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Me and my childs father are no longer together but I conceived our child when we were a couple. At the time I was working a good job making good money and could support myself financially. Not long after we broke up I could no longer do my job because it was to much strain on me and I was very sick(morning sickness) at the time. I had to move into an apartment and get a different job which barely pay the bills. Now I need help with different things as far as paying for a baby shower and essentials for the baby. He doesn't want to help and everyone mostly guys I talk to say he why should he seeing as the baby is not here yet. What should I do should about getting help from him?
I feel like he should help u with the necessary things a baby needs. But the baby shower he is not on the hook for that..A good guy would help along with his family but not everyone has a good heart. But definitely u deserve help with the things yr baby will need. Good luck with everything.
Thanks everyone this info was very helpful
I have saved receipts from almost all of my purchases for the baby. I plan to bring them to show a judge when I have a hearing after I file for child support. I'm going to request that he reimburses me for half of the total cost plus ongoing monthly support.
There are resources available for baby essentials. Some times you can find local resources online or you could try calling the hospital and ask if they have a social worker who can give you info on how to find resources. Since he is not willing to help prepare for the baby, you can still get things you need for the first few weeks, then sue him for child support after the baby is born.
There are resources available for baby essentials. Some times you can find local resources online or you could try calling the hospital and ask if they have a social worker who can give you info on how to find resources. Since he is not willing to help prepare for the baby, you can still get things you need for the first few weeks, then sue him for child support after the baby is born.
You don't have any parents or siblings to throw you a shower? It really doesn't cost much if anything, a few snacks for fuests, some decorations and DIY games and your done. Even for yourself to do, it's a celebration, you don't need to spend much. If you planned on,a baby shower you must have family and friends looking to come or help out? It's pretty shifty of him to refuse to help get things for baby. Keep proof if possible of anything you get for baby, maybe you can ask for 50% of the cost once child support starts. Like some pp have said, baby doesn't care what they have as long as it's clean,and safe. In a lot of European countries babies sliterally sleep in a box, it's actually considered very safe. They only need a few outfits, I've bought some incredibly cute things at goodwill or consignment stores for as little as 99 cents. Babies NEED very little, a car seat (if u have a car), a stroller, clothes and a safe place to sleep. Oh and diapers! Lol. Lots of those.
I'm so sorry you're going through this alone. :(
The thing to remember is, the baby doesn't care - at all - if it's in top dollar nursery furnishings and a $1200 stroller and beautiful name-brand clothing. Newborns have been placed in dresser drawers that were pulled out from the dresser and placed on the floor, with a firm pad inside. And dressed in second-hand t-shirts.
As your baby grows older, that's when you will need to spend money on him/her. Older children are expensive, babies aren't.
Do you see yourself going back to your original well-paying job in the near future?
The thing to remember is, the baby doesn't care - at all - if it's in top dollar nursery furnishings and a $1200 stroller and beautiful name-brand clothing. Newborns have been placed in dresser drawers that were pulled out from the dresser and placed on the floor, with a firm pad inside. And dressed in second-hand t-shirts.
As your baby grows older, that's when you will need to spend money on him/her. Older children are expensive, babies aren't.
Do you see yourself going back to your original well-paying job in the near future?
Some insurance companies cover car seats and breast pumps. You should also apply to WIC for food stamps and/or nutrients for the baby. Apply for housing too and see where you are at. There are a lot of options out there for single moms, but not much education about it. You can always message me if you need to chat. Good luck
I think it's messed up he isn't helping you with getting the essentials for the baby. I'd say try talking to him about it since it's his child to but I don't know how well that would work. You could find yard sales on fb or even look on Craigslist a lot of people would be willing to donate items. It's worth a shot!
No help. I am a first time mom and I wanted my child to have the best seeing as we both had good jobs. I just don't see why the baby has to suffer because he is being a ****. But like I said I can't afford any of the essentials on my budget. $100 crib means I'm short on rent or my car payment so it's kinda hard on me now and I'm right at 8 months pregnant.
It sounds like you need to sue him for child support once the baby is born.
But I don't think he should be "on the hook" for anything like a social luxury like a baby shower, or professional maternity photos, etc.
Here's something that few moms have the experience to understand: babies cost almost nothing. A nice crib with a mattress is about $100 on Craigs List. After that, you'll need a car seat, and a stroller (it doesn't have to be a "travel system". it can be a car seat, and a stroller). That's about $100.
About 10 outfits, 10 receiving blankets, sheets for the crib, diapers, a plastic, and if you plan to breastfeed for the first few months, that's about it.
Do you have anyone who will help you - friends or family?
But I don't think he should be "on the hook" for anything like a social luxury like a baby shower, or professional maternity photos, etc.
Here's something that few moms have the experience to understand: babies cost almost nothing. A nice crib with a mattress is about $100 on Craigs List. After that, you'll need a car seat, and a stroller (it doesn't have to be a "travel system". it can be a car seat, and a stroller). That's about $100.
About 10 outfits, 10 receiving blankets, sheets for the crib, diapers, a plastic, and if you plan to breastfeed for the first few months, that's about it.
Do you have anyone who will help you - friends or family?
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