve himself. He is a great dad no matter his past.
TELL HIM DON'T WAIT AND BE HONEST WITH HOW U FEEL. HAVE A MOMENT OR A CONVERSATION IT WORKS ITSELF OUT.
GOD LUCK

[newmommy102414]

Thank you guys so much you guys made me feel so much better I started to cry you guys are awesome

[BinaBops]

I agree with Neisha, don't hang around to tell your family. There is often upset in family's because a baby is a massive change to people's lives, sometimes people worry about their financial stability, being a single mom, raising a kid in am environment that they dreamed would be different, but you know what? You don't need a mountain of money to raise a kid. Plenty of single moms do a fantastic job of raising their child. Felons (as you put it) can turn their life around and teach their children right from wrong, so that they don't take the same path as their parent. My point is this, don't worry about the past, focus on the future. By the sounds of things your uncle is a remarkable man for stepping in to your father shoes when he otherwise didn't have to do so; he did so out of love. Be upfront with him, he may be shocked and upset at first, but only because he looks at you as a daughter. He will come around and when he does, he will realise that another new chapter in both your lives is about to get a whole lot more exciting

[neisha__]

First off congratulations! Don't be afraid, and don't wait too late. Somehow they can always find out without you telling. Just explain it to him, surely he might not take it well. Although he will eventually will get over it. I'm 18, & 6 months pregnant first time mom.I just graduated highschool I was scared out my mind to tell my mother but come to find out she already knew. It will hurt you more trying to keep it a secret. I hope all is well!